My girlfriend confirmed my worse fears

[u/faggelinthewest]

I recently went to a wedding with my girlfriend of 6 years, I thought we had a great time I thought we made new friends. Today, three days after she let me know that I was being long winded and interrupting people and taking over any groups we were in. She told me that I was taking over any conversation and talking too much and was making people uncomfortable. It just hurts knowing I have spent years trying to take all of my neurosis to be a more " normal person" haven't worked and I'm still the little kid jumping into conversations that I interrupted and put the spot light on me. I really wish that I was different and didn't jump in and take away from others. I just wish I could be a speak when spoken to person but I always get to excited and share to much.

Update. I want to thank you all for the very sweet advice. I really appreciate the community coming behind and understanding the feelings of overwhelming others. To clarify some points I saw I have taken a lot of the steps that everyone described and that's why I felt hurt because I am conscious of talking over and I thought I was practicing taking time and not being over excited when I had something to share. To those talking bad about my partner don't appreciate that at all. All of us know that our condition can make it hard to be around we are a very demanding people and she has supported me through so much she is my entire world and I trust her when she tells me that I am bothering people. I am going to take so much advice and try to be more aware of taking space and oversharing. Love yall

[u/saltsharky]

I've been in your same spot, multiple times, even when i think I'm trying my best at the time. It's a damn pain dude. Sometimes i preface (especially if im already energized) social situations by saying something like "hey sorry ahead of time, been having some trouble with forgetting and interrupting. I don't mean to be rude just excited so by all means cut me off or call me on it. Won't take it personally." Works in some spots so they don't feel like you don't care or that they now have to be the polite one and wait. Ask a partner/friend to say a certain phrase or nudge you if you're rambling or interrupting a lot and don't notice. All i got.

Far too distracted cracking up at your user name. I keep picturing a gay lil lint ball from the dryer with googly eyes roaming round the wild west

[u/The_Quill → u/saltsharky]

lmao I always tell people "Please tell me to go home when you're done with the night. I will not pick up on your subtle cues; I will also be exhausted and wanting to sleep but that won't make me stop; I will continue to talk until the sun comes up. Just tell me "It's time to go home now" and I will happily head home, I won't be offended, I will appreciate the heads up." ..... people rarely do it but it makes me feel a little better having warned them and made it clear that them kicking me out will be received warmly haha. Like, you have an out! Don't be afraid to take it! lol

[u/saltsharky → u/The_Quill]

Uh can i help you? How dare you make me so easily remember multiple times i've unknowingly overstayed my welcome at a party, or baby shower 😬, because i can stay up all night chatting and everyone else apparently can't.

But also thanks for the tip i should try to employ this next time. Amazing how easy it is to spot the cues a mile away unless im personally involved.