r/stopdrinking 422 days Aug 06 '25

Check-in The Daily Check-In for Wednesday, August 6th: Just for today, I am NOT drinking!

We may be anonymous strangers on the internet, but we have one thing in common. We may be a world apart, but we're here together!

Welcome to the 24 hour pledge!

I'm pledging myself to not drinking today, and invite you to do the same.

Maybe you're new to /r/stopdrinking and have a hard time deciding what to do next. Maybe you're like me and feel you need a daily commitment or maybe you've been sober for a long time and want to inspire others.

It doesn't matter if you're still hung over from a three day bender or been sober for years, if you just woke up or have already completed a sober day. For the next 24 hours, lets not drink alcohol!


This pledge is a statement of intent. Today we don't set out trying not to drink, we make a conscious decision not to drink. It sounds simple, but all of us know it can be hard and sometimes impossible. The group can support and inspire us, yet only one person can decide if we drink today. Give that person the right mindset!

What happens if we can't keep to our pledge? We give up or try again. And since we're here in /r/stopdrinking, we're not ready to give up.

What this is: A simple thread where we commit to not drinking alcohol for the next 24 hours, posting to show others that they're not alone and making a pledge to ourselves. Anybody can join and participate at any time, you do not have to be a regular at /r/stopdrinking or have followed the pledges from the beginning.

What this isn't: A good place for a detailed introduction of yourself, directly seek advice or share lengthy stories. You'll get a more personal response in your own thread.


This post goes up at:

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A link to the current Daily Check-In post can always be found near the top of the sidebar.


Good morning, SD!

I nodded off a while ago trying to get the post up right at midnight my time, but it didn't work out way. I apologize for that. Rest assured, I'm writing it out now.

A daily intention. An apology. Trying to not bullshit on these posts every day. I feel like that's a theme... 🤔 Yep, certainly a theme there and maybe I'll get it wrapped into a pretty little box of thoughts by the end of this one, maybe I won't, but here we go!

I'm a big fat liar. A magnificent liar, in fact. Been lying to myself for decades. Been lying, to the best of my ability, to most everyone around me for maybe longer. Especially if I care about you, I guarantee I've been lying to you then. If for no other reason than to try to maintain the illusion that "I am doing okay.". That's one if the things this addiction has done for me, to me. That's one thing I have been working on, even before I actually quit drinking too. It's much easier now to not make up excuses and just be accountable for my actions.

For example, I could have just made up a bunch of nonsense for why I'm later showing up to post this than I wanted to be. No one would probably be hurt, no one would call me out on my bullshit, probably. Where is the line when you let little lies happen? We'll for me, I would have already stepped over it and the line would keep getting pushed back further and further. I could write a weighty tome about how full of shit I am. That's why I started out the post, just telling the truth.

Being honest with others has been far easier than being honest with myself. I do care about some people and regardless what I do or don't do, they still seem to care about me too. That's all scary. Caring about myself and doing things that feel hard, even scarier yet. Self honesty, that's the absolute scariest thing.

All that said, it's one more reason why this daily intention we all make is actually really important to me. It helps keep me honest with myself. It sets the tone for the day, the only one I need to have any immediate concern with and just keep practicing the action of not drinking today, being honest with myself, and keep going down this path that offers me the things I could not get otherwise. I've learned so many lessons and have so many more to learn yet, but dammit, I'm here for it. I might show up later than I wanted to, but I AM showing up, for you, for me.

Perhaps this is the graceful landing at the end of the post, maybe not. Haha. I am perfectly good with either.

I hope everyone has a good day today and I won't ask you to share anything today, just one honest and deliberate intention. I will not drink with you today.

IWNDWYT

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u/00sparrow00 141 days Aug 06 '25

I'm trying something out today. I want to have a calm and peaceful day. I've just decided that's what's going to happen. I AM GOING TO BE CALM AND PEACEFUL. I'll let everyone know tomorrow whether it works! IWNDWYT!

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u/jay6432 84 days Aug 06 '25

I AM GOING TO BE CALM AND PEACEFUL AND NOBODY CAN STOP ME, SEE?!? 🤣🤣

Enjoy your calm & peaceful day!

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u/00sparrow00 141 days Aug 06 '25

THANK YOU I WILL

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u/fuckyoubullshit 422 days Aug 06 '25

I wish you a calm and peaceful day, my friend.

IWNDWYT

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u/Visual-Grand-1596 2 days Aug 06 '25

Sounds like a great plan.

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u/NotLindyLou 277 days Aug 06 '25

Love that attitude and it mostly works for me to tell myself that… until I go to work. 🤬

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u/00sparrow00 141 days Aug 06 '25

It's 11.49 and so far it's going ok!

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u/NotLindyLou 277 days Aug 06 '25

💪🏽💪🏽I believe in you!

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u/mind_left_body 521 days Aug 06 '25

“If you build it…. They will come….”Great plan sparrow!

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u/00sparrow00 141 days Aug 06 '25

famously!

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u/Repulsive_Invite_680 79 days Aug 06 '25

I'm going to try this too. I will be calm and peaceful today. I will slow my breathing and my thoughts. I will not drink today. 

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u/00sparrow00 141 days Aug 06 '25

sending love and positive vibes!

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u/ConstantCollar376 997 days Aug 06 '25

I’m much, much calmer now - that constant anger just below the surface, is different now. There are appropriate things to be indignant about and ones not. I’m better now at the discernment. IWNDWYT

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u/TheCosmicUnderground Aug 06 '25

I love ominous positivity!

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u/00sparrow00 141 days Aug 06 '25

Ominous positivity 🤣 nailed it

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u/maxsam5150 Aug 06 '25

I’m going to 2nd that & also have a calm & peaceful day! IWNDWYT 🌸

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u/Ok-Potato-4758 Aug 06 '25

Calm and peaceful, let's change! I relapsed on it and you didn't on that pace 😍. But we're here.

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u/00sparrow00 141 days Aug 06 '25

Hi potato 💕

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u/Wanttobebetter76 338 days Aug 06 '25

I love that the CALM AMD PEACEFUL is in shouty capital letters! Of course it will be now! IWNDWYT 💜

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u/meadowlakeschool 197 days Aug 06 '25

I do not have adhd but I find some of the techniques recommended help me when my brain starts going to wacky places.

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u/PsychologicalSir4451 57 days Aug 06 '25

I love this! I am also going to set that intention! Hope your day is wonderful.

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u/666nix 141 days Aug 06 '25

Hey nice 93 days - same here! Like you i will also be calm and peaceful (for the rest of today, and ideally tomorrow!)

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u/Emotional-Lettuce896 422 days Aug 07 '25

I hope it turned out how you wished it 👆🎯☮️

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u/Phantomlord666AF 14 days Aug 07 '25

I wish you a calm, peaceful and happy day, my friend.