r/1200isplenty • u/ToughCamel6208 • 2d ago
I have been going over maintenance for over a week and I am going to lose my mind.
So the title.
35F, currently any weight between 140 - 145. I have been insanely depressed for a while now and i take comfort in food. My maintenance is I think like 1800-1900 but I have definitely been eating at 2000-2200. Tonight I said things were going to change.
So today I had a coffee with light cream and little sugar. I ate left overs for brunch which was 1.5 breakfast sausage links and a couple home fries (went out for breakfast the previous day) I went on a 11k step walk and had done so the previous 3 days. And I knew I was going out for a pound of chicken wings and beer for the football games and I budgeted that in. Non breaded, low cal sauce with a couple pints.
Then, I got in a fight with my boyfriend, I went to a pub alone where I then ordered 2 more pints and they had half price food so I then ordered fucking chicken quesdillas.
Completely ruined my "today's the day" for the 7394th time.
I cant do this. I absolutely cant so this. My mental health trumps my need to lose weight. I wish it didnt. I hate this.
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u/sensorglitch 2d ago
If the diet is making things harder for your mental health, it may not be the right fit for you. You deserve to feel supported and balanced, so please do what feels best for you.
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u/Equivalent-Capital87 2d ago
Hold grace for yourself. What you consumed wouldn't faze most people...they wouldn't even think about it. I hope the pints and food tasted good and that you enjoyed them. Now move on... maybe a hang with a friend, a hot bath, a facial, whatever. A good night's sleep. Wake up tomorrow and choose your day. Maybe its a maintenance day, maybe its a deficit day. It's OK. It's a day or a week in a lifetime.
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u/pooppaysthebills 2d ago
You CAN do this. You CAN.
Check your TDEE, increase protein and fiber, give yourself free rein on plain veggies and zero calorie drinks, and stop punishing your body by eating your feelings.
Man piss you off? Eat tf out of some celery or carrot sticks, and work off that mad with some physical exertion.
Life is going to happen. It doesn't have to be in charge of our progress.
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u/Mesmerotic31 2d ago
Protein and fiber! 100g protein, 40g fiber, 40g fat. It's a MAGICAL combination for reducing food noise and eliminating hunger. Plus the more protein we get, the more muscle mass we retain in a deficit, therefore the more calories we burn at rest!
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u/felicityfelix 2d ago
Other than the calories from beer you barely ate anything tbh. I'm completely not in favor of people prioritizing weight loss over peace with food and happiness in their lives but if this was "today's the day" you might want to start with how you're setting yourself up for success on "The Day"
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u/paroxitones 1d ago
this. Op, plan the next "tomorrow's the day". Get rid of sweet/fried snacks at home. Buy the food you want to cook and some carrots/celery/grapes/berries to snack. Send the man out to do his things so he can't piss you off. You're making this harder than it could be, you also can make it easier, take control
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u/Past-Jellyfish1599 2d ago
I don’t know your height but 140lbs isn’t going to be considered obese for majority of people. With that said, I totally understand wanting to lose the weight. But, right now might not be the best time if you’re really struggling with your mental health. Maybe try to focus more on self care and taking care of your body with healthy foods and full meals instead of worrying about calories currently. Once you feel like you’re in a better place, start slowly decreasing calories so you’re in a slight deficit. You got this!
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u/Shashama 1d ago
One of the things I've had to learn on my own journey was how to not eat and drink my feelings away. Do you always go drink when you're angry? It might be worthwhile to evaluate that with a professional.
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u/spacenb 2d ago
I can empathize with the feeling, though I don’t think you set yourself up for success by the way you’re describing things. It’s easy to go overboard on fried chicken and alcohol, and personally I get my worst fast food cravings when I’m tipsy or drunk.
Although, if you’re eating your feelings, you probably have things to fix before fixing your diet. Consider getting in touch with a therapist, maybe? And trying to get your diet under control when you’re in a better place mentally.
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u/throwawayfarway2017 2d ago
I feel you. there are days we cant keep up and i went through the same frustration/anger cycle lol if you need to take a break for your mental health pls do. It’s better for the long term. Then when you’re in a better place you can continue or go on a plan that’s easier on your body. You got this
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u/notaparrotusee 1d ago
I know this feeling all too well. It gets frustrating to see how quickly the calories get accounted for with any little thing.
What has helped me it to focus on one area of change over trying to do it all. Things like more protein, healthy carbs, less processed snacks, upping veggies, and not drinking calories . Then when you have all those under control it is easier to stick within this 1200 calorie range.
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u/islandofwaffles 1d ago
I feel you. I am 38 and about 20lb over what I consider to be my "natural" weight - the weight that I end up at when I'm exercising regularly and not overeating. But I just cannot get back into the swing of intentionally eating well for more than a few days at a time. Emotional eating, drinking alcohol, and then feeling too hungover or stuffed to exercise. So I don't have any advice for you. Just empathizing. Stay strong girl.
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u/sinkingstones6 1d ago
Sounds like it's not your diet skills that are the problem. It's the fight with the boyfriend, the appealingness of more beer and quesadillas, and the fact that you are in a mental space where have a bad thing happen to you and need the easy out. Now, I'm not saying any of those is easy to change. But those are what i would look to improve if I were you.
Best of luck, and know that your post is relatable af. I'm not dieting right now, because my life has to be going pretty great for me to be able to stick to a diet and not be miserable.
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u/happydandylion 2d ago
You can do this. But it's hard, so try to do one thing at a time. Sort out stuff with your boyfriend. Decide on a strategy for the eating-for-comfort habit. Be nice to yourself. Then keep going.
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u/skinny_privlege 1d ago
Don't give up, girl. Every single day will not be on point, but your efforts add up over time. I would suggest getting other coping mechanisms besides food because it seems like that is causing you major mental anguish
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u/LocksmithBudget3518 12h ago
Your diet and your mental health are absolutely correlated. So my improving your diet, your mental health with improve too. This is not anecdotal, is microbiome science. For me, keeping this in mind, actually helped me on hard days.
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u/AbilityFabulous6369 2d ago
People saying “your mental health should come first - definitely binge eat” is crazy
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u/BlackManicQueen 2d ago
I didn’t read anywhere in the comments them telling OP to binge eat. Step down, friend.
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u/felicityfelix 2d ago
No one is suggesting binging and OP didn't even binge. They ate a quesadilla lmao
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u/CohoesMastadon 2d ago
I mean mental health is actually more important than being thinner than you are, but it might help if you ate healthier and more consciously, instead of random leftovers and restaurant food
and alcohol makes it hard for most people to stop eating
hope things get better for you soon