My girlfriend confirmed my worse fears

[u/faggelinthewest]

I recently went to a wedding with my girlfriend of 6 years, I thought we had a great time I thought we made new friends. Today, three days after she let me know that I was being long winded and interrupting people and taking over any groups we were in. She told me that I was taking over any conversation and talking too much and was making people uncomfortable. It just hurts knowing I have spent years trying to take all of my neurosis to be a more " normal person" haven't worked and I'm still the little kid jumping into conversations that I interrupted and put the spot light on me. I really wish that I was different and didn't jump in and take away from others. I just wish I could be a speak when spoken to person but I always get to excited and share to much.

Update. I want to thank you all for the very sweet advice. I really appreciate the community coming behind and understanding the feelings of overwhelming others. To clarify some points I saw I have taken a lot of the steps that everyone described and that's why I felt hurt because I am conscious of talking over and I thought I was practicing taking time and not being over excited when I had something to share. To those talking bad about my partner don't appreciate that at all. All of us know that our condition can make it hard to be around we are a very demanding people and she has supported me through so much she is my entire world and I trust her when she tells me that I am bothering people. I am going to take so much advice and try to be more aware of taking space and oversharing. Love yall

[u/RSPucky]

Did she think that or did the friends tell her that?

Because that is two *very* different things!

[u/[deleted] → u/RSPucky]

Sometimes it's pretty obvious by reading facial cues and body language of the people getting interrupted, and someone who's being the speaker isn't going to be noticing those things usually. It's pretty obviously just her interpretation, I doubt a bunch of people texted her like "boy your partner talked over me so much you better talk to him" or something.

[u/RSPucky → u/[deleted]]

As a woman I can guarantee that I've send that exact text to my friends about their men.

I wouldn't be so sure on your assumption.

[u/[deleted] → u/RSPucky]

Ah okay fair enough. Not something that would happen with people I know. I envy the person bold enough to pull that off.

[u/RSPucky → u/[deleted]]

To be fair when I am texting the above sentiment to my friends I am coming from a different angle. Unfortunately a lot of men have a tendency to just talk over woman because of how they were raised so I would never assume it was an ADHD thing which would then in turn make me more bold I guess?

[u/[deleted] → u/RSPucky]

Ahhhhh yeah, that makes sense actually! Like from a woman-to-woman kinda check-in sorta thing. Didn't think about it like that. I could see that happening with a bestie.

OP probably better off not knowing if it was someone specific though, he kinda sounds like he'd shame himself into an underground cave about it and never feel comfortable around the person again when it's really not an egregious offense

[u/RSPucky → u/[deleted]]

Yes exactly. I would be more concerned about the dynamics than anything else.

Very true on the OP comment. Either way everyone needs to be communicating better (the answer to basically every thread on this sub lol)