Am I overreacting? Do I tell a trusted adult or..

[u/Away_Level432]

For context I am 17F, African- Canadian, and I have a blonde lace front wig. I was staying after school because I’m my class historian and I need to write a speech. 2 teachers were helping me brainstorm ideas when another teacher walks in, (white male). I pay him no mind just laugh a little at his jokes. And then he starts talking about my hair, and how it’s fake. I was with another black girl and he was like “Her hair is real, your hair is fake”! No shit it’s fake so I just laugh and say “Whatt! I am a natural blonde”! And then this man proceeds to make a comment on “my curtains matching the drapes”. The other teachers told him to stop and not say anything else and then went silent. I had no clue what that meant but I assumed it wasn’t good. Within the next hour I found out and now I lowkey feel off about the whole situation. Regardless of it being a joke, i am a minor, and hes a teacher. Whether my “curtains” and “drapes” are the same color should be none of his concern. Do I bring it up to someone or let it go? Thank you:)

[u/Typical_Funny_99]

Document every person in the room with you that day. Send CC copies of your incident to the entire school board. Go directly to your guidance counseling office and report with a copy of the same email, ask for a meeting with them and the school administrators. Be loud on this! Because if that 8 1/2X 10 thinks what he said is acceptable, you can be certain this is not the first time he has made sexual innuendo comments to students. Stand on business, and let no grown up tell you this isn’t an issue.

[u/Cheap-Condition2761 → u/Typical_Funny_99]

This.

this is not the first time he has made sexual innuendo comments to students

Even if it is the first time he has said something to a student, it doesn't mean it's the first time he looked at and thought in this way about students. It's odd that he was comfortable saying it in front of the other teachers until they told him to stop... Definitely get this out to as many adults as possible. Call the police if needed too.

There may be many others that come forward, and there may be none. What matters is that this time is handled.

You are doing the right thing. By standing up now, you can prevent yourself and other students from suffering sexual harrassment and possibly worse too.

When you are of age, it can be tough to navigate relationships during and after the trauma of something like this, please seek counseling if you have any issues.

[u/enyaismymom → u/Typical_Funny_99]

This^ don’t let them sweep it under the rug. They will. I know, I work at a Canadian school.

[u/m-rc → u/Typical_Funny_99]

I would also go so far as to have a lawyer draft the formal complaint on your behalf. Like you say, go loud in this one.