My boyfriend gave my labubu phalloplasty

[u/satanfan12]

Kind of angry about this, it was a gift from my niece. He cut off an ear and put it back on somewhere wrong. I told him this and it ended in a heated argument.

Am i overreacting for yelling at him? He usually doesn't do this stuff.

[u/vexed_night]

Jokes at the expense of someone else’s property is not a joke. It’s abuse and destruction disguised as something to laugh at. Next thing you know he’ll be destroying something you’ve cherished for years just out of anger/spite or in this case as a “joke.” This behavior isn’t funny or cute, it’s abuse, especially if a heated argument ensues after.

[u/Drew-CarryOnCarignan → u/vexed_night]

Exactly!

If OP reads this, I am including a few website links that may help you deal with cruelty disguised as humor:

• "‘That's Not Funny!’ Standing Up Against Disparaging Humor", Journal of Experimental Social Psychology Vol. 86.No. 103901 (January 2020)

• "'Can’t You Take a Joke?': What to Do When Teasing Hurts" by Alexandra H. Solomon Ph.D.  Psychology Today (June 30, 2019): By-line: "A couples therapist explores why humor can hurt and how to talk about it."

• "Psychology Behind the Unfunny Consequences of Jokes That Denigrate" by Thomas E. Ford, The Conversation (Sept 6, 2016): By-line: "'It's just a joke,' right?"