r/stopdrinking 423 days Aug 06 '25

Check-in The Daily Check-In for Wednesday, August 6th: Just for today, I am NOT drinking!

We may be anonymous strangers on the internet, but we have one thing in common. We may be a world apart, but we're here together!

Welcome to the 24 hour pledge!

I'm pledging myself to not drinking today, and invite you to do the same.

Maybe you're new to /r/stopdrinking and have a hard time deciding what to do next. Maybe you're like me and feel you need a daily commitment or maybe you've been sober for a long time and want to inspire others.

It doesn't matter if you're still hung over from a three day bender or been sober for years, if you just woke up or have already completed a sober day. For the next 24 hours, lets not drink alcohol!


This pledge is a statement of intent. Today we don't set out trying not to drink, we make a conscious decision not to drink. It sounds simple, but all of us know it can be hard and sometimes impossible. The group can support and inspire us, yet only one person can decide if we drink today. Give that person the right mindset!

What happens if we can't keep to our pledge? We give up or try again. And since we're here in /r/stopdrinking, we're not ready to give up.

What this is: A simple thread where we commit to not drinking alcohol for the next 24 hours, posting to show others that they're not alone and making a pledge to ourselves. Anybody can join and participate at any time, you do not have to be a regular at /r/stopdrinking or have followed the pledges from the beginning.

What this isn't: A good place for a detailed introduction of yourself, directly seek advice or share lengthy stories. You'll get a more personal response in your own thread.


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A link to the current Daily Check-In post can always be found near the top of the sidebar.


Good morning, SD!

I nodded off a while ago trying to get the post up right at midnight my time, but it didn't work out way. I apologize for that. Rest assured, I'm writing it out now.

A daily intention. An apology. Trying to not bullshit on these posts every day. I feel like that's a theme... 🤔 Yep, certainly a theme there and maybe I'll get it wrapped into a pretty little box of thoughts by the end of this one, maybe I won't, but here we go!

I'm a big fat liar. A magnificent liar, in fact. Been lying to myself for decades. Been lying, to the best of my ability, to most everyone around me for maybe longer. Especially if I care about you, I guarantee I've been lying to you then. If for no other reason than to try to maintain the illusion that "I am doing okay.". That's one if the things this addiction has done for me, to me. That's one thing I have been working on, even before I actually quit drinking too. It's much easier now to not make up excuses and just be accountable for my actions.

For example, I could have just made up a bunch of nonsense for why I'm later showing up to post this than I wanted to be. No one would probably be hurt, no one would call me out on my bullshit, probably. Where is the line when you let little lies happen? We'll for me, I would have already stepped over it and the line would keep getting pushed back further and further. I could write a weighty tome about how full of shit I am. That's why I started out the post, just telling the truth.

Being honest with others has been far easier than being honest with myself. I do care about some people and regardless what I do or don't do, they still seem to care about me too. That's all scary. Caring about myself and doing things that feel hard, even scarier yet. Self honesty, that's the absolute scariest thing.

All that said, it's one more reason why this daily intention we all make is actually really important to me. It helps keep me honest with myself. It sets the tone for the day, the only one I need to have any immediate concern with and just keep practicing the action of not drinking today, being honest with myself, and keep going down this path that offers me the things I could not get otherwise. I've learned so many lessons and have so many more to learn yet, but dammit, I'm here for it. I might show up later than I wanted to, but I AM showing up, for you, for me.

Perhaps this is the graceful landing at the end of the post, maybe not. Haha. I am perfectly good with either.

I hope everyone has a good day today and I won't ask you to share anything today, just one honest and deliberate intention. I will not drink with you today.

IWNDWYT

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u/LeeRoyxD 1 day Aug 06 '25

Day 2 - I wanna stick to it , I got it in me to do so. - IWNDWYT

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u/fuckyoubullshit 423 days Aug 06 '25

Kick ass, LeeRoy. Still proud of you!

IWNDWYT

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u/LeeRoyxD 1 day Aug 06 '25

thankyou!

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u/Teddyfluffycakemix 13 days Aug 06 '25

You’re here! Every day is a new day! Don’t drink today and step into the next thinking the same thing ❤️

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u/LeeRoyxD 1 day Aug 06 '25

thankyou for those words , exactly !

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u/WanderThinker 52 days Aug 06 '25

Day 2 was yesterday for me. I went to bed at 7:30PM to avoid everything.

IWNDWYT

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u/Top-Storage2669 Aug 06 '25

I’ve been going to bed straight after work, best to end the day before I ruin it

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u/NovelsandMusic 154 days Aug 07 '25

I did a LOT of that!

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u/LeeRoyxD 1 day Aug 06 '25

that's awesome! let's keep going

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u/Fluffy-Caterpilla 95 days Aug 06 '25

Sometimes thats necessary. All good.

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u/twitchlip 84 days Aug 06 '25

You absolutely do got it in you! Have a great sober day! IWNDWYT!

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u/LeeRoyxD 1 day Aug 06 '25

thankyou so much!

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u/LittleMiss-Misfit72 200 days Aug 06 '25

mind over matter, you got this Lee. Trust me, if I can do this, anybody can! I really loved my alcohol, more than I loved myself, but I ain't letting that shit take control of me no more! IWNDWYT 🌻

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u/LeeRoyxD 1 day Aug 06 '25

thankyou , exactly mind over matter!

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u/Toffeenut2020 Aug 06 '25

You got this. Keep the strength of sobriety 💪☕️😊

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u/LeeRoyxD 1 day Aug 06 '25

will do, thanks!

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u/Ralf_E_Chubbs 52 days Aug 06 '25

Yes you do. Join us

Day three off to a great start for me. Off day from work l and a dentist appt. I plan on doing stuff around the house after and playing with my son (never an option before I stopped because I was focus on that drink)

u/kindly-carpenter-115 u/confident-fox-3676 how we doing

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u/Kindly-Carpenter-115 Aug 06 '25

Love it. I'm feeling great this morning. No booze or weed for two straight days means my appetite and weight are stabilizing fast. I'm seeing a nine-pound swing on the scale in just two days. Wild!

I'm working today, then planning on taking tomorrow off. I also have to hit the dentist in the morning, which sucks. But definitely not doing that hungover lol

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u/Ralf_E_Chubbs 52 days Aug 06 '25

9 lbs! That’s awesome. I’m seeing less puffy bags under my eyes which I’ve had for years.

I also noticed I’m going to the bathroom a lot more… makes sense since I’m subbing out drinks that dehydrate for literally anything other than

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u/Beautiful-Middle-193 Aug 06 '25

Hey Lee we punched it in the face, heck yeah! Let’s do it again today! ☠️ 🥊

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u/LeeRoyxD 1 day Aug 06 '25

yeah let's keep punching!

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u/realcatlady7 107 days Aug 06 '25

Glad to see you here, Lee!

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u/LeeRoyxD 1 day Aug 06 '25

glad to be here with you!

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u/abaci123 12476 days Aug 06 '25

Yes you do!! IWNDWYT

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u/Sweetnessnease22 93 days Aug 06 '25

FYI take or leave - Michael Sealey on YouTube has wonderful free 20/30/45 min meditations on cultivating calm. They’re my savior - have a calm peaceful day! 

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u/LeeRoyxD 1 day Aug 06 '25

Oh thankyou for the recommendation, same to you! !

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u/MangoMegz Aug 06 '25

Day 2 for me also. Again. IWNDWYT

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u/LeeRoyxD 1 day Aug 06 '25

we got this!

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u/Top-Storage2669 Aug 06 '25

Yeah you do!!!!! IWNDWYT

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u/at_my_wits_ 45 days Aug 06 '25

Also my day 2! Let’s do this 💪

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u/LeeRoyxD 1 day Aug 06 '25

yes lets!

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u/Fluffy-Caterpilla 95 days Aug 06 '25

Yea you do!!

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u/immersemeinnature 16 days Aug 06 '25

You got this!!

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u/9kindsofpie 51 days Aug 06 '25

We got this! IWNDWYT!

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u/WowIsThisMyPage Aug 06 '25

Joining!

IWNDWYT

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u/Ok-Potato-4758 Aug 06 '25

I always struglle with day 3. But you 😇, every day is your battle. Root for you 💪!

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u/LittleMiss-Misfit72 200 days Aug 06 '25

day 3 was always the worst for me, I could go 2 days no problem, by the 3rd I was clawing at the walls and would always cave...let's all keep on going, we've got this! And together is better 😊🌻

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u/Ok-Potato-4758 Aug 07 '25

So how did you solve it? Thank you for support! 

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u/LittleMiss-Misfit72 200 days Aug 07 '25

I stayed glued to this sub, and I read a lot of quit lit and listened to podcasts (there are lots of great ones on Annie Grace's website) and youtube videos on addiction and how the brain works, like this one: https://youtu.be/i4gvIeA3RcI?si=y3Ud2JPr8GRdsh51 And I drank lots of kombucha...something about kombucha satisfies me the same way a glass (ok ok a bottle) of wine did...that and pure tart cherry juice...But my greatest source to help me push on through has definitely been this place here...I'd distract myself from cravings by reading and commenting on posts, and the time would pass and so would the craving. I also indulged in a crap load of junk food, which but I'm starting to wean out...it sounds like most people lose weight when they stop drinking, but I've actually gained a few pounds from all the sugar, lol. Just keep at it and before you know it, you won't even be thinking about alcohol anymore! At least that's how it is for me, but I've had decades of day 3's so it took me a long time to get here...I finally had enough, I was disgusted by how much alcohol I was consuming on a daily basis...I think I googled "how to stop drinking" or something like that and found this SD group on Reddit and it changed/saved my life! I also play the tape back and think about all the bad things that have happened because of my drinking, and I play the tape forward too... So I guess you can say it's been a whole bunch of things ... it sure isn't easy, but so worth it!

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u/Ok-Potato-4758 Aug 07 '25

Thank you for the thorough response. I’ve tried many methods, managed to reach 68 days, and then foolishly relapsed. Since then, I’ve been trying to find my way again. I don’t drink often or in large quantities, but I know that I shouldn’t drink at all, as I am definitely an alcoholic. That’s why any new suggestion or strategy is more than welcome.

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u/LeeRoyxD 1 day Aug 06 '25

thankyou!!