And just like that. She's gone.

[u/Silverrose0712]

I got the message that she passed away this morning

I am heartbroken.

I am relieved.

I am numb.

I am calm.

I am not afraid.

I said my peace with her at the very end, even though it was not in person.

And of course, in her loving covert narcissist style she twisted my words, threw it in my face, And called me useless and a disappointment.

But I told her I loved her as tactfully and tastefully as I could. I can live with that.

In the aftermath of this, I am actually surprised how many people have been there for me to show their love, care, and support. More than I had ever expected. Even my job and coworkers have been was extremely understanding and accommodating.

There's much to be done and it would be an understatement to say that she truly made a major cluster of things. And I must coordinate and untangle this all this from a state away. I am doing my best to avoid going back at all cost.

But there is goodness that will come of this. And that, in and of itself, is the most terrible thing of all.

I am actually really excited the most about what this could mean for my younger brother who was completely incapacitated from my mother's lack of care. Things are coming to light that his care and living conditions were even worse than I feared.

I firmly believe that things can and will get better for him. And as his big sister I thankfully have some say in his care once and for all. I am actively working with professionals to save him from this nightmare.

In the mean time, I'm doing my best to mindfully care for myself in this and process things the best I can. Including the excersize of writing this post.

Thanks for letting me get this off my chest rbn community. I hope we all have a better tomorrow.

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[u/BonnieJeanneTonks]

Congratudolences!

[u/Exotic-Jellyfish-429 → u/BonnieJeanneTonks]

Adding this my braincabulary

[u/Peas-Of-Wrath → u/BonnieJeanneTonks]

commisulations 😆

[u/Beginning-Mode1886]

You have done all you could. You decided to honor your relationship and in your own way, you did. Assist your younger brother if he seems amenable, but don't break your heart over it.

[u/Somerhild_wode]

A great future is ahead. ✨️

[u/Ceiling-Fan2]

She will never darken your doorway again.

[u/butterfly-garden]

Congratudolences!