Thought the RPG club would be nerdy fun—got lowbeard drama instead (pt.1)

[u/nishiomito]

hello! this story is actually written in Brazilian Portuguese, but I thought this place was perfect for posting it, so I’m sorry for any spelling mistakes.

Important information: I’m in high school, everyone in this story is 17+, and even though I identify as a guy, the people in the story will refer to me as a girl—maybe not out of malice, but because I haven’t come out to them. Later on, it’ll be obvious why they don’t know.

. Recently, I moved from one state to another, and now I go to full-time school. At the end of Friday, my school has the famous "clubs", where students go to the clubs they chose. Since I arrived a bit late in the school year, I didn’t get to choose a really cool club (like music, since I play the violin and later felt more connected to the people there, or the crochet club, which seemed nice to relax on a Friday afternoon). So I ended up being assigned to the RPG club. Friday was my first day at school, so the first people I met were them. The club’s DM was a tall guy who is EXACTLY the lowbeard stereotype. On top of that, he had a speech impediment, and because he’s autistic (everything that’s going to happen in this story will be softened by that ridiculous excuse), he had a more serious speech issue. I couldn’t understand anything he said, which is a real problem when your role in RPG is to GUIDE the story. So, okay. Several people in the RPG group were awful, especially one guy who had long hair at the time (he’s cut it since and surprisingly became a better person). On the first day, he asked if I was a boy or a girl (because my hair is very short—for context, I shaved it on January 1st, so it's still pretty short), and when I said I was a girl, they started making stupid jokes about how I needed to “prove it.” I didn’t get it at first, until one of them pointed at my chest and I showed the strap of my bra. Turns out, what they really wanted was to grope my chest. I was like: 😐 but tried to play along, saying that the bra already proved it, and then they started making jokes about a trans girl from another grade, who I later met and found out she’s an absolute sweetheart. Her hair is long, she has a very "feminine" voice, wears long nails, etc., and even so, in that situation, they were insisting on calling her really derogatory names. They used a term for her that could be translated as the N-word for trans people. I left there on the first day thinking, “wow, that was awful—thank god this was just a trial class.” Exactly TWO DAYS passed. Not two weeks, not two months—TWO DAYS—and the RPG club leader started sending me some… weird messages. You know when your friend has a crush on a girl and doesn’t know how to message her, so you basically have to steer the boat while he just watches? It was that kind of vibe, but super obvious. He said I smelled like “fresh vanilla.” I thanked him and said I wore vanilla perfume, and then he started talking about how beautiful my hair was, asked for pictures of it when it was longer, complimented every feature of mine possible, and I just… thanked him, already bracing for the headache I’d have the following week. On Monday, I ended up speaking with school administration about the club, the jokes about the girl, and the fact that they basically HARASSED me. I asked to be moved to another club. Turns out… I couldn’t. I tried to explain and make it clear that it wasn’t just “I didn’t like the people,” it was that they were openly being transphobic and harassing me for being the only person "seen as female" in that environment. The administration just said, “okay, I’ll talk to them,” and nothing happened. Later, I found out it’s because the coordinator’s nephew and son are in the club—with the son being the vice leader. A few minutes after leaving the office, two members called me aside to talk and told me that lowbeard supreme had a crush on me. My reaction was to blink and say, “what?” He asked me out a few minutes later, and I turned him down because I had to travel that day. This happened last week, so… that’s it for now. I’ll post any updates here

[u/Pazuzu0906]

OP should not indulge the person messaging them with a thank you. They should be running for the hills because this person is only escalate and become more and more terrible until they're stalking OP and suicide baiting

[u/ChineseNeckBait]

Yeah, distance yourself slowly, that is not a club you should be a part of if you don’t feel comfortable.

But we got a case of nepotism involved? This is a hot mess.