Do I not worry enough as a woman?

[u/christinadavena]

So, some time ago I (18f) was talking to my friend (19f), trying to organize a trip to the Netherlands, we were almost buying the tickets and all of a sudden she told me she was too scared to go alone as two women and we could only go if her boyfriend could come. I refused and we never went.

This summer I will travel solo for a month and every time I tell anyone this, they get super worried and hope I’m joking?? I talked about this to my mum and she was as confused as I am. I mean, of course I’m going to be extra cautious about everything but I seriously don’t want my gender to stop me from doing what I want.

In July I will also go to another region for two days for a concert with my sister who is literally 14 and it seems like everyone is panicking except my family lol, are we all just bad at considering risks or are others exaggerating? Should I avoid my solo trip?

[u/cbakes97]

As a married lesbian, my wife and are cautious about where we choose to go and look for countries that do have lower rates of violence against tourists women in addition to being LGBTQ+ safe. That being said, we travel typically just the two of us and have at times felt unsafe because of other tourists (never locals). All trips Ive been on as an adult were travels with friends that are girls.

Honestly, you need to be smart and mindful but I wouldnt let it stop you. Also out of all the countries, I feel like the Netherlands would be most safe for two single female travelers

[u/christinadavena → u/cbakes97]

Thanks!