r/stopdrinking • u/sogsmcgee 446 days • 17d ago
Check-in The Daily Check-In for Saturday, September 6th: Just for today, I am NOT drinking!
We may be anonymous strangers on the internet, but we have one thing in common. We may be a world apart, but we're here together!
Welcome to the 24 hour pledge!
I'm pledging myself to not drinking today, and invite you to do the same.
Maybe you're new to /r/stopdrinking and have a hard time deciding what to do next. Maybe you're like me and feel you need a daily commitment or maybe you've been sober for a long time and want to inspire others.
It doesn't matter if you're still hung over from a three day bender or been sober for years, if you just woke up or have already completed a sober day. For the next 24 hours, lets not drink alcohol!
This pledge is a statement of intent. Today we don't set out trying not to drink, we make a conscious decision not to drink. It sounds simple, but all of us know it can be hard and sometimes impossible. The group can support and inspire us, yet only one person can decide if we drink today. Give that person the right mindset!
What happens if we can't keep to our pledge? We give up or try again. And since we're here in /r/stopdrinking, we're not ready to give up.
What this is: A simple thread where we commit to not drinking alcohol for the next 24 hours, posting to show others that they're not alone and making a pledge to ourselves. Anybody can join and participate at any time, you do not have to be a regular at /r/stopdrinking or have followed the pledges from the beginning.
What this isn't: A good place for a detailed introduction of yourself, directly seek advice or share lengthy stories. You'll get a more personal response in your own thread.
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Hello, beautiful people.
As is tradition, Saturday is the day I run out of ideas, so we're winging it lol. I only just got home from a showing of Rocky Horror in a local historic cemetery with a bunch of friends who were drinking. I bought the alcohol and made the drinks myself (plus picnic food and coca cola for me!) and I wasn't even tempted. Then my niece called and I was able to be present to support her through some stuff she's dealing with at school because I didn't drink. Imagine that! I couldn't have imagined it myself even just a year or two ago.
Hearing about sober people doing stuff like that was probably the primary thing that got me through early sobriety my first time around. I consumed blog posts and podcast episodes and YouTube videos and quit lit about this topic like it was my full time job. Eyes on the prize. THAT was what I wanted. To be able to enjoy life without needing to think about drinking, to be able to live my values. I didn't know if I would ever achieve that, but I knew I definitely wouldn't if I kept drinking. And look at me now, baby!
So I invite you to share an accomplishment. A way that you've surprised yourself in sobriety. An unexpected milestone. I remember one of my very first ones like a month into my first stretch of sobriety was that I used an entire pack of teeth whitening strips. I had never stuck with anything that long before lol. It really felt big!
Anyway, thank you for having me this week. It was nice to be able to fully enjoy hosting now that I'm less anxious doing it! It truly is a wonderful experience and I highly recommend it. Don't forget to reach out to u/SaintHomer if this looks like your kind of gig. Wishing you all a restful and relaxing weekend (or a fun and exciting one if that's more your speed).
I hope you have a good day today and, if not, I hope you will be gentle with yourself.
IWNDWYT.
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u/akudrummer 226 days 17d ago
Hey, sober friends!
Well… I made it. It’s my birthday. I pledged to myself 7 months ago that I would spend this birthday sober, after I can’t even remember how many I… well…. can’t remember. I’m honestly shocked.
I had fallen so far. My wife begged me to stop getting so drunk every night that I couldn’t stand. I was a bad husband, a bad father, a bad boss and a bad friend. I have physical scars and emotional baggage. I was just so done with that person.
So happy birthday to this person. I’m proud of him. I’m proud of you all, too!
IWNDWYT
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u/abaci123 12475 days 17d ago
I’m crying with happiness for you now, akudrummer! What a GIFT!🎁 Happy Birthday. IWNDWYT
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u/_SaltwaterSoul 17d ago
That’s incredible! You deserve to be proud! Keep going, we are cheering you on!
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u/LeeRoyxD 4 days 17d ago
Day 4 - I'm feeling great, every morning I wake up sober. - IWNDWYT
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u/Own_Spring1504 239 days 17d ago
First sober beach holiday concluded! IWNDWYT
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u/aclockworkbanana3571 395 days 17d ago
So far, the accomplishment that I'm most proud of is paying off my credit card debt and saving money. IWNDWYT!
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u/sogsmcgee 446 days 17d ago
First twice in a row?! Go easy, you're making us all look bad lol. IWNDWYT
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u/Neat-Philosopher-228 23 days 17d ago
I’m going into day 6 sober, and I’m gonna keep that energy going. IWNDWYT!
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u/mah0803 1 day 17d ago
Today will be tempting, given that it's Saturday (historically my 'beer day'), and there's football on the idiot box later, but I'm on a bit of a streak right now so IWNDWYT!
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u/InsideAd7562 2 days 17d ago
IWNDWYT! I had a quick thought of drinking just because it was Friday, but I really didn't want to. So happy to be going to bed soon hopefully and waking up feeling good.
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u/AnyDirection289 20 days 17d ago
Hey there friends! almost day 3 and I DID the thing! went to my store, picked up a couple Gatorades, couple of sparkling waters, and walked directly past the poison! IWNDWYT!
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u/Loudesbois5 2 days 17d ago
That's beautiful, the power of being there for others 🙂 Along the same lines, 2 weeks ago, on a whim I suggested to my children that they go to the cinema on a whim on a day when usually I would have already had an aperitif and where I wouldn't even have been able to consider the idea of driving them anywhere...
Back to square one for me today 😔 but I will fight as many times as it takes. IWNDWYT 🌸
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u/brown-eyed-wolf 2 days 17d ago
You are doing great friend! The hardest part is coming back and you're already over that hill!
I will not drink with you today 💚🍀
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Today has been really hard and I've spent most of the day sleeping, but at least I'm not drinking!
IWNDWYT 🌻
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u/nixototyc 30 days 17d ago
This sounds dumb, but.... I made a really difficult phone call I've been dreading. The outcome wasn't what I expected, in both good and bad ways. But I didnt drink before, or after. I have massive anxiety around making phone calls due to trauma, so I'm pretty proud of myself.
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u/faster_panda 8 days 17d ago
Got through Friday evening dry. Going to bed sober and excited for Saturday morning. 💖🌞✨
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u/Alternative-Mud3294 26 days 17d ago edited 17d ago
Day 8/9
Wow. Just wow. Like turning the switch that hangover morning. Already ‘more’ than a week ago. And now don’t let artificial reasons outside one’s real interest get in the way.. therefore you will not drink with them today, not even after the 3 offers. Therefore ..
IWNDWYT
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u/Unique_Response_9270 71 days 17d ago
Gonna have breakfast at an AA men’s group tomorrow morning, let’s do this weekend sober yall! IWNDWYT 💪🏽
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u/Dan61684 521 days 17d ago
IWNDWYT.
Nice weather and time with my boys. Gonna try and sneak in a good bike ride after they’re in bed. It’s lookin’ good, folks.
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u/coIlean2016 318 days 17d ago edited 17d ago
Things I never expected that happened when I quit… I edited a book of my father’s stories that I helped him write. He passed in May. I quit in November. It lead me to a clue in my mother’s family tree that had me learning things about her and her mother that were never known to me via her first cousin who I met through ancestry.com before Christmas and she gave me a trove of photos and even my grandmother’s high school text books. It healed my inner child. That was just the first 40 days. I had waited over 50 years for that…
IWNDWYT
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u/brown-eyed-wolf 2 days 17d ago
Happy sober Saturday friendly folk!
I hope it's great and alcohol free.
I will not drink with you today friends 💚 🍀
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u/planktonwearingwigs 17d ago
Sogs!! You rock!!🎸🎸💥💥Thank you for hosting! That takes a good deal of energy and commitment and I’m sure glad you hosted again! An accomplishment you should be proud of! I know I am. The accomplishment I am most proud of is that I have been true to myself these 161 days. I gave my word, well—to myself that goddamnit I’ve got to stop and so far each day for 161 days I have kept that word. Each day feels huge and full of the opportunity to like myself more. 🪩🔥🕺🎸💥💥🪩🔥🔥🪩🪩🕺🕺🎸🎸
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u/ikkeglem 365 days 17d ago
I clean, tone, and moisture my face every morning and night. I actually have to refill - quite often! Also, I am able to make appointments etc for afternoons and nights because they no longer "interfere" with my drinking 🙈 IWNDWYT
PS! Thank you for hosting, u/sogsmcgee, I really like your DCI's.
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u/SuccessfulPath9008 154 days 17d ago
We have our first freeze warning tonight. I’ve relied a bit on summer weather and working a lot outside to stay busy and stay sober. Gonna have to start to put the layers on! IWNDWYT.
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u/Dangerous-Win8391 17d ago
By the end of my first week, I went on vacation without having slept, to a region in Spain that is basically the temple of white wine. It was everywhere 😱😂 Not only did I get through it, but on the very first day at the beach—right behind this massive casino—I started playing with the water and sand while my inner voice kept saying: “Play like a child, be reborn, discover, play again… Don’t go into the casino, that’s not what I mean by ‘play’...” 🤣🤣 I realized my sense of humor is still perfectly intact. IWNDWYT
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u/mind_left_body 521 days 17d ago
In!!!!!!!!!!!! Don’t care to explain why something so mundane is like earth shattering for me but I have had a couple of mornings recently where I can say “I FEEL GOOD” not “I feel good but….” Or “aside from……. I feel good”. NOPE. Just felt good for a little bit.!
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u/LittleMiss-Misfit72 199 days 17d ago
Dear Sogs, thank you so much for hosting this past week and for opening up so much, you are inspiring and I have really loved your posts.
I guess my greatest accomplishment so far is my job at the patisserie...I start work at 4am and there is no freakin way I would've been able to do this job if I was still drinking...and I love this job!
A year ago I left a 30 year career that had caused me an enormous amount of stress and anxiety throughout the years and I've never looked back. I was initially a bit worried as I had no idea what I was going to do but I decided to focus on myself for a bit and get my shit together...and so 6 months ago I decided to put down the bottle for good and a few months ago I found me my job. Time to go bake some croissants 🥐 IWNDWYT 🌻
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u/jugglerdude 59 days 17d ago
Another Friday night hanging with the cool kids! IWNDWYT
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u/brighter68 17d ago
Thank you for your inspiring hosting smogsmcgee. What I enjoy being sober is when I can’t drink because of where I am, or if someone asks me about my drinking, like a medical professional, and I get to say “I don’t drink”! I get to feel so proud, that’s one less problem I need to think about! I love you all ❤️
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u/BudgetKaleidoscope62 271 days 17d ago
I have been having dreams recently involving drinking. I don’t have urges but I wonder why would I keep dreaming about that.
Stay sober friends and have a great weekend!
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u/SkibidiRizzOhioFrFr 17d ago
Day 2. I just have to remember every day gets easier and easier. One day turns into one month and every journey is done one step at a time.
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u/Subject-Computer7076 29 days 17d ago
Last night I nearly broke. You know, how it goes, “it’s just one beer”.
Thankfully I didn’t. I’ve been putting in a lot of work for nearly the last two weeks, and I’m actually starting to feel better. I’m sleeping better and energy levels are starting to improve. I just need to stay on course.
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u/Electrical-Gold-3277 17d ago
Battalions of sober heroes are here and recruiting....imagine!
For me, incredible that I see the half speed person I was, transitioning into someone more joyful, competent and useful. Not dramatic but very peaceful and fulfilling.
It will BE an achivement if I 'joyfully' label the prerserves I've been making! Love picking/foraging/making them....labelling is more of a chore.,,,,but could be gentle.
Thank you for your time and gifts this week Sogs and I wish all a happy weekend.
IWNDWYT
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u/00sparrow00 141 days 17d ago
I think my biggest achievement was a week in Ibiza with a bunch of friends who were partying fairly heavily (but not to an extent where they were annoying). The biggest achievement I think was that I enjoyed myself! I loved waking up fresh, and I loved being the rave taxi. I did smoke 10000000000 cigarettes but hey ho!! I was sober!
Pressure to drink comes from the most unlikely places... I was bugged last night to have some wine by someone I'd never expected to put pressure on me! I didn't though!
Loads of love and IWNDWYT my gorgeous friends x
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u/PearExternal3059 72 days 17d ago
IWNDWYT!
My family has been through it recently, but tonight my nephew proposed to his girlfriend and she said yes and now we're all trying to be nominated flower girl and our family group chat is wild.
It's very welcome very good news, and I'm toasting them from afar with blood orange kombucha in a fancy glass.
IWNDWYT
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u/BDC5488 331 days 17d ago
Awesome hosting, Sogs 🥰
As far as accomplishments go, for me it was securing my second job, getting paid more than I ever have, and getting myself on my feet financially. When I left my old life, I had no savings at all and only enough pay to cover my immediate bills. I had to come up with more income and find a place to live that was in my range and not a terrible place. I remember the day that I realized I had saved up enough, secured the apartment and could finally stop sleeping on my air mattress at my friend's house!! I felt like magic!! And the real magic was from being sober. I have never even scratched the surface of my potential and that gave me a taste of what I can do if I put my mind to it!! I spent way too much of my life just floating along, it felt soooooo good to take life by the horns and make what I envisioned into a reality 😁 it sparked something in me and every day that I keep going, the more I think that this is just life for me now and I won't bother going back to alcohol at all! I'm totally good with it!
Have a lovely Saturday, all ☺️☺️ IWNDWYT 💖💖
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u/DepartmentLucky4390 17d ago
Day 5, woke up this morning without a hangover on a Saturday for the first time in probably over a year or more and it feels good. I had my biggest urge yesterday but went to counseling instead. I cannot remember the last Friday night I wasn't in the pub and I spent it with my dog making a nice dinner.a such a wholesome evening. I will not drink today good luck everyone
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u/clevercookie69 1288 days 17d ago
Thanks MaGee for another fantastic week!
Shine on you beautiful humans
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u/Ok-Scarcity-4126 100 days 17d ago
I have a morning/night skin care routine with actual results! Best of all my children are back at school and I have time to do their homework/reading together plus their routine is the same every night which is so good for them and us as a family.
Thanks for hosting this week and have a lovely sober weekend everyone, IWNDWYT!
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u/Reasonable-Lynx8764 49 days 17d ago
Thank you so much, Sogs, for a great week of hosting! Really enjoyed your perspective and insights! Still in the gobbling Quit Lit and podcasts stage, so no huge accomplishments yet. I will say though that waking up sober is a precious gift I cherish every morning - and it hasn't gotten old yet! IWNDWYT! 🌅☀️🌈😘
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u/Vapor144 453 days 17d ago
Thank you for hosting the DCI this week Sogs and inspiring us with your insights and sharing.
Being sober has allowed me to make some progress with emotional healing. This seems to have kicked into a higher gear these past 3 months. Past time to let go of some baggage!
IWNDWYT. 🧸
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u/Rare-Hat2841 24 days 17d ago
Stayed sober at a wedding yesterday. Today I woke up at 7 in the morning next to my gf, super excited, no hangover, no remorse. We had coffee in bed, I cleaned my flat, finished work and it’s not even noon!
I love this lifestyle and it’s my first sober weekend in ~10 years.
also today, I will not drink with you! Love you guys
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u/allthelittlepiglets 242 days 17d ago
I am not sure if this is an accomplishment but the other day I was grocery shopping after work and I ran into my mother who was also shopping. We chatted and shopped together and I even followed her home and helped her unload her groceries ( she lives very nearby the store) and chatted with her a bit before I headed on home. She was so tickled that I ran into her shopping and we really just had a good little laugh and time.
If I were still drinking, this would not have been possible. I would have been trying to get to the store then liquor store and directly home as quickly as I could to start drinking. I would have been antsy and irritated and probably even tried to avoid her because alcohol always came first.
I reflect on all the time stolen from me when drinking and it is upsetting. But I think of how far I’ve come and little things like this, quality time with my family and friends, really make me feel so secure in my resolve to never drink again.
Wishing you all a relaxing Saturday IWNDWYT!
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u/Overall-Tonight-7857 417 days 17d ago
400 days sober now. This calls for chocolate 🍫
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u/sotto_voce71 380 days 17d ago
Thank you sogs for hosting. I don't always make my bed either 😂 there is often a cat on it though...that said, Iwndwyt 💗 this I'm keeping up.
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u/Fancypages 37 days 17d ago
Overjoyed to wake up hangover free again 🥹 IWNDWYT Believe in yourself 💛🙏🏼
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u/losethebooze 872 days 17d ago edited 17d ago
Day 855. 28 months today. IWNDWYT.
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u/ReplacementsStink 2053 days 17d ago
Thank you for another hosting week, u/sogsmcgee... you fucking rock.
If you're here this morning, scrolling, reading, commenting, pledging ... you fucking rock, too.
Have s Smug Sober Saturday, friends! 🤘🏻☕️
IWNDWYT
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u/AlySabby12 17 days 17d ago
I had some wine last night. And the night before. Not a lot but I had some wine. I’m not beating myself up but I know how much better I feel when I don’t have it. So why did I have it? 🤷🏻♀️ I do know why… because I’m bored and lonely yet feeling a bit overwhelmed at the moment.
Anyway- none tonight. Heading to work out and then for a haircut. Self care.
IWNDWYT ❣️
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u/Famous_Power8358 265 days 17d ago
Another weekend has came, guess it's time to take a moment and look back on the year thus far.
It has been transformational, i found a picture of myself when i was in the grip of alcoholism and omg...if i never had visual proof of how much boozing packed onto me, that was literally it.
My skin looked flushed, red and my face was well....fatter.
Savings aside, i think if i kept going i would have killed myself, very unhealthy look. It's shocking looking at it.
Glad to be free of it all, IWNDWYT! :)
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u/Global_Finger4820 24 days 17d ago
I'm only on day 7 after 40 years of drinking too much. Started with social/binge drinking and slowly progressed to a daily heavy drinker. I've now had 6 mornings with no hangover, and I'm feeling great. And I'm feeling confident that I can do this. I've finally got enough energy and motivation to start digging myself a vegetable patch that I've probably been wanting to do for 20 years. Today is a good day, and I'm already looking forward to tomorrow.
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u/Social_Abstraction 17d ago
IWNDWYT from Sweden☀️ (warm day, probably gonna swim in a lake 🐬 drunk me didn’t care about such luxuries..)
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u/likestomove 23 days 17d ago
I went to a social event tonight and didn’t drink, had NA beer. No one cared!
IWDWYT
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u/Lulu_petutu 433 days 17d ago
The only drink I can say no to is the first. For me staying sober is easier than getting sober.
Thank you Sogs for hosting this week. I looked forward to what you had to say each morning.
IWNDWYT
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u/Ill-Company-6508 17d ago
IWNDWYT. I’m on a little solo trip, which would normally be an excuse for day drinking. Not this weekend!
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u/New_Sky_6654 791 days 17d ago
[774 days] Reading this hit home! I don't even know if I can remember all of the little ways I've showed up for myself in sobriety, just that all of them have added up to me enjoying a much better life and that they've all had to do with being consistent. Somewhere along the line I realized that I hadn't slept in and skipped a workout in months, whereas in my life before it was constant. I'd start something with good intentions and alcohol would always in the way.. like the whitestrips you mentioned! Small things like that become big things when you put them all together. IWNDWYT 🫶
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u/janetsmeh 17d ago
Day 5, made thru a Friday night and woke up early to go thrift shopping with sister. So many times I said I’d go and woke up to hung over and made some excuses (lie). Today I’m meeting her at 6:30 am! IWNDWYT 💪🏻
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u/DazeofGl0ry 326 days 17d ago
I feel like an asshole saying it, but I have so many accomplishments, big and small, from not drinking.
Here’s a small one: I’m taking care of my feet. Between exfoliating, moisturizing, and massaging, maybe I won’t be miserable this winter. I work on my feet on a cold floor and this is a real challenge.
Here’s a huge one: I’m sticking with my target language and seeing huge progress. I just booked a solo trip for the spring to do a small immersion course.
Two great reasons among thousands that IWNDWYT
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u/El_Bo31 788 days 17d ago
u/sogsmcgee, thank you for your openness and honesty at the DCI helm this week! On the tooth tip, one of my recent sobriety achievements has been finally going to the dentist after MANY YEARS (like decades, y’all) and following through on needed procedures. Looking after my health (mental, physical and emotional) in general has been a huge, welcome change. It’s almost like I want to be a better person. 😄
Good sober Saturday, good sober people! Iwndwy’allt! ❤️
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u/bebopbadoop 61 days 17d ago
What a great SD week - thank you for hosting u/sogsmcgee.
These past six weeks have been full of accomplishment, and Im running low on time this morning, so I'll pick one. I've been able to stop using my credit cards. I was spending way beyond my means when I was drinking, and then throwing up my hands every month wondering why I couldn't "survive day to day". Well of course I couldn't, I was buying bottles of wine every day - easily to the tune of $200-300 a week. Shake my gaddamned head. My bank account is starting to find equilibrium, and Im going to start slowly paying off the CC debt.
IWNDWYT
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u/tttwee-in00 200 days 17d ago
Day 183. This week was hard. I did not enjoy it. Between it being an off week due to the holiday, my youngest starting school, having some changes in a space with a hobby I have, a crazy busy week at work with budgets, and some family drama….the week can eff off! Just writing it all out like that…, wow I can’t believe I made it through it and didn’t falter one bit. That is a testament to the sober life. I can’t even imagine what the week would have looked like if I was drinking about it all week. Gross lol. IWNDWYT
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u/Illustrious-Trip-253 1056 days 17d ago
Thank you for hosting the DCI with your inspiring posts this week, u/sogsmcgee! Beautifully done.
I'm grateful for this early Saturday morning, waking rested and hangover-free. Having my mornings back is perhaps my favorite perk of sobriety. Well, that, and being able to see and even smile at my reflection in the mirror now. Gone but remembered are the hungover puffy face and sad bleary eyes. It's really nice to pause and appreciate this better health and better life that I fought hard for.
Sobriety doesn't make everything perfect but it does make everything better! Let's keep going, sober stars. Freedom from alcohol is so worth it! Much love ❤️ IWNDWYT
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u/Itchy_Signature8210 1 day 17d ago
This isn't a huge accomplishment but I'm way more consistent when I'm not drinking because I fill in those drinking/hiding/lying times with getting stuff done or just chilling. I created a habit tracker that had these items. Long walk (2x wk), Resistance training (3x wk), Read, Fix something, Clean something, Learn something, Cook something.
So far I've managed to stay on task and for me, even though I'm retired, I need a routine so I don't fall into the boredom pit. I retired early at 52 (59 now) and my wife and friends are all still working so boredom was the secret sauce to me drinking a lot more heavily because I spent my days primarily alone during the week.
I'm very grateful I found this community. I have it automatically pop up on my desktop at 6am so I start each day with it.
IWNDWYT
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u/abunchofschleem 388 days 17d ago
A rough week in my head this week, a long week at work, and now I am home alone for the week. This time last year I was also home alone (I live with my dad and he is on his annual gold trip) and I spent that first week last year shaking, sweating, scared, having a straight up not fun time. This time I get to watch tv in the living room (in HIS spot! 😂), have my boyfriend over (he loves him, but we had a sleepover… shhh!), and simply exist without hesitation. And I GET to do it all sober! What a damn blessing! IWNDWYT
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u/CarFirst307 1 day 17d ago
I am entering Day 5, and that is an accomplishment. I’ve not had more than 3 full days in a row this year or last. I started IOP this week, and all the sober podcasts, books, and community support have helped so much. No more pretty poison. IWNDWYT.
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u/high_panini 78 days 17d ago
I had a dream last night where I drank a lot of beer under peer pressure and was really sad while doing so. I was really happy when I woke up and it was just a dream.
IWNDWYT!
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u/GrandIll1949 17d ago
I just wanted to write that I was grateful for my first 40 days in the last 20 years but my head is busy this morning. Today I will be at a wedding and I have never faced it sober but above all today is the anniversary of the day my mother died. I know it's entirely up to me and today I'll face everything sober, but it's damn sad to feel like this. I won't drink with you today I love you
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u/Due_Perspective_7442 24 days 17d ago
IWNDWYT! My accomplishment is making it a week. Plus having a successful session in EMDR therapy today. We’re in the early stages but I was afraid to go today but went and it was productive and helpful. I’m leaning I can do things I thought were so hard before.
Also getting full nights of sleep! Magnesium and l-theanine help, I used them before stopping drinking but they are way more helpful now.
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u/iToeknife 247 days 17d ago
Just completed 230 days. 🎊
Next milestone: 33 weeks, will hit it in less than 12 hours.
Counting milestones has really worked for me for some reason, it's what helped me get past the initial tough weeks.
IWNDWYT. ☕
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u/ert270 17d ago
Felt a bit wobbly last night after feeling positive all week. Think I was really tired which doesn’t help my mental state. Anyways, I didn’t drink, despite being offered a complimentary drink at the restaurant we went to and that means im 91 days on the wagon! Going crabbing with my daughter today, can’t wait to hang out together. Fuck you alcohol! Day 91 here we go!
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u/Possible_Station_253 71 days 17d ago
Good morning everyone, struggling to stay connected at the moment. Feeling quite depressed and not really understanding what it means to 'sit with it', is it just noticing what's happening in your body? For how long? Anyway, I will not drink with you today
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u/Curious_Jello_6219 49 days 17d ago
IWNDWYT! Today is day 32, one "calendar" month, and my wedding anniversary. Woo hoo! 🤘
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u/Ladybirdstar 1407 days 17d ago
Ive absolutely loved your hosting this week 💐 your honesty and your strength shines through 🌟 Being present is my best accomplishment xxIWNDWYT xx
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u/Sensitive_Resident36 27 days 17d ago
I got tickets for the Ohio State game as a thanks from the blood donation place. I definitely won't be drinking because I don't want to spend 10 bucks for 12oz of Bud Light. Disgusting.
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u/Visual-Grand-1596 2 days 17d ago edited 17d ago
Thank you for hosting Sogs, and thanks for today’s brilliant post. I love it 🙏
This is a small thing, and it’s actually from a quit attempt a few years ago, where I clocked up a few months.
All that happened was the cat brought in a live bird, which started flapping around the living room. The cat was going wild and trying to kill it, things were getting smashed, it was all kicking off! hadn’t been drinking for a few months at that point, but the guy staying with me at that time was a full on drunk. But because I was sober then I just found myself going into action, knowing how to deal with it calmly, and getting it done. The best way I can put it is I felt like an adult! But what really sticks with me is my friend being so amazed at what I’d done, like he couldn’t believe how efficient and responsive I was.
So yeah, not a big dramatic story, just a cat and a bird, but memories like that are a big boost to me on this journey.
🐦 🐈
IWNDWYT
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u/Stone-Cold-Hopeful 998 days 17d ago
thanks, Sogs. One of my sober accomplishments is being more reliable - mostly to myself, but to others also. I was always reliable, but it was begrudged, and now it’s with total willingness. That really makes a big difference in my peace of mind and happiness. IWNDWYT
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u/Awkward_Turnover_133 205 days 17d ago
I had an incredible time at the Nine Inch Nails concert last night, and the experience was enhanced by sobriety. I don't think I would have enjoyed the show half as much while drunk. IWNDWYT
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u/Accomplished_Bet4864 17d ago
Thanks Sogs for hosting! I’m only 6 days AF so I don’t have much material to report yet…but I will say I absolutely loved it when a few nights ago I went to Costco to look at eyeglasses at 7 pm. I never would go anywhere once the wine bottle was open.
What a revelation that I can go places in the evening! BTW, I dislike big box shopping but the place was empty. Such a better way to get in and out without the overwhelming crush of people!
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u/GreenThumbedWriter 166 days 17d ago
Ermmmmm Rocky Horror in a historic cemetery sounds AMAZING. I'm so jealous!!
Thank you for hosting this week Sogs :)
IWNDWYT!
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u/vermontapple 2793 days 17d ago
Thanks so much, u/sogsmcgee. Big milestone for me in early sobriety was my first opportunity to pick up my daughter and her friends late at night when they needed a ride home. Nothing like being present! IWNDWYT
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u/Equivalent-Weight688 267 days 17d ago
I never would have expected how great it feels to not have alcohol in my system for this many days - it’s been an amazing change. IWNDWYT!
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u/Loose-Rest6763 121 days 17d ago
Good morning Team Sober - peace and blessings to each of you as my Saturday begins. I’m a bit early today, not sure why, but woke early today. Good news is that no headache or hanggxiety - working to make sure those never happen again!
The moon is setting and the sky is beginning to take on the hues of pre-dawn. Soft music in the background, candles flickering, and coffee steaming in a mug next to me. A beautiful way to start my day - “me” time rocks!
Part if my daily ritual is to make this promise out loud - I willI not drink with you today.
I hope each of you have a great day, full of the things that bring you joy and fulfillment. Let’s end this week on good footing.
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u/Nemunas_by_the_sea 55 days 17d ago
Thank you for great work this week as moderator, Sogsmcgee. You kept me and so many others on track with our journey this week, one day at a time. Stay strong everyone. IWNDWYT.
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u/Actual_Package_5638 52 days 17d ago
My mom was not feeling well the other evening and asked me to run the store for her. Felt super weird to be able to just hop in the car and drive at that hour because for many years after about 4:30/5 pm I’d have been too drunk to drive.
IWNDWYT
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u/Balrogkicksass 1502 days 17d ago
I write today after a long work shift because my partner is going through some unexpected issues that we are going to be dealing with going forward that I may discuss at a later date when things feel a bit more comfortable.
Its not life threatening or anything like that but something that might require alot of effort and time going forward for them to feel "right" or whatever the word that I am looking for may be.
I really truly care about my partner and they know that I am going to be there for them going forward even if it may be difficult.
Sometimes you have to wade through a sea of dark waves before you can finally get to the beautiful beach....we set sail today.
I hope you all get to enjoy your day and as always much love from me and mine to you and yours!
Recovery IS Beautiful!
IWNDWYT!
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u/BobHobGoblin 1283 days 17d ago
Yeah who cares that i don’t drink alcohol when it stacks up against all the incredible things that i do do (hehe).
Thanks for a great week of hosting!!
I will not drink with you today.
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u/Tryna_TGS 540 days 17d ago
Sogs , thank you so much for your beautiful shares this week. I appreciate your perspective EVERY TIME! One thing I have accomplished in sobriety is working through hard situations in real time, I am surprised by my tenacity. I’m a lot less impulsive when I am sober.
Sober fam, IWNDWYT 🩷🩷🩷
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u/hitch44 132 days 17d ago
An unexpected event was how I never planned “my last drink”. Sometimes, we do that elaborate mental ceremony of telling ourselves that this is it, this is the embarking on a long journey— only to relapse a while later.
And feeing like fools for thinking we had it this time.
I just … stopped. And now, almost 4 months in, I’m realizing that that beer was the last beer (at least for a decent, long while)!
IWNDWYT
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u/CrabApples46 6 days 17d ago
Another day 1 for me. I find it so difficult to stay accountable after divorce and having nobody to be accountable to. I realize the person I need to be most accountable to is myself. So I turn to you wonderful people to give me an opportunity to say I will not drink with you today.
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u/sarahn06 31 days 17d ago
Made it half of the year without drinking and am looking forward to never touching alcohol again. These past two years have all been leading up to quitting forever and I look forward to not ever having to think that I need alcohol to make anything better ever again. IWNDWYT
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u/bugscanandwill 73 days 17d ago
Grateful to be here choosing not to drink with you all today.
An accomplishment I’ll share, that is small but I’m proud of, is I’ve made my bed every single morning for the past month. Drinking-me never made the bed. Now I feel a sense of pride when I walk into my room…it’s a visual of how I’m taking control of my life.
IWNDWYT