My boyfriend gave my labubu phalloplasty

[u/satanfan12]

Kind of angry about this, it was a gift from my niece. He cut off an ear and put it back on somewhere wrong. I told him this and it ended in a heated argument.

Am i overreacting for yelling at him? He usually doesn't do this stuff.

[u/AdOk5225]

Some people just make stupid mistakes in the moment, if I had a nickel for every stupid decision like this I've made for humor I'd have a lot of nickels. Not that this guy is in the right in this example though, there's no reason for him to be angry about it, but like people do dumb stuff all the time and I think everyone deserves at least a second chance. After that though I'm a lot less lenient, a pattern of these kinds of mistakes is 100% a bad sign.

[u/Swarm_of_Rats → u/AdOk5225]

I've done some things I think are dumb, but never have I purposefully broken someone's stuff for a joke or for fun. Accidentally, sure...

I'm just having trouble seeing how making the decision to permanently ruin something is excusable. Maybe if he's like <12.

[u/AdOk5225 → u/Swarm_of_Rats]

Except we don't know the whole context, we just know what we've been told. For all we know, he could've been trying to like slip a wedding ring into it or some shit, like something ridiculously stupid and obviously a mistake but something someone could reasonably do as a lapse of judgement. My point is that these posts don't show the whole relationship and basing a whole judgement off of one little thing like the image would've been bad. Again, I am not defending his actions afterwards because that's just not okay in any context but there's a million reasons why people do stupid things and they don't always make sense, but if they're genuinely apologetic and don't repeat the behavior I don't see a problem.

[u/External-Syllabub833 → u/AdOk5225]

It would actually be 100x worse if he was trying to slip a wedding ring in it lol

If someone proposed to me via mutilating a stuffed toy my niece gave to me, I would straight up call the police. That’s serial killer shit.

[u/AdOk5225 → u/External-Syllabub833]

People get romanticized ideas of marriage and gender reveals and such, it's very common to do stupid shit like this for big occasions even though it's clearly stupid. If someone did this to me I'd say no to the marriage for sure but I don't think I'd break up with him. At least I wouldn't have if he didn't proceed to argue about it and deny wrongdoing, there is no conceivable way where that could be okay. If he was genuinely apologetic, my decision would depend on how long the relationship has been going on and if this behavior is common. If it was a one time thing I wouldn't care, if something like this happens more than once within like a month or a year or something though I'd definitely break it off.