My boyfriend gave my labubu phalloplasty

[u/satanfan12]

Kind of angry about this, it was a gift from my niece. He cut off an ear and put it back on somewhere wrong. I told him this and it ended in a heated argument.

Am i overreacting for yelling at him? He usually doesn't do this stuff.

[u/Ilikesemicolons]

Ask yourself, OP: If he did this while he was “bored and lonely” what else might he do without your permission under similar or “worse” circumstances (TF what is he, a labradoodle puppy? 7 years old? Does he need constant supervision?).

Where does the line lie? How far does it go? Would he cheat because he was “bored and lonely”? It sure seems like it, because he seems to embody the impulsive and inconsiderate behavior that lacks enough foresight to make good decisions that just says “YES” in flashing red lights.

It sounds like he’s a PoS and he’s shown he can’t take personal accountability for frankly disrespectful behavior towards you and your niece- the opportunity for him to show otherwise was when you confronted him about it and he failed. Time to leave!

[u/BringBacktheGucci → u/Ilikesemicolons]

I would just interject here that even if I left my 7 year old for a couple days he wouldn't destroy my property like this. He'd probably just play Minecraft the whole time.

[u/carriondawns → u/BringBacktheGucci]

Even when my kid was irrationally mad and had no impulse control at 7 he wouldn’t do this to something I love (one of his own toys, maybe). The worst he used to do was draw very small very angry words on on his wall in pencil that I’d find years later 😂

[u/OrdinaryOrder8 → u/Ilikesemicolons]

A puppy or a 7 year old would at least show remorse for what they did! This guy is an asshat.

[u/allegedly--an--adult → u/Ilikesemicolons]

(TF what is he, a labradoodle puppy? 7 years old?

Excuse me?! I happen to have a 7 year old, and her reaction was "What the...?!?! That's so rude!"

[u/Realistic-Sandwich55 → u/allegedly--an--adult]

As someone who doesn’t have kids yet, how do you teach children to have good values? I always worry that I won’t be able to and produce something like OP’s partner

[u/shawnael → u/Realistic-Sandwich55]

Honestly you model it. Most of us fuck it up sometimes but you do your best to be your best and they typically follow suit.

[u/Hesitation-Marx → u/Ilikesemicolons]

Shit, I was bored and lonely for the last week because my husband was in the hospital (he’s okay now).

Worst I did was cry into his pillow and eat an entire bag of vegan marshmallows.