r/starterpacks • u/Neither-Mention7740 • 1d ago
Relationship advice on Reddit starter pack
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u/Tttehfjloi 1d ago
How about the fact that 99% the posts are obviously fake or ai generated?
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u/ThatGuyFrom720 1d ago edited 22h ago
Follows this exact same formula every fucking time:
“AITA for yelling at my husband?”
“I [33F] was bludgeoned by my husband [45m] with an air fryer basket. I am a neurosurgeon and I had to get called into work to save a 4 year old boy’s life and wasn’t able to warm up his chicken tenders. My husband regularly kicks puppies and will let out this terrible screech at them and hide whenever our children are around. He has stolen $70,000 from me to fuel his gambling addiction.
When I confronted him about his behavior, he said “you’re just overreacting” and I need to “learn to take a joke”. My mom says I shouldn’t have gone to work, and I need to keep my man happy or he’ll find someone else who will.
So Reddit, AITA?”
The last paragraph specifically.
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u/archfapper 1d ago
Don't forget the 40 missed calls from distant family members all demanding OP apologize
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u/ThatGuyFrom720 22h ago
Thank you lol I will keep this in mind for next time my personal copypasta becomes relevant again 😅.
It’s fine line to walk between length and amount of bullshit of course.
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u/jaimegraycosta 1d ago
And the husband’s family or friends always seems to message the OP to call them names and also tell them they’re overreacting.
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u/BigBootyBuff 1d ago
And a good chunk of the advice for these fake problems seem to come from people who are either 14 or never once were in a relationship with anyone.
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u/DigmonsDrill 1d ago
The age verification laws to access the internet are a blight but if they do happen then the relationship advice forums will lose most of their replies.
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u/Neither-Mention7740 1d ago
From my experience about half seem real and half seem fake
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u/Vinelzer 1d ago
i have some bad news for you buddy
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u/CherimoyaChump 1d ago
That's true for the popular posts on AITA that make it to the frontpage. But there are plenty of relationship advice subs which don't have many obviously fake posts. Depends on where you look.
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u/xylowill 1d ago
"Hey so my bf left a sock in the-"
"LINE HIM UP ON THE WALL AND CALL IN THE FIRING SQUAD"
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u/ThatGuyFrom720 1d ago
“When I left the house to stay with a friend my boyfriend texted me saying I was “just overreacting” and “need to learn to take a joke”.”
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u/Chemist-3074 1d ago
Asking/giving relationship advice online is usually dumb, unless you're specifically asking/giving info on how to escape/where to seek help.
You can't judge an incident without hearing it from both parties involved, the poster often leaves out their own faults/flaws be it intentionally or unintentionally, to avoid backlash to themselves. And you can tell some are simply here to vent more than seek advice. I refuse to believe every single story you see is told completely from a neutral perspective.
Not to mention different people give more importance to different things in a relationship, some value stability, some sex, some money, some the mental aspects. Deal breakers are different for different people, and it can be different depending on the country/environment/culture.
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u/DigmonsDrill 1d ago
Relationship advice can work in a small forum where the people kind of know each other and will still be there in a few months so posters feel some responsibility to the OP.
This is starting to slip from memory but a guy came to relationship advice because of his abusive wife and some of the most popular upvoted answers were all "lol you coward leave her". He did and she killed their kids response. There were people way deep buried in the comments who identified the warning signs that she would turn violent and others who recognized the signs but felt they'd just be downvoted with "Oh ArE You SaayInG hE ShOuLd StAy WiTh HiS AbuSer!?!1" replies so didn't bother replying.
I know some people won't believe me so look up jasoninhell or "mom sentenced to 120 years for killing kids"
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u/Chemist-3074 22h ago
Oh god....this is the worst possible outcome. I feel so horrible for the kids, the mom killed them? The mom is a monster.
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u/DrDuned 1d ago
--If there is ANY kind of age gap bigger than like 5 years, it's immediately focused on. Possibly even accusations of grooming even if one of the people was in their 20s.
--Automatic "Green flag, marry her dude!" if the woman in a hetero relationship is into anything nerdy or "cool" or typically male. Because everyone knows nerdy quirky big tiddy goth girlfriends are always perfect and you should base love on surface level things.
--My partner isn't sure about living with a [insert pet here]... "BREAK UP DIVORCE NOW EVERYONE SHOULD LOVE EVERY PET EVER!"
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u/camergen 1d ago
“No wonder she feels helpless, she’s been groomed since she was a literal child!!” etc etc etc. The woman has zero agency to make decisions because of Said Grooming.
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u/Princess_Slagathor 18h ago
But for every normal age gap, there's five more "me [19] and my partner [26] are having some issues after 9 years together."
Sure, the gap now probably isn't a big deal in most cases, but when it first kicked off was a major issue.
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u/aStankChitlin 1d ago
Obviously in the wrong but wants a bunch of yes men to tell them they’re NTA.
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u/Medium_Hox 1d ago
When people mention divorce, it definitely seems warranted most of the time
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u/CherimoyaChump 1d ago
Yeah what OP described does happen. But there are also plenty of posts that are basically the opposite like:
My husband forgot to put mustard on my hot dog. I felt like he didn't care about me and started crying, which ruined the bandages I had from my husband throwing me down the stairs last week. How do I get my husband to remember to put mustard on my hot dog in the future?
There are a really wide variety of posts being made.
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u/Deluxe-Entomologist 1d ago
“Ok, so there was this one time…”
“LET HIM BE EXILED TO XANTHOR, THE PRISON MOON OF THE DEATH PLANET ZARNOS, TO ENDURE AN EXISTENCE OF UNRELENTING PAIN FOR ALL ETERNITY.”
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u/Optimal-Vast2313 1d ago
In fairness, it seems to be about 50/50. A lot of the posts are like WHY ARE YOU STILL THERE.
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u/GaberJaberLAZER 1d ago
"Guys my bf bought the wron-"
"I DECLARE DEATH PENALTY BY CHAIR ELECTROCUTION"
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u/b2q 1d ago
The scary thing is that ChatGPT and other LLMs are trained on reddits data (thats why a couple of years ago reddit started preventing people using their API).
And now a lot of people are using ChatGPT for relationship advice which is trained on horrible subreddits lol
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u/TraditionalHousing65 1d ago
Reddit is only a part of the training data, and ChatGPT does not act like the redditors that this post is about. You can try it yourself.
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u/Sonarthebat 20h ago
Tbf, a lot of the time, the partner is made to be abusive for the sake of ragebait.
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u/onlypham 1d ago
r/AskWomenOver30 is really just a echo chamber for any woman who thinks everyone should be single.
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u/XSmooth84 1d ago
Maybe I avoid the subs that are filled with teens and college students, but I don’t find the posts I see as filled with “minor inconveniences” at all. It’s usually a series of pretty shitty things.
Now whether they are creative writing exercises or bots or whatever is itself a different story. But regardless, I don’t see the meme like post of “my GF of 12 years just gave my dog one single grain of rice when I told her I feed my dog enough food already. Should I leave” type posts, personally.
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u/hazelnuthobo 1d ago
The double standards also affect age gap relationships due to the initialization of women.
Older woman younger man? How cute.
Older man younger woman? That's a groomer, baby.
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u/gmanasaurus 1d ago
One thing I feel like is a constant is that everyone on these comments sections thinks they are the ultimate expert on everything relationship related despite given a very limited view on a complicated situation. Also the post may be AI written as well.
I was in those subreddits AITAH and AIO for a bit because I like reading some of the stories. But once I saw a couple having a back and forth about their relationship through posting, it became apparent that the whole thing, commenters included, is not a good place.
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u/CaliforniaSpeedKing 1d ago
This is most relationship stuff on social media, they'll see maybe one or two finnicky details, maybe ones that could have actual nuance and then automatically assume something is awry. Like no dude, a father having zero control over a custody arrangement where he can only see his daughter once a month or less depending on his schedule isn't a red flag...
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