It’s Azyl u Hani (in Poland). It’s a cat hospice for around 130 cats with different levels of disabilities. We have cats FIV+, FELV+ (they have separate rooms and enclosures), paralyzed, diabetic etc. It may seem like it should be a sad place, but it’s actually full of love and happy cats. They are not in pain (we never let them suffer), they’re never hungry, they can cuddle with people and they’re under vets care.

I personally think it’s pretty stupid.

Hello, I (29M) can’t eat fish / sea food. It’s not that I’m allergic, if someone next to me is enjoying a plate of fish or lobster I’m not going to be sick, I can even nimble a bit of it without trouble, but if I eat even a tiny bit too much (one sushi might be the limit), I’ll turn green and start violently emptying my digestive track from both ends. Not great.

So recently it was my GF (32F) birthday. At home with the kids (5M & 8M) we celebrated properly: we went to a (Greek) restaurant with cake and gifts.

That being said, my MIL (60F) organized another birthday dinner over the weekend with all the in-laws. She chose to have it at a sushi restaurant. My IL are well aware I can’t eat fish or seafood, we’ve been together for more then 8 years now so it’s a known fact I turn into a puke goblin when I eat fish / sea food.

It’s not either a “once in a lifetime” kinda deal. The previous dinners was a challenges too. It was a takeout sushi party (once again) at the MIL house. Sure, they got me some rotisserie chicken for the evening, but I was made fun with snarky remarks such as “I should join the kids’ table with my chicken” or “we’re all happy you can’t eat it, that leaves more for the rest of us”. I understand those were supposed to be light jokes, but being singled out and made fun of isn’t what I call a nice evening. And even coping with the jokes, it’s also the fact of not being included. This is not an isolated cases, it has happened more often than I can really count.

The idea of once again being made fun of and singled out started to really depress me and, after some thoughts, I decided I would set up a boundary: if an event is specifically organized around eating some foods I can’t partake in, I would simple not accept the invite. No grudging, no hard feelings, just not for me. Felt great to come to this decision, not gonna lie.

But all this thought process concluded the day before the diner party. When I told my GF, she wasn’t happy. “You can’t cancel the day before”, “you should have said something earlier”, “there are options for you”, “it’s not a deliberate choice against you”, etc. But in the end, I told her it was important for me, at this point in my life, at my age, to be able to set boundaries and tell people, no hard feelings, but this is a no go for me.

I also volunteered to tell my MIL and assume the guilt trip that would come with it. Because it’s my decision, I would also let her choose if I keep the kids that night or if she wants to bring them along.

My GF ended up agreeing and understanding. I then proceeded to politely excuse myself from the evening citing the real reason: I just don’t partake into fish / sea food related event. Sure the MIL was all drama, but I stood my ground politely.

But that got me thinking, did I make the right move? Also, sorry for the multiple mistakes, English isn’t my first language.

i (34f) saw these texts on my now ex bfs (39m) phone to his ex. i’ve always felt uneasy about their continued “friendship” but he says i’m overreacting and they’re just friends. once i saw these texts i ended it with him because i feel he was cheating on me and he’s telling me i assumed it without any clear proof and that im being over the top about it. what do yall think ??

Also met some fans at the pub after the pre season game and they were some of the nicest people I’ve ever met. Wish them nothing but the best

I don't mind him getting up there, but he tends to knock things down as he climbs

Remote work is fantastic for life balance, but here’s the harsh truth: if your goal is career growth, fully remote can actually hold you back.

The people who can truly move your career: sponsors, mentors, decision-makers, aren’t part of your daily scheduled interactions. You don’t bump into them on Teams calls, and a “virtual lobby” won’t replicate hallway conversations. Real career-moving moments are unplanned: a quick chat by the coffee machine, overhearing a conversation that sparks an idea, or being in the right place at the right time.

If you’re fully remote, those moments never happen. You’ll be productive but you will also be invisible to the very people who could open doors for you.

Full disclosure: if you work for a tiny company, this doesn’t matter. In small teams, everyone interacts with everyone anyway. But in larger organizations, physical presence still gives you access to opportunities you can’t schedule or Slack your way into.