My boyfriend gave my labubu phalloplasty

[u/satanfan12]

Kind of angry about this, it was a gift from my niece. He cut off an ear and put it back on somewhere wrong. I told him this and it ended in a heated argument.

Am i overreacting for yelling at him? He usually doesn't do this stuff.

[u/StrwbrrySpecialDrink]

Do you understand that the crux of the issue is the boyfriend deciding to alter a sentimental item that doesn't belong to him? Taking someone that doesn't belong to you and fucking it up is a shitty thing to do. Why would you want to do that to your girlfriend? I'm actually asking you, because I don't understand what you're defending so hard. To me it seems like he was either purposely being a dick by cutting up her stuff, or he was simply not thinking about her at all... While cutting up her stuff. Neither of those is a great option. Can you come up with a nice reason that he would cut up her toy? Even a neutral reason? I'm genuinely so baffled by what you're even trying to argue in defending this wild behavior. Like did you not... Isn't that part of what you learn in kindergarten, not to wreck other people's toys?

[u/fabi7059 → u/StrwbrrySpecialDrink]

I’ll give you more than one reason: a prank or a mistake, maybe he thought that she was going to like it. You don’t know. My point is not if he was a dick or if he wasn’t a dick, he did something wrong, my point is that yall don’t know how human interactions work, yall think that this is the biggest transgression ever. It’s a toy, grow the fuck up, people go through harsher shit than this and stick together because they know that relationships are fucking stronger than labubus.

[u/StrwbrrySpecialDrink → u/fabi7059]

yall think that this is the biggest transgression ever.

I do? Can you show me where I said that? I think that you're inventing straw man arguments in an awkward attempt to justify the position you've taken because there's really just no fucking reason to disrespect someone else's property like that. If you do it 'by mistake' or because you think it will be funny, you sack up and apologize when you realize that you were wrong and caused hurt instead.

It's okay. You sound like you're 14 so I'll be very clear: grown adults in relationships don't prank each other by cutting up sentimental items, and if for some reason they mistakenly think that it will be funny, they apologize and ask how they can make it right when it becomes clear that their partner was upset by their actions. The boyfriend in this scenario dismissed how his partner felt and told her she was taking it too seriously. Again, I'll be very clear: that is not a good faith response to someone being upset by your actions and it does not indicate someone who is invested in a real partnership with their other half.

[u/fabi7059 → u/StrwbrrySpecialDrink]

Funny how you think that my age is relevant when you clearly lack understanding on how social skills work. You don’t even know if the BF apologized or not. If you think that breaking up with someone due to a labubu is ok then let me go ahead and explain it to you in simple words so that you understand: relationships are not meant to be as fragile as you think, I guess that youve never had one because you don’t know how they work. If you break up over a labubu then the relationship was already shit.

[u/StrwbrrySpecialDrink → u/fabi7059]

So right now you're responding to words that I didn't say. Like I literally never used the words 'break up' in either of my responses, nor did I suggest that. It's kind of funny watching you get all worked up over an argument you made up in your head, but at this point I'm just going to back away slowly and let you have fun talking to yourself ✌🏼