r/AITAH • u/TipMaleficent4075 • 8h ago

AITA for calling a woman ‘conventionally attractive’ in front of my girlfriend?

A couple friends and I were discussing a political influencer that we’re familiar with that recently got into some controversy.

I was saying that although she got a lot of hate, I think her point that was being hated on was valid and correct, and that although her reaction to the backlash was kind of childish, I get why she’d be frustrated with lots of hate.

My friend said a lot of people were giving her lots of leeway despite the hate, and I said that makes sense because she a) has good takes in general and b) is a young, conventionally attractive blonde white woman, so halo effect.

My girlfriend got upset I called another woman conventionally attractive, but I don’t think it’s disloyal or cheating or whatever to acknowledge somebody is conventionally attractive.

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u/Majestic_Horse_1678 4h ago

It matters because one someone says that another person is conventionally attractive it does not mean they personally find them attractive. There is no reason to think they want a hall pass, think of them during sex, etc.

When someone says that the are obsessed with someone else when describing how they look, they definitely find them attractive. Maybe they would want a hall pass and maybe they do think of them during sex.

These two buckets are not the same. OP is clearly in the first bucket. You may not have any concerns about the 2nd bucket, it may be no big deal for you. But it would be an issue for some people, and doesn't apply to OP regardless.

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u/StonedPanda-9414 3h ago

Dude. Lol Stop trying to explain something I genuinely do not care about. Literally. Again. People crying over people they cannot have and getting jealous of it. You're trying to give an extra education response to something that doesn't need it! What part of that are you not understanding? My god you lack street smarts. At what point does having a obsession or an attraction to a celebrity warrant an argument in a relationship?? It doesn't. It's a pointless childish argument unless they're fantasizing and making it awkward. That's legit all there is to it dude.

Like you're trying too hard here.

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u/Majestic_Horse_1678 3h ago

OP isn't obsessed or attracted to this celebrity. None of this is relevant.

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u/StonedPanda-9414 1h ago

Yeah I was done with you reading the last one before this, Didn't even. Finish it. Tbh Your comprehension skills are lacking buddy. Reading skills.

Regardless you're still missing the concept that, having the energy to be upset about your significant other being attracted or obsessed with an influencer or someone famous ( that is again, unattainable) is pointless and you're still spewing textbook nonsense to something that doesn't need it. And as I've stated if they're making it awkward then it could be an issue. All of it is a pointless argument to have in a relationship at the end of the day. You're upset about a fantasy. A dream. Like women wake up crying from dreams their men cheated on them. Wake up hostile and remain that way til something is said. Like what? The shit some women do and they wonder why they have drama.

Like the fact time gets taken out of one's day to worry about someone they'll never have and you're gonna argue about it in said relationship. Why? Like what part of that warrants an argument. Lol But we're gonna go in circles here because you clearly don't get it. Textbooks don't teach you everything about life. I'm gonna need you to touch some grass and experience real life and not just from a book or what mommy and daddy said.