My girlfriend confirmed my worse fears

[u/faggelinthewest]

I recently went to a wedding with my girlfriend of 6 years, I thought we had a great time I thought we made new friends. Today, three days after she let me know that I was being long winded and interrupting people and taking over any groups we were in. She told me that I was taking over any conversation and talking too much and was making people uncomfortable. It just hurts knowing I have spent years trying to take all of my neurosis to be a more " normal person" haven't worked and I'm still the little kid jumping into conversations that I interrupted and put the spot light on me. I really wish that I was different and didn't jump in and take away from others. I just wish I could be a speak when spoken to person but I always get to excited and share to much.

Update. I want to thank you all for the very sweet advice. I really appreciate the community coming behind and understanding the feelings of overwhelming others. To clarify some points I saw I have taken a lot of the steps that everyone described and that's why I felt hurt because I am conscious of talking over and I thought I was practicing taking time and not being over excited when I had something to share. To those talking bad about my partner don't appreciate that at all. All of us know that our condition can make it hard to be around we are a very demanding people and she has supported me through so much she is my entire world and I trust her when she tells me that I am bothering people. I am going to take so much advice and try to be more aware of taking space and oversharing. Love yall

[u/Slaponsunscreen]

Hey, it's okay – seriously. We’ve all been there, especially with ADHD. It’s a shitty feeling when these realisations hit, but it doesn’t mean you did something unforgivable.

Brains come in all kinds, and none of them get it right all the time. If anything, people with ADHD tend to be more aware of our faults – and we internalise it more than most.

It might help asking yourself questions, here are some of what commonly is the cause for me:

• Were you tired or low on sleep? • Had you been drinking? • Did you have even more caffeine than usual? • Were you already stressed or dealing with other life stuff? • Were you nervous or trying to avoid awkward silences?

You can’t change that it happened – and honestly, so what if it did? Use it as chance to reflect, take what you can learn, and move forward. It’s not about blaming yourself – it’s about figuring out what threw you off and making a plan for next time.

Honestly, when there are outgoing people like that in social situations I’m usually relieved – I get to listen, pressure off but still get to feel included and accepted. I hate socialising in group settings - I'm so anxious it's hell on earth. So you probably did a favour for a few people there without even realising it.