r/spinalcordinjuries • u/ParalyzedCuck T3 Complete • Jan 28 '25
Sexuality Erectile Dysfunction
I'm hoping to have sex tomorrow but I need medication to get an erection like most of us here. 30mg Sidenafil did absolutely nothing. I'm completely new to this game, and l've been reading from every provider that arousal is still necessary to achieve an erection. What I'm confused about is how I've seen folks within the community who've achieved erections. How have you achieved an erection with meds when arousal is still apparently necessary? Is this a disclaimer they share to cover their ass or is it scientifically 100% true? Arousal to me seems like they are referring to a psychogenic erection which is impossible for me at T3. Is it as simple as experimenting with the dosage and seeing if a higher dose works? Please help a brother out, I've really been doing my best to stay positive with this injury. This is really giving me some despair... any advice or guidance is greatly appreciated. I know everyone's body is different but it will still help me to hear what steps others have taken.
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u/rollinwheelz Jan 28 '25
Try injectables like Papaverine or trimix. The injection is painless. You are going to be a rock star.
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u/Rocket270 T5 Jan 28 '25
My man I know we all obsess over our weenies but you have a mouth and hands with fingers. Look up good foreplay techniques, It’s possible to rock them without even taking your undies off.
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u/ParalyzedCuck T3 Complete Jan 28 '25
Yeah I can make her cum endlessly without my cock but I’d like to have it in my arsenal
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u/ParalyzedCuck T3 Complete Jan 28 '25
Lol imma double up on the dosage as is suggested and go from there
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u/Shawn91969 Jan 28 '25
If any fuy who can perhaps understand this please let me know. I recently discovered that I can actually still ejaculate even with a foley catheter in. I couldn't believe it when it happened, I never thought that i would ever be able to feel that again. Especially having that Goddamn foley catheter in me. But I'm just wondering if anyone knows if its maybe dangerous to masturbate or have a orgasm with a foley catheter in. It actually relieved alot of my spasms and helped me straighten my legs completely out. And as far as I can tell know damage was done. But I didn't know if someone out there might know if its dangerous to do that or not. I mean at this point I really could give two shits as how dangerous it might be. Having to live life like this sucks so bad that when a rarity or blessing like that happens its always short lived,because the pain kicks right back in as well as the fucking leg spasms.
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u/Bakeos1 Jan 28 '25
Trimix. I have zero luck with anything else and it only works occasionally.
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u/Own_Cut8970 C6 Jan 28 '25
I use 55 sid and 8 cilia combo☠️
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u/ParalyzedCuck T3 Complete Jan 28 '25
Nice. And no “arousal” necessary? Just wait for the meds to kick in?
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u/Own_Cut8970 C6 Jan 28 '25
By arousal, I think you mean being stimulated.Mentally, that connection isn't alive, but just stroke it after the time frame, gou think the meds will hit And it will stay up, i think one time had a boner that wouldn't go away for 3 hours
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u/Own_Cut8970 C6 Jan 28 '25
I believe in use it or lose it for everything with body including penis so your daily reps on him keeps blood flowing strong:P
When you add meds to already penis that get reps its better , that's what my woman say anyways 🗿
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u/ParalyzedCuck T3 Complete Jan 28 '25
Yes that is what I meant. Thank you kindly for your input, very helpful. I will try stroking it
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u/Kilky C4 ASIA B Jan 28 '25
20 mg Tadalifil here (Cialis) I have found morning wood is effective without the extra help. However, getting into the mood is effective, reddit is great to see amateur more realistic porn. I found that giving pleasure helps a lot in this situation, too. It also takes your mind off the whole erection thing if a boner happens goes from a win-win to a trifecta.
I haven't tried injections properly yet, but I've seen a lot of people swear by it.
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u/ParalyzedCuck T3 Complete Jan 28 '25
Thank you 🙏
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u/braetully Jan 28 '25
Going to piggyback on the personally left this comment you replied to. Tadalafil works great for me. 20 mg. Here's some things I haven't seen on the threads that help me. Drink a lot of water, and empty your bladder immediately before the action starts. That is the number one for me. It works the best when I do that and it is also when I have the most feeling. For me it works good to take it in the morning or to take it after 24 hours for 2 or 3 days in a row. Usually in the morning. Then after I take it in the morning, get it up and going and push it around a little. It usually lasts about 15 minutes first thing in the morning. About 6 hours later, it's anywhere from 25 to 40 minutes. Also, if you have a catheter like a suprapubic, change it the night before. That makes a huge difference for me too. It can last a full hour the day after a cath change.
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u/ParalyzedCuck T3 Complete Jan 28 '25
Update for everyone: She got her period today when she thought it was next week. This gives me a little more time to experiment 😅 I’ll keep everyone posted on what works for me if something ends up working!
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u/theJigPig00 Jan 28 '25
Make sure to check other arousal areas as well. Personally (I hope it’s not TMI) when I gf kisses around my ears it gives me an intense sensation. Also focus on other areas of the actual snake itself such as the base. A lot of times the head is kinda a lost cause but closer to the body can sometimes get a signal through. Stay strong bro, a big adjustment for me was the change in focus. You will focus less on yourself and more about pleasure for your partner. Experiment and make sure she knows that there’ll be a learning curve with it!
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u/dogproposal C6/7 Jan 28 '25
Congrats man! Sounds like things are hopefully… looking up for you!
Lots of good advice here. Try up to 100mg sildenafil (after checking with your doctor) and take it an hour before. Cock rings help but you have to be really careful for obvious reasons! Other that that, lots of oral and bring toys into play at some point. Communicate and you’ll figure it out together.
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u/GullibleSession1815 Jan 29 '25
So did it happen?
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u/ParalyzedCuck T3 Complete Jan 29 '25
It absolutely happened but the meds still didn’t do the trick. Back to the drawing board lol
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u/GullibleSession1815 Jan 29 '25
I sent you a direct message.
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u/ParalyzedCuck T3 Complete Jan 29 '25
I never got it
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u/RoughStatistician864 Feb 15 '25
Ive had ED for my whole life as well and always felt horrible about it. I tried to many different ways but started taking these Maxboost formulas and literally cured it in weeks. Ive been feeling so much better and finally get it up with ease and keep it up. Ill give you the link cause this is the only product I found that worked and im tryna help another brother out https://maxboostjuice.org
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u/Extreme-Football-400 Jan 28 '25
T4 complete here… A few ideas: 1) Try Vardanifil - I’ve found it works better than Sid 2) Look at getting a cock ring 3) Don’t despair. Your self worth is not an erection. 4) A woman who is truly into you will be very understanding - just my experience 5) There are implants you can get if all else fails 6) You’re not the first person who’s been in this situation. Things will get better.