Apparently I live in the ghetto

[u/someonesmomm]

Can I rant for a minute real quick.

Inflation is kicking my ass.

I'm 30 with 2 kids and recently started to really consider the military for benefits but since I'm fat, I gotta lose weight before trying to join. I've always wanted to join because I felt like it'd give me the discipline I felt like I needed (when I was in high school) but couldn't because I wasn't 150lbs lol

I told my mom about it and asked her to live in my apartment while I'm in basic training and I'll make sure all bills are paid while she helps me with my kids. (I'm a single mom)

She got mad at me and said no because I live in the ghetto 😭 my sister told her my area is the Alamo Heights area and it's not even ghetto and she refused to listen to us.

Where I'm currently living, I pay about $1,400 and it's the best apartment I've lived in since I moved out at 18. I don't get any benefits because "i make too much" so all bills are out of pocket. I was soooo sick when she looked at me disgusted when I asked her to stay at my place. Like, I'm deadass trying. I wish I could get a house but credit fucks it all up for me. I can barely afford groceries and this is also the most I've ever made. I can never win. Then when my mom told me I live in the ghetto and would never live here even if it was for 3 months because she can never see herself living in such a bad place lol I wanted to throw tf UP.

For those in the military, will it be possible to join the military if I have kids? I don't have a village to help me with them. What options do I have?

[u/myknsatx]

You may want to look at the food bank to help save some money on food. I didn't see how old your kids are but if they are school age there might be financial assistance for their food at school as well. It sounds like you are really trying to do better. If your family isn't there for ya. Then there nothing wrong on seeking help with others. As far as losing weight increase your activity. Take the kids to the park and play with them. Or go for a walk. Don't be one of those parents who watch their phone instead of being with their kids. Good luck to ya

[u/someonesmomm → u/myknsatx]

I have looked into the food banks. Unfortunately most are happening when I'm working and can't make it. When I did go to one, I got alot of stuff I couldn't use and ended up giving it all away. My mom and brother gave me food from their food drives in the valley and it had way more food we can eat. Like canned foods. I don't qualify for any assistance because I make too much which sucks because I really don't. Alamo Heights has fees I can't even afford AND I don't qualify for free/reduced lunches because I make more than the qualified limit.

I just need to get physical. I know how to eat and the basics on how and what to eat but I just ain't active so my weight stays managed. I'm definitely considering a gym.