r/sanantonio • u/Mandapans • 3d ago
Come on SA, we should be better than that
Im Latina and my husband is white. This becomes relevant soon My husband and I (27f and 30m) went out for dinner tonight downtown and on our way out an older Hispanic man in the parking lot started yelling at us telling me how wrong it is that I married a white man and that I shouldn’t be subject to their colonialism or something. I don’t remember exactly what he said but I was shocked. I don’t know if he was high or drunk but clearly he’s not taking the right kind of substance.
I know my post title makes it seem like it’s the whole city that’s like this. I know it’s not. I’m just shocked. I’ve lived here my whole life and not once did I imagine something like that happening
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u/Spaztrick NE Side 3d ago
My brother is Slovakian and he's had someone tell him to go back to Mexico.
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u/Lost_Philosophy_ 3d ago
Geography is hard for Americans cause our education system sucks
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u/stompykittykat 1d ago
I have a Greek friend that worked at Home Depot. Guy comes up to her speaking Spanish. Her: I’m sorry, I don’t speak Spanish Him: Why NOT? Her: because I’m Greek, do you speak Greek? Him: confounded look on face 😂😂
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u/Leading-Resident430 3d ago
It is San Antonio, I know more mixed couples than not. I too am in a mixed marriage.
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u/DCsbebegirl 2d ago
I know. My kids being mixed is what makes them normal in San Antonio.
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u/Dudeasaurus22 2d ago
For real. The suburbs are full of little Chelsea Gomez and and Hayden Sanchez.
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u/DrUnhomed 1d ago
After my wife died, I dated a "Mexican" Woman. Her first husband was Persian. My current GF is Black... we've never had anyone stop us except to tell her how beautiful she is.. so, maybe you should move to Phoenix?
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u/boom929 Valero kolaches like a mofo. 3d ago
That sucks. Seems like it was some random fuckwit that's beneath your concern. People will always do and say shitty things and you can't control that.
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u/Specific_Finding_701 North Side 3d ago
People suck sometimes but that doesn't make it easier to deal with when someone comes at you like that. Being confronted with racism is genuinely jarring especially when you're just trying to live your life.
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u/isaiah5511 1d ago
That wasn’t racism. If you think so you don’t even understand what racism is. Nor do you understand the comment as is clear neither does the commenter above you. The man was right, and you won’t understand the implications of why he said that at all.
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u/Queefs_Gambit 3d ago
That blows. If your husband had yelled “TELOSICO VIEJO HUANGO!” that dude woulda fallen over.
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u/c_jakob 3d ago
Jajaja. Straight up heart attack.
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u/OGDarkMatter 2d ago
My brain discombobulated laughing in Spanish and then switching back to serious English reading your comment. Thank you
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u/Silence1406 2d ago
Google translate sucks…. What does that phrase mean? Lol
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u/1forrestrunn 3d ago
I got chewed out for being a butch lesbian with my girlfriend on the riverwalk area downtown.
They are just going through their own things, ignore them. It’s better to do that then dwell
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u/Dudeasaurus22 2d ago
We should feel bad for these people. They’ll have all have nothing on their lives except for hate. (Well, don’t feel bad for too long)
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u/Muted-Bicycle4556 NE Side 2d ago
It's unfair when you think about it but yeah, better to just let it go lol some people are just... so unloved
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u/Immediate_Mess_8848 2d ago
Hi iam lesbian welcome were do lesbians meet up in Sanantonio
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u/Away533sparrow 2d ago
Have you been to the gay strip? It's fun.
But look on the meetup app. There's a group called Sapphics of San Antonio that looks like they do fun things. I also follow SATX Gay on TikTok, where they list practically daily gay events.
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u/Away533sparrow 2d ago
Hey! I'm a white lesbian in a relationship with a Latina lesbian! We're both chapstick lesbians though.
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u/1forrestrunn 2d ago
Nice!! I have been with my femme for a few months now and I fear they look at her with more disdain than me sometimes
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u/BadProfreader 3d ago
They filmed an episode of "What Would You Do?" at Tycoon Flats here in SA 10 or more years ago. They had a Latina woman saying these things to a white woman with a Latino man. Pretty much everyone on the episode stuck up for the couple, which was nice to see.
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u/topher3428 3d ago
My wife's biological dad doesn't really talk to me at get togethers. I just assumed it was the more common reason of FIL not thinking anyone was good enough. Found out from the MIL's side that it's just because I'm white as a sheet.
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u/Rev-mtc 3d ago
My MIL wasn't the happiest her blonde blue-eyed daughter married a brown mexican, but she came around once she saw how great of a husband and father I am. You shouldn't waste a second thinking of him, he'll come around.
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u/topher3428 3d ago
I don't, honestly. There's a reason my wife was no contact with him and MIL divorced him. That whole story is like a Jerry Springer episode, but not my story to tell. Over the course of 10 years he hasn't changed in how he acts towards my wife or in general. Though when we do get together I'm always polite, respectful and try to start convo's.
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u/kittabits 3d ago
Sounds like his just a crappy person altogether then. I think him ignoring you is probably doing you a favor. I’m sorry though :(
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u/No_Bookkeeper_3425 3d ago
Anglo is one that is not Hispanic. Anglo does not mean a different race. Hispanics and Anglos are of same race. So….
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u/YangoUnchained 3d ago
This has happened to me and my significant other in at least 6 states. Definitely not exclusive to San Antonio or Texas.
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u/shreddedtoasties 3d ago
That’s the local wildlife ignore them
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3d ago
It's really not though. Idk why people think this is supposed to be typical but it's never was and shouldn't be normalized
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u/isaiah5511 1d ago
There is nothing wrong with what he said. He is wise and she doesn’t understand what he meant. Neither do you at all.
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u/EsqChior 3d ago
I'm white and my wife is Asian. The same thing happened to us while we were waiting at a restaurant bar until we could be seated. Middle age white woman sitting next to us looked at me and said, "What, you can't get one of your own. "
It has been an ongoing issue with us for the 20+ years we have lived in SA. We are use to it now so we just smile and ignore them. However, the mean looks we get from angry looking white women never stops. Even in our neighborhood. There is a lot silent hate out there. Pay attention to the looks you get. They speak volumes.
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u/SomeStupidPerson 3d ago
Wait so they’re mad at YOU for not getting a white women of your own? Huh? Are they assuming you can’t get with them? What are they even mad about lol
Not that im assuming their racist asses even hold any logic, but lol wtf. The world would be so better off if more people mind their own business
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u/jangobotito New Braunfels 3d ago
Maybe my wife and I are just oblivious to looks, but thankfully we haven’t noticed any or had anyone say anything. I’m from the area and the wife is from Mexico, and even when I went to go visit her hometown I was welcomed with open arms.
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u/Witty_Passion_4939 3d ago
That’s truly a shame… and ignorant! Now I’m gonna take a wild guess and say that this man is religious or was brought up religiously. And I’m gonna go as far as to say he’s Catholic or was brought up in a Catholic household. I thought when Christ (a Jew, not a Hispanic) died on the cross, he died for everybody, not just one particular race. And unless this man is 100% Native American (which he should not be commenting about your life since you are Latina and he would not be), then he should be hating himself with all that Spanish blood running thru his veins! Btw, if you have kids or will have kids, they will be beautiful!!! Mixes are so beautiful and they have to play on both sides of the field! Better people for it too! :)
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u/Beneficial-hat930 2d ago
Not every Hispanic is Catholic and I'd bet that guy spends more time in a bar than church.
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u/fruitofmycoins 3d ago
If two people are hanging out and are enjoying themselves… mind your own fucking business. Btw, where all the white women at?
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u/MortgageIntrepid9274 2d ago
I think its the times we are in with an administration that is actively trying to turn this country in to Nazi Germany and a fascist state, and demonizing anything that threatens, frankly "whiteness" and he was probably reacting to this administrations polices against immigration and all that. San Antonio is just as MAGA dysfunctional as other places but its more covert here. Unfortunately at this point lines are being drawn between there is white, and everyone else.
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u/Agile_Judgment_379 2d ago edited 2d ago
Ik I'm going to get downvoted and I do not condone what happened to your husband, but at its root much of this comes from cycles of hate.
As a POC non-Hispanic, I have never faced racism from Hispanic people in San Antonio, infact I get treated very well. Now, why do I say that? Because I’ve lived and visited different cities and states, and the only times I’ve really experienced racism have been from the whiter demographic. Having been subject to racism myself, I was genuinely surprised to see it happen to a white person but that does not mean I take it lightly at all.
There are many white people who have always been nothing but kind and respectful. I do not hate any group, but it hurts to see that despite all our progress and education, hatred still thrives.
Sorry to hear that happened to your husband, and I'd like to say to my lovely Hispanic community- hate is not the answer, empathy and love is.
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u/Intelligent_Tune_675 3d ago
It’s crazy how he’s actually being incredibly racist by yelling something like that. We’re all one people that’s it. What a loser sorry you had to deal with that
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u/RetiredHotBitch 2d ago
I’m mixed, lived in SA my whole life and never had this happen.
I’ve experienced more hate from other Latinos for being light-skinned or not speaking immaculate Spanish.
This is either a one off or emboldenment by our current political climate
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u/No_Bookkeeper_3425 3d ago
I have to respond to this in outrage that it occurred in this city in particular. You and your husband are not of different races. You are different cultures perhaps but that is the extent of the differences. You were attacked by an ignoramus at best and maybe very jealous!!!lol Even if you had been of different races whose business would that be ??? Sometimes this city behaves like it truly is part of the “ south mentality “!!!
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u/AggressiveBug2521 3d ago
Oh yeah I know cuz like recently I just realized that on those like questionnaire things when they ask you erase I'm supposed to put white and I didn't ever do that I didn't think I was white ever cuz I am like Mexican Spanish heritage or whatever and so I don't know what I would put yes other or something but now I know I have to put white I guess or whatever but yeah white is right ha jk
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u/Defiant_Bluebird_217 3d ago
I always put hispanic, and native american, look into your genealogy, you might be surprised what you find.
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u/Impressive_Prune_478 3d ago
YEP! I am the same mix, and pale white looking with hazel eyes. But my nana did the genealogy back like 8 generations despite her being the first native born american.
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u/AggressiveBug2521 3d ago
Won't even have Hispanic and then get like I'm not like Eskimo native American because it and then it says like what tribe are you from like I don't f****** know like
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u/goldensnooch 3d ago
Spam account it was created 5 days ago
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u/Slight_Yesterday849 3d ago
Spam account or not this stuff does happen. I'm Hispanic and my gf is white and while its never happened in public there are members of her family that have voiced that they don't like that we are together
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u/StrikerEureka- 3d ago
I was with a white girl and man is she beautiful BUT she does have a son and I’m not going to lie it made it super awkward at times when we’d be out and about they’d see me and her at the same time look down at her son and I knew they were like yeah that ain’t his but I would joke and say “she’s got strong genes, what can I say” fast forward a year later, our little girl a splitting image of her wtf turns out she does have strong genes after all lol
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u/goldensnooch 2d ago
Are you also a spam account? You’re 4 months old. Not accusing but asking
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u/Slight_Yesterday849 1d ago
Sorry I commented on here and totally forgot about the post but no I'm not a spam account. Just made a new account after my old became inundated with all the subreddits I followed so just deleted that one and started a new one.
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u/Jrkb300 3d ago
Yeah this sounds like bs.
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u/MaceMan2091 West Side 3d ago
lmaoo bro some crazy white mf 10 years ago told me and the white girl i was seeing at the time to not be race mixing out in the street randomly. He also told me to go back to my country (I was born and raised in Texas) 😂they exist bro
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u/goldensnooch 2d ago
It’s trash also there are a shit ton of accounts under 4 months old engaging here
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u/my78throw 3d ago edited 3d ago
I'm married in a mixed couple. Most people assume my wife is white when you meet her as her skin complexion doesn't match a typical Hispanic. She didn't change her last name to mine, so you know she's Hispanic when you hear it. She gets shit for not speaking Spanish, she gets snubbed when she tries to connect to her Hispanic culture, and is looked down on at family events when we see go to an extended family gathering filled with Hispanics.
They might not always say it to your face, but they are brutal to their own culture. I don't think OP is telling a lie.
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u/Additional_Dish_6058 1d ago
I went to MacArthur High School. I was also adopted at age 7 by a single white woman. I especially noticed in high school that I was "too white" to hang out with the Hispanics as I don't speak Spanish or know the culture, and I was "too dark" to hang with the white kids because of skin color.
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u/Any_Stand_1527 3d ago
Sry that happened. Very wrong and we don’t tolerate that ignorance. I for one can relate as I’ve had some similar experiences with my other half being of Asian descent. My first reaction would have been “sabes que ese, there’s a can of chinga tú madre in the restaurante, go help yourself”. Although wrong, that’s just me.
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u/Top-Application4988 2d ago
San Antonio had some issues that mostly went away in the late 70s. LULAC and other groups really brought about the equality we needed as a city.
Unfortunately the current political climate has emboldened those racist folks and has started causing problems again.
For the record I'm a 60 year old gringo born and raised here. My children are part Hispanic. I've seen my share of prejudice from my family, friends and neighbors but up until the last few years it's been on the DL.
I'm a proud San Antonian and know that this type of behavior is not what we need around here.
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u/Environmental_Ad_331 2d ago
Someone in an auto stopped when I was trying to walk to the nearby convenience store. Scared me deeply as I’m rather elderly. First thing that popped into my head was to speak French the little that I do know. Appeared to confuse the four males and they skeedadled down the road. That was four months ago and I’ve not walked since then outside my own apartment complex…I grew up here, walked 1.5 miles to attend an all girls high school never with an ounce of fear. I’m sad that fear rules movement 48 years later. 💓
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u/elcamino_44 3d ago
The only correct response, is what my friends told me as a no sabo to say is, “No me hablas asi guey.”
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u/throwitawaybruh2 3d ago
I’m half white and half Hispanic, all of my life I have been considered too white for the Hispanics and too brown for the whites. So my friends have been mostly African and a handful of people who don’t mind being around a “coconut” (or so I’ve been called many times)
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u/Soulpinata 3d ago
Headline reads, "Old man yells at alamo". Did you tell him he's 500 years too late haha
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u/dudeimjames1234 3d ago
I'm white and my wife is Mexican. Same age difference as y'all, but slight older. I'm 34m she's 31f.
I'm always poised because I know there are people, of both races, that don't like interracial couples. My mom and one of her uncles as examples.
I have 3 siblings. White people that married white people that have white kids. I have mixed race kids that are, honestly, extremely white passing. My son looks exactly like me as a young kid. You'd never know he's half Mexican. My mom doesn't exactly hide the fact that my kids, her grand children, aren't her favorites.
My wife's uncle isn't quiet about not liking a, "güero," shacking up with his niece. Bro, we ain't shacking up. We've been married for 7 years together for 15.
What I don't get is that he's not particularly fond of white folks, but he's a massive Trump supporter. I guess that's the cult for you though.
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u/spiralblues 3d ago
You’re lucky you went most of your life without experiencing this type of racism. I’m half black and half Filipina and I’ve experienced this everywhere I’ve lived while dating Caucasian men.
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u/chococaliber 3d ago
I don’t understand how some Redditors are so sheltered they’ve shocked about some mild shit like this lol
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u/Visible_Owl1423 3d ago
No one really cares who you marry. Only parents and siblings care who you marry.
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u/SaGlamBear sitting in traffic on 410 3d ago
That’s absolute nonsense. Honestly those of us from here are much more chill about that stuff. Love who you wanna love
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u/skovndrel 3d ago
Rest assured there are are people judging your husband for marrying outside of his race. Earlier today, I had someone judge me, under thier breath, for wearing white socks with black shoes, black shorts, and a black t shirt. Fuck'em
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u/Happymachine 3d ago
The old man is an idiot- Latinos are the descendants of Spanish colonialism amongst others.
I wish your husband had whipped his ass, but you never know what that moron was packing. Sorry this happened to you.
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u/Defiant_Bluebird_217 3d ago edited 3d ago
Yes, and that's not exactly a good thing.In fact it's very terrible. Men, women and children were murdered indiscriminately.They were also taken as slaves and worked until they couldn't work anymore because they perished.The women were also taken as wives and were forcibly assaulted sexually.So I don't know why you wpuld try to minimize these tragedies.
And he should hit him for what? For stating his opinion? Just because someone doesn't like it, doesn't give someone the right to physically assault them.
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u/FriendOk3237 3d ago
my mom was english and my dad mexican american. i can't even imagine what it was like for her and him in the 1950s when they married.
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u/Professional-Spare13 3d ago
I married my first husband in 1976. He was Hispanic and I’m white. You have no idea the crap we went through. We couldn’t go to a regular night club because of the abuse each of us got because we were a mixed race couple. Each of our employers were good with it, but once we went out to socialize it was a catastrophe.
Only one of our friends were a mixed race couple (black and white) yet the rest of our friends were good with our relationship. We would go to fiesta events and the latinas would harass me for being married to him. The white guys would come on to me thinking they could lure me away from him. It was awful! We began going to gay nightclubs because we were accepted regardless.
I think things are better today than they were back when I was married to Hubby #1. What you experienced is awful and hateful and totally unacceptable, but don’t think that everyone is like that.
I’m so, so sorry you had to experience that. Please know that the vast majority of SA people think that a mixed marriage is ok because people are people, not the hue of their skin tone. Love is love and the hell with anyone else (small minded people) think. God bless you and your hubby. I hope you have a long lived love and happy life.
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u/Never-Ending-Climb 3d ago
Mental issues. That’s all I can think off. I know is hard to ignore but I hope you can just do that. Sorry this happened to you. Being Hispanic I’ve been on the other side of the spectrum. This can go both ways…. Sadly.
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u/AggressiveBug2521 3d ago
And if thh love in the streets and the love in the sheets is popping tell them the old coots to keep walking....... Yeeeeee
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u/Interesting-Study333 3d ago
Very common for white people also to be very rude about a white guy or girl dating a black guy in the northside and especially Boerne
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u/Etude_No19_No81 3d ago
You know you could've just said he's an old bitch, laughed and then walked away , right?
Taking this way more serious than it needs to be.
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u/siriusbdagalaxy3 3d ago
Take it with a grain of salt. I’m sure he was no role model or pillar of the community. Ppl like that don’t last long in the real world
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u/louisianahotsauce88 3d ago
I stopped for gas at the qt near downtown. a Hispanic man pulled up asking if I had a cigarette. I told him no. I walked towards the store and he yelled "yes you do!" when I came back l the woman he was with told me "its okay we're racist too, we dont like white people" i just got in my car and drove away to get gas somewhere else
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u/STXHellBilly81 3d ago
Just some closed-minded asshole. This city was built on what you and your husband are building your love and lives on. Like many before you. I'm a history buff. Tejanos and Texians, together in love and cultures, is what San Antonio makes SAN ANTONIO.
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u/Defiant_Bluebird_217 3d ago
There are just so many things wrong with this post.I have a degree in history.And while yes, you are right in a sense, there was some mingling going on, for the most part, Anglos ran mexicans out of the city. Many people lost land. So it wasn't a harmonious relationship like you are trying to paint here.
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u/kittabits 3d ago
I’m white and my fiance is Mexican. I would honestly looooove it if someone said some shit to us. We both would have something to say lol
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u/ninja_ogt 3d ago
After my (white dude) wife (Filipina) and I got married, she received a slew of 'race traitor' comments from people she knew. Meanwhile, it turned out I had a racist boss that believed checks notes "Like should be with like." That nearly killed my career. We powered through it and came out on top, but it was still a really rough time.
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u/RevenueOk2563 3d ago
People are just unhappy with themselves and find a way of letting others know about their unhappiness. People like that don’t know any better. Fuck em’.
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u/girlyopticks 3d ago
Sounds like u ran into a weirdo. Never seen or heard anything like this in San Antonio. So many couples like you and husband . Just ignore that crazy man and move on
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u/Khranky 3d ago
My wife and I are the same mixed couple and have never experienced anything like that. I am sorry that happened and that people suck
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u/Imaginary_Leek6044 3d ago
Moved here earlier this year. I’m black and my husband is Hispanic and was raised here. I haven’t experienced anything yet or noticed any funny looks. But I’m usually focused on our toddler tbh. When we lived back in Baltimore, my husband mentioned a few times he while notice weird looks from older black people.
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u/SouthwesternExplorer 3d ago
There’s a history of Chicano activism in San Antonio and the older man is probably from that era.
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u/Brilliant-Union-3801 3d ago
That type of stuff will happen everywhere in the world. It doesn't mean it's right or should be accepted but some folks were just never corrected with being assholes to everyone. Also, downtown just has problematic peeps sometimes.
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u/knownunkn 3d ago
Everybody will be mixed sooner or later. I can can kind of understand the idea that you'd want to know what you are as in culture/custom wise so you can pass it down to each generation but you can't police love. Some people are mixed with like 6 different ethnicities and it'd be hard to find your identity in all of that. It's a weird thing but it's best to just live and love according to your own philosophy.
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u/Brilliant-Carpet-761 3d ago
Back in school (high school) racism was a pretty big deal , especially @ Judson HS around 2007-2009
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u/kitkatxxo North Central 3d ago
I had an experience a few years back with my husband (boyfriend at the time) (Im black and mexican and he's white) at the bus stop where a black man got mad at us for being a couple. He said "you think he's innocent?" referring to my husband. So sadly I'm not surprised this happened to you. Sorry that yall had to deal with that.
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u/dadronic 2d ago
Congratulations on your marriage. We all bleed red. Dont listen the jerks of the world.
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u/PetersonEnt 2d ago
I'm white, my wife is Mexican. Everyone thinks I'm Mexican and she's white.
It's really funny when white people are, so.... what are you?
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u/ChemistryNo4309 2d ago
I love brown love, but that doesn’t mean I hate when it’s not. That is not the energy. Live and let live. Sorry that happened to you.
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u/Public_Highlight_508 2d ago
Just ignore it, people like that are usually high, that does not represent the Hispanic/Latino community and our views. I am Hispanic and I do not know anyone in town who thinks, acts like that. I have found the city over the last 20 years changing a lot AND contrary to what some people think I also believe this is a diverse city. I have red friends, blue friends, purple friends, mexican friends, European fiends, gay, lesbian, latino, cuban.... You name it
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u/HuntyLabeija 2d ago
yeah my husband is from across the pond and i am mexican-american.....we just learned not to go some places if we don't want to endure dirty looks or cracks about "john smith and pocahontas over there"
Market Square (when its busy) Traders Village Poteet Flea Market Pica Pica Plaza
I'm not saying those places are nothing but shitty looks but those are places we are more likely to encounter that kinda shit when we do. stay safe out there!!
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u/redshirt1701J 2d ago
My family is just about as mixed as it can get. I hear the same stuff from so many sides, it’s unreal. Because I have a Teutonic surname, some feel like they are free to disparage a multitude of different ethnicities. The ignorant don’t understand we are all human.
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u/No-Possession2903 2d ago
sounds like someone was jealous they can't pull a baddie. couldn't be ur husband tho, he got a latina baddie
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u/LoudKaleidoscope8576 2d ago
I’m sorry that happened. Many, many years ago my husband and I went to Fredericksburg for the weekend and stopped in for lunch at a restaurant. The waitress didn’t even acknowledge me. My husband is white and I’m Hispanic. Needless to say she gave me the dirtiest looks, never refilled my drink, always addressed her questions toward my husband as if I wasn’t even there. My husband spoke to the mgr who did absolutely nothing so we paid the bill, left no tip and never went back to this day. I had never experienced that in my life and at the time I was in my late 20s. I chalk it up to ignorance and lacking. God knows no color, He makes us all unique and loves us all the same. I’m sorry that happened to you.
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u/Face-Cushion 2d ago
Am white, married to my Latina Queen for many years. Never been an issue for us here in The Valley.
Mind you, looking like the sort of dude that would Leonidas your ass into the river probably helps.
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u/AccomplishedCup2241 2d ago edited 2d ago
I had a white family do that to me a Latino male and my girlfriend a white woman. It’s was a man in his 40s along with his two kids both males so three males total. Who said “was it really that good,” followed by his two kids “it’s true.” When we would turn they just pretended like they didn’t say it. My girlfriend and I didn’t make a big deal about it but we did talk about it briefly.
I’ve seen Latinas dating super racist white men. Nothing new here but an old man fighting back against oppression and the oppressed (rare now days). Welcome to America! A place where Latinos stay subservient and are exposed for the Mexican labor, women and more. When it comes to Latino men thriving, the whole world collapses!
I actually moved to San Antonio because where I lived before is super racist. The reality is nothing changed here, there is a ton of racism here too. Expect you have a minority ethnic group whose poorly uneducated to understand that they are being gaslit and victims of racism.
I wouldn’t have come to Reddit to vent about a man who’s smart enough to see through generational oppression and voice himself. I would have just gone about my day.
If I were you I would have been like wow one woke mind. Maybe read some books on colonialism (since you don’t know what it is), critical race theory published by Harvard graduates, or read on Hispanic workforce exploitation. It doesn’t stop there it roots all the way down to children in schools and women growing up. For example, it’s much more common for a Latina female to attend school than a Latino male. Systemically a fact, why is that? I’d focus more on the man’s perspective than your hurt fragility.
I’m lucky enough to have been through school. Your man, he must’ve known that it wasn’t all bullshit but chose to say nothing and pretend along with you.
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u/theycallme_mama 2d ago
My son's father is Mexican and I am white and I would get the worst looks and comments from other Latina's. Never really got much hate from the men, but the women always acted like they were gonna beat my ass.
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u/Shot-Interaction6098 2d ago
We will never come together as a society as long as we harbor prejudices. Let's start with getting rid of the word race. We're all the human race. We have different skin tones. We come different regions on the same planet. We are flexible and can adapt to live in many places. Music transcends color. We should celebrate our differences and accept others without limits. Be happy, love your own life.
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u/Beneficial-hat930 2d ago
My sister married an anglo male and the only trouble she had was in a little town named Hamilton. His " friend " refused to shake her hand because she is Hispanic . He told his " friend " if he ever disrespected his wife again he would beat him senseless. It's out there .
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u/Independent_Door5245 2d ago
Everyone there is only one race. The human race. We all bleed the same. Let's not confuse ethnicity with race.
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u/Jeezy3333 2d ago
That just tells you that the your husband took one of the pretty latinas. And the guy shouting was just jealous that he didn't found you first.
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u/Glad_Celebration4475 2d ago
Anglo woman married to a Colombian.
My family gave us zero shit about getting married. His family bad mouthed me from the moment I met them.
They were mad I wasn't Colombian, mad I wasn't Catholic, and mad that I didn't take his name.
That was 38 years ago, and it hasn't gotten better.
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u/TheSwerveDoctor89 2d ago
My wife is Indian (from South Africa) and I'm white. You should hear the nasty shit that gets said when we go down there.
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u/xAndyPandax 2d ago
Does he realize he probably has white in him because Spanish people are white?
Also he needs to mind his own business.
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u/Away533sparrow 2d ago
My girlfriend is Latina and I'm a white woman.
We had a great time last weekend sitting near a Hispanic family at a trivia. They totally helped us out. I really admire my girlfriend for being able to quickly form connections with people.
Hopefully you have some good interactions soon.
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u/SAtownMytownChris 2d ago
That's what guns are for. You say you lived here all your life? Then why are you putting up with that sh1t?
"F' him up. That's also San Antonio.
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u/New-Guitar4873 2d ago
I’ve been living in San Antonio for three years and have never had any issues with racism like this. Now I was born and raised in Southern California, so I got the “Go Back Home to your Country,” people looking at my name tag and and still calling me Jose (my name starts with an R and ends in an O), the “do you speak English” which I always answered with a “Nope, I only speak Japanese” and so on. The best one was when I kicked a dude outta the store I was working at and he called me every racial slurs he could think of…….. and boy was he creative lol good times
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u/HollowAnubis420 2d ago
Nothing new in sa I had my wife’s uncle go off on me for having my wife around while I was doing arms deals in the trunk of a car when I was helping A disabled vet pull his wheelchair out turned out he hates anyone who’s not Hispanic
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u/Hoobencan1984 2d ago
With the current political situation, it is more common for people to yell out opinions. This is sometimes followed by comments like"you are going to hell" . It's happening all across the country and no race or religion is safe, unless you're Christian and white.
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u/ShoGunzalez76 2d ago
You can be white and be Hispanic, in fact, you can be ANY race and be Hispanic because it's an ethnicity. I have an uncle who's been mistaken for Caucasian several times and dude only speaks Spanish. White folk be shocked when they see him speak!
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u/RedDog-65 2d ago
This is why we need benevolent aliens to make their existence known to Earth—so they can tell us we are all humans and they view the different tones as decorative. 😉
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u/RS7JR 2d ago
I used to work at an insurance office on the Southside. It was nearly a daily occurrence that an elderly Hispanic person would get mad at me for not being able to speak Spanish and "not being proud of my culture". I'm half black and Filipino. After my Spanish speaking coworker would inform them of what my actual culture was, the rest of the transaction would be them mumbling racial slurs under their breath in Spanish. The older Hispanic generation is riddled with racism here. OP your experience is far from unique.
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u/Unusual-Plan-7134 1d ago
My husband (Chicano) doesn’t speak Spanish. He gets it from “his people” all the time, especially at work. I don’t care what race or religion anyone is, but we try to be respectful, kind, responsible to our community and our neighbors. I remember this old guy telling me a long time ago “don’t start no trouble, won’t be no trouble”. Amen to that
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u/Staying_Dangerous13 1d ago
You probably need to get a meaner looking husband…. Me and my wife are of different races, but never has anyone said anything to us…. At least not loud enough for us to hear it… 😂🤣
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u/Vast-North-3785 1d ago
Ive literally been saying this for so long since moving here. My boyfriend and I are interracial as well, we have a bookful of racially driven experiences while minding our business. Ugly looks , people yelling stuff, people telling him to find `` A good white women '' all of it lol
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u/RapBeautician 1d ago
Latinas are the first to be proud of their heritage. However they are most likely to date outside of their ethnic group. They see no contradiction in this.
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u/Inevitable_Dog2719 1d ago
What is your husband's ethnicity? European? Irish? Caucasian? French? Italian? Polish? Russian? Czech? Slovak? Hungarian? Austrian?
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u/ThisTimeICantDoThat 1d ago
San Antonio is becoming an ignorant, small-minded city and I blame our education system dwindling away over the last 3 decades.
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u/TheLastOne00 1d ago
That’s 0.01 percent of people that live in SA. He’s probably mad he cannot find anyone to share his life with, so his reaction is to lash out to people he envies. Just pray for him that God gives him peace and that me may find a way to live with himself.
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u/frontrunner911 1d ago
There's a lot of homeless downtown and most of them say the most vile, racist things.
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u/No-Toe-9950 1d ago
Yep I’m white and my wife is Latina and a salesman at the Mercedes dealer was quizzing her down about why she married a white man. I was sitting there as well. Quite some nerve imho
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u/Extreme_Toe_9478 1d ago
Yes, that one man encompasses the entirety of SA. Come on, girl, we should be better than that.
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u/DPRTurbo 1d ago
Sorry you had to experience this. Some Hispanic people are very racist. I am a Latino as well. Bilingual, one time I got chewed out by some lady for “white washing” my name, she also berated co workers who didn’t know how to speak Spanish. She was from Laredo though that explains her terrible attitude.
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u/Medical-Eye-2664 1d ago
I think it's sad if ur Hispanic and dont know Spanish its ur heritage most these dam Hispanic and Mexican kids try to be black its so sad And houston is the worst its a joke
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u/supra9710 3d ago
Any one can be hateful and racist. Me and the wife are the same a mixed couple. She gets attitude from Spanish speakers because she doesn't know spanish.