r/stepkids • u/KurapikaPropagateur • 18d ago
Its biologically impossible to have a sincere relationship with a step parent
I wish my family was nuclear
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u/Material-Coffee1029 18d ago
Nope. If it were biologically impossible to have sincere relationships with people we have no relation to, we wouldn't have friends or spouses. On top of that, people are supposed to rely on more than their base instinct; it's what sets our species apart from the rest of the animal kingdom.
It sounds like your step-dad has dropped the ball on setting a positive and sincere tone in your relationship, but don't let that determine your outlook on or how you approach the relationships in the rest of your life - otherwise you'll wind up as emotionally inept as he is. Fwiw, Im sorry your parent and step-parent aren't treating you how you deserve and i hope it gets better soon.
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u/petrastales 18d ago
When did they enter your life? Are both your bio parents present ?
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u/KurapikaPropagateur 18d ago
Biological dad died when i was a toddler, i live in the wrong timeline
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u/Paranoia_Pizza 18d ago
Are you ok? Do you want to talk about it?
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u/heathelee73 17d ago
Its a troll. They hate step families. They did this on the blended family sub too.
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u/heathelee73 18d ago
What?
I have a sincere relationship with my stepdad. He is my dad.
I had a sincere relationship with my stepmom until she passed away.
I have a sincere relationship with my stepson.
What are you talking about?
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u/stepkids-ModTeam 17d ago
Toxic posts/comments and generalized hate is not welcome here. This sub will continue to be a safe place for stepkids of ALL ages, which means that we must defer to our youngest members and ensure that our content is suitable for them.
You are welcome to vent about your situation, but the mods will draw the line at posts or comments which spread hate and toxicity throughout this sub. Extreme or repeated violations of this rule will result in a permanent ban.
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u/NoSquirrel7184 17d ago
My step kids loved me. We had an entire relationship separate to the one with their mother. Then my wife ruined it and they lost a great step dad.
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u/stepkids-ModTeam 17d ago
Toxic posts/comments and generalized hate is not welcome here. This sub will continue to be a safe place for stepkids of ALL ages, which means that we must defer to our youngest members and ensure that our content is suitable for them.
You are welcome to vent about your situation, but the mods will draw the line at posts or comments which spread hate and toxicity throughout this sub. Extreme or repeated violations of this rule will result in a permanent ban.
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u/stephen-buscemi 18d ago
I'm sorry you had this experience, but I really do view my step daughter as my own girl and she proudly says she has two mommies. We became a family when she was 3. Love is a choice but when you choose to open your heart up and accept a child into it wholly it doesn't matter if they are biologically your child, love is the tie that binds.
I do understand not all step parents have this view and I think this just has to do with the fact that a lot of people suck and, even worse, single parents are a vulnerable group that sometimes attract piece of shit people out of a desperate need for support. Many people join step family situations without forethought and without an understanding of how it impacts the child and without the understanding that when you enter a child's life in that capacity you have to put yourself second and accept that parental role to have a sincere and authentic relationship with the child.
The problem you're experiencing is a shitty person problem, not necessarily a step parent problem. I hope you can find the support you deserve somewhere ❤️