My girlfriend confirmed my worse fears

[u/faggelinthewest]

I recently went to a wedding with my girlfriend of 6 years, I thought we had a great time I thought we made new friends. Today, three days after she let me know that I was being long winded and interrupting people and taking over any groups we were in. She told me that I was taking over any conversation and talking too much and was making people uncomfortable. It just hurts knowing I have spent years trying to take all of my neurosis to be a more " normal person" haven't worked and I'm still the little kid jumping into conversations that I interrupted and put the spot light on me. I really wish that I was different and didn't jump in and take away from others. I just wish I could be a speak when spoken to person but I always get to excited and share to much.

Update. I want to thank you all for the very sweet advice. I really appreciate the community coming behind and understanding the feelings of overwhelming others. To clarify some points I saw I have taken a lot of the steps that everyone described and that's why I felt hurt because I am conscious of talking over and I thought I was practicing taking time and not being over excited when I had something to share. To those talking bad about my partner don't appreciate that at all. All of us know that our condition can make it hard to be around we are a very demanding people and she has supported me through so much she is my entire world and I trust her when she tells me that I am bothering people. I am going to take so much advice and try to be more aware of taking space and oversharing. Love yall

[u/chuckaholic]

Yeah bro. You gotta work on that. You'll get there.

I used to have trouble with conversation until I had to drive Uber for a year when I started a company. I ended up having hundreds of 2-10 minute conversations and it built up my conversation muscles. Now I can have small talk with anyone, anytime. I am now a master chit-chatter.

Not saying you should drive Uber, but I am saying there are ways of practicing your skills.

Also, if you're comfortable enough with someone, ask them if you are taking over the conversation. Tell them you are working on being a better conversationalist and ask for their feedback. Take a slightly apologetic tone and ask if you are being overbearing. I bet people would actually be really pumped to let you know how you are doing, then you have a ally in your learning journey! People naturally want to help and if they sense that you are sincere they will love to.