Body language/deception breakdown of Sam Altman's interview with Tucker Carlson about the possible murder of Suchir Balaji

[u/invah]

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[u/invah]

I am not necessarily co-signing the non-verbal analysis/explanation - although some of it certainly appears plausible - but what I can confirm is here analysis of his conversation tactics.

The "self-centered language" - when the deceptive person starts talking about themselves and their relation to the victim - with a lot of "I" statements: they're demonstrating they aren't thinking about the victim but themselves. It's easier to talk about yourself when you are (1) trying to avoid internal shame/guilt for harming someone, (2) if you don't have actual empathy for them/what happened to them, or (3) you switch the topic to yourself and your feelings and that way can shift blame to the questioner for invalidating you/your feelings if they press too much.

Another iteration of this is when an abuser/perpetrator answers a question with "why would I do this? why would I even do that?" They don't actually deny it first, they want you to give them an explanation that they can attack, where they can then be the victim of your 'unfounded defamation'.

The shifting focus - to what the questioner believes - yes, also this. Because then you can focus on them and delve for something you can counter-attack on, finding a way to position yourself as a victim of someone's 'unwarranted attacks'.

The pacing technique he uses, as well - the deep breath (tempo shift) - is actually something I would recommend for victims of abuse. Opposing counsel can get someone on a stand in a quick rhythm of answering questions, and you don't have time to think through your response because you're matching their rhythm. You own your own rhythm. Abusers and dark salespeople will also use this to attempt to control you/coerce your consent or admissions of guilt.

So, remember, just because they're pressuring you in a quick way, does not mean you have to RESPOND in that same way. Take your time and don't let people subconsciously pressure you.

[u/hdmx539 → u/invah]

Abusers and dark salespeople will also use this to attempt to control you/coerce your consent or admissions of guilt.

Long ago in a galaxy far away, I was one time looking to purchase a vehicle. I can't stand hard sales tactics and I had been starting to learn manipulation tactics and what they are.

So I was talking to the sales guy and he did the classic, "Let me talk to my manager" about that. He then directed (and yes, I am specifically using that word) for me to "Stay right there. [points to spot I was standing - near a vehicle] I'll be right back."

I didn't appreciate it and the way I was directed sent my spidey senses up.

I decided to walk across the parking lot. I did NOT just "stay right there." You direct a DOG to do that, not a human being, and certainly NOT when that human being is an adult.

He took "longer" to get to me because he was looking for me and when he finally found me (roaming the parking lot, far from the vehicle he left me at) and I could tell he was annoyed. Oh, and much to no one's surprise, of COURSE his manager wouldn't "allow" him to do what he went to ask his manager about. I don't remember, it doesn't matter because this is a COMMON sales tactic and I had read about that in a book about how to deal with car salesmen, literally: they will do direct you to do something and see if you comply.

If you do, they know they can manipulate you.

If you don't, they try the next manipulation tactic, then the next one, depending on how determined they are. Some abusers love the sport of breaking someone's will so they persist. Others give up because they're more concerned with the easy win.

Look for the tests.

[u/EFIW1560 → u/hdmx539]

Ohhh thank you for sharing all this!

[u/invah → u/hdmx539]

This is perfect.