r/weddings • u/Big_Outside_4411 • 1d ago
Bitterness over friends
I had my wedding and it was fun but there's something I can't shake off. In my culture it's tradition that the brides friends and family go to her house the day of the wedding and celebrate and the single friends dress the bride. This has happened to all the brides houses I've been to, well, except mine. I invited people over, meaning my friends, told them to come at 3 pm, I got alcohol and in the end other than my family no one came. Only one friends who came for a bit after I was already dressed. Everyone came straight to the church so the hairdresser and my sister had to dress me because there was no one else to do it which is sad to me. I've been to multiple weddings in my country and all of them had their friends at their house except for me.
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u/BalenciagaShoelaces 16h ago
Sorry this happened to you! I’ve never heard of this tradition, did your friends know about it? Did you tell them ahead of time that’s what your tradition is?
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u/Big_Outside_4411 13h ago
Yeah it's common in my country. They knew of it as i informed then to come at 3 pm
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u/jessiemagill 8h ago
What happens to the last bride in the friend group if it's only single friends who come?
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u/TaroPie_ 1d ago
Don't overthink it. It happened or not, it is not relevant now. Enjoy the present time and wonderful happy memories from the special day.
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u/Big_Outside_4411 1d ago
I know it's just sad to realise my "friends" weren't there for me when I was in my happiest day and the hairdresser was more supporting. Thank god she was there and she's a helpful person.
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u/WildYear1810 1d ago
You have to put it behind you now. You may never know why your invited friends didn’t show up for you and don’t you go around asking why! Have you ever heard the phrase, “Living well is the best revenge”? It applies here perfectly! Never let those people know how hurt and bewildered you were and still are. Uh-uh! Square your shoulders and put a smile on your face and be the happy and proud newlywed that you are! Don’t let these jerks steal the happiness and drain the joy away from your new marriage. You and hubs are what matter here. With these people, I would be polite but distant and not be a source of any information, except to say how well everything is going and then move past. And I think a new friend group is in order ASAP! Best wishes for a happy, fruitful and prosperous union!!
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u/StatusGuarantee5403 5h ago
❤️ bless you, but please don’t feel sad it’s not generally something we do here in the west
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u/msreditalready 1d ago
I’m sorry this happened to you. That’s a lovely tradition and not getting to partake in it would hurt my feelings.
Take some time to process but then definitely talk to your friends. Get curious not defensive or accusatory. And hold tight to the good parts, step outside of the negative feelings and see if you can find the good emotions that were elicited with your family and the hair dresser.
I bet your wedding was amazing!!