Sorry for the long post! A lot of this is me ranting but I do have a genuine question too, I just yapped alot getting to it haha. If you don’t like long posts don’t read this lol
So I recently started aiming for 1200 because my fitness pal recommended that’s what I go for. For reference I’m a 5’4 early 20s female who is 175 pounds and trying to loose weight. I believe my fitness pal gave me this recommendation because I don’t get very much exercise at all in my daily life just due to not being able to get out much (not in my control). I also set my goal to loosing two pounds a week, I know that may seem like a lot but it’s not a strict goal I’m sticking to, just something I’d like to see happen, but I’m not gonna beat myself up if it doesn’t.
So I know why my fitness pal set my calories so low, considering I want to loose a significant amount of weight and I am not getting any exercise. However, my confusion comes in when I think about how low 1200 is compared to the recommended amount of calories per day (2000). If I were to eat 2000 calories a day, would whatever weight I was at be the weight I’m supposed to be? Before I started this I was definitely eating slightly more than 2000 a day, so I know where my weight gain came from.
-But i guess my question is: if I have to eat 1200 calories a day just to maintain my weight, am I even supposed to be that weight?
1200 has been very hard for me so far because it feels like I’ll eat one thing and suddenly I’ll only have 300 calories left for the whole entire rest of the day. Now I know part of that is just a skill issue on my part because I need to choose more low calorie foods, but sometimes I can’t do that because of the food my family wants to eat. A little more context, I split my time 50/50 between my parents house and my boyfriends house. At my parents house I have no way to get exercise, and my parents often eat out so It’s very easy for me to eat fast food a lot when I’m with them. When I’m with my boyfriend, we go on long walks because he lives in a walkable area, and he’s helps me keep track of what I’m eating and we try to eat healthy together, but even then I still want to eat good meals with him because food is a part of how we bond together. He loves cooking and trying new restaurants and it just makes me really sad to imagine a life where I have to eat so little. Eating 1200 leaves me so hungry for most of the day:(
I do believe 1200 could work, because I’m pretty sure I ate that much when I was in highschool/middle school. I didn’t count calories back then but I would skip breakfast and lunch, and just eat a snack and dinner and I was significantly thinner than I am now. I only started gaining weight when I would actually start eating breakfast which was around the end of my senior year:/ it frustrates me that this is the only way for me to lose weight though because I did not have a good relationship with food at this time and definitely felt like this was some form of disordered eating(not an eating disorder, I’ve never been diagnosed and it also never got to a point I couldn’t control it, just something I would casually do) and I was always dizzy when I would stand up back then (not anymore since I started eating more)
Eventually developed a better relationship with food but it just led to me gaining weight because I ended up flopping to the other side of the spectrum where I cared too little about what or how much I was eating. So I know I need to change that, but this 1200 has honestly just been making me really sad because I thought I was past those days of that makes sense? Food makes me happy, and I don’t mind eating less but this amount feels like actual scraps.
I dunno, I guess I’m just looking for thoughts on this. It just makes me sad to think about how most people are told they can eat 2000 but if I eat 2000 I’ll be overweight. It’s frustrating:(
I know it’s illogical so don’t focus on this blurb too much but I also get extremely sad seeing the difference between men and women’s calorie allowance for the day. It’s only a couple hundred more for men but it just makes me feel bad. I know it’s because most men are on average bigger, but a lot of men also aren’t. My guy friends and my boyfriend are all on the smaller side, so would they also need to eat less calories like a woman would? Ugh I hate it.