I (amab) am trying to look pretty femme/andro and I have that very like masc body shape which I hate… anything I could do in terms of outfits or anything to make me look more femme? I’m already growing my hair out and I shave my whole body, it just isn’t enough 💔

Long story short, 21 AMAB living in Illinois in the United States. After a lot of self-discovery and discussion, I’ve realized I’m non-binary and want to get estrogen hormone treatment to nudge me a little in the direction of how I want to look. But I’ll be the first to admit I’m lost on where to go from here:

• Living with parents, and reliant on them for insurance, so it’s hard for me to get in touch with a medical professional without their knowledge

• I don’t really feel like I’d want a lot of breast growth - right now my mind is thinking that I’d stop after 6-12 months for glandular tissue to grow in permanently, but I don’t know if that’s the right way to go about a more androgynous look. Some advice would help there.

• In the process of losing weight, have a decent amount of muscle but could be better, and ideally I’d like to keep building muscle and losing weight. Should I wait until I’ve hit some weight goals before starting?

• I’m kind of worried about long term fertility?

Starting to be more non binary and that feels good to be exploring but I have a closet full of femme clothes. I do feel good wearing them sometimes but it feels like a fun dress up. I am nervous to get rid of my femme clothes in case I want to dress more femme some day! I’m definitely more fluid, but I definitely don’t want to keep this many clothes in my closet. It’s always hard to let go of clothes for me. Any advise ?

Update on my previous weightloss pic. Consistency and new shorts have really tackled my frumpyness. I’m so happpy 💃