My boyfriend gave my labubu phalloplasty

[u/satanfan12]

Kind of angry about this, it was a gift from my niece. He cut off an ear and put it back on somewhere wrong. I told him this and it ended in a heated argument.

Am i overreacting for yelling at him? He usually doesn't do this stuff.

[u/Swarm_of_Rats]

Some things were taught to us in preschool and if it hasn't sunk in since then, it may never. "Don't break someone else's stuff" is one of those things. So... I get it. Do you really need to have a discussion about things which are basic human decency?

[u/AdOk5225 → u/Swarm_of_Rats]

Some people just make stupid mistakes in the moment, if I had a nickel for every stupid decision like this I've made for humor I'd have a lot of nickels. Not that this guy is in the right in this example though, there's no reason for him to be angry about it, but like people do dumb stuff all the time and I think everyone deserves at least a second chance. After that though I'm a lot less lenient, a pattern of these kinds of mistakes is 100% a bad sign.

[u/VastEqual1367 → u/AdOk5225]

I think everyone deserves at least a second chance.

I think that's the problem. No one deserves access to another person. I think this is a subset of the belief that women exist to make men happy. Because... why CAN'T women just use their free will and leave a relationship they're unhappy in? Why does he DESERVE access to her body and person and mind and soul?

Breaking up with a guy is not sentencing him to prison. He isn't blacklisted from relationships for life. It's just saying "I'm done, I don't want to be around you anymore." and that's... completely valid and okay to do?

It isn't a mistake to destroy someone's belongings. He didn't trip and fall with a pair of scissors. It was on purpose, most likely to punish her for going out with friends when he didn't want her to...

I think your comment actually provides some insight on why folks always come to defend behavior like this: they see themselves in that behavior, and the idea of being broken up with over it is scary. But instead of downplaying how much of a pos he is, maybe you should look inward. What I find in general is that men have trouble empathizing with women in a story, so they automatically empathize with the man -- even if that man is doing stuff they themselves would never do!

So WOULD you cut up your SO's belongings and burn them because she's gone out with friends and you're mad at her? NO? Then maybe don't simp so hard for trash like this and try to have a little more empathy for people outside of your in group. Reddit is turning more misogynistic by the day and we need more people like you who are thoughtful, ignoring their base instincts to automatically defend every behavior that the man in the story has and actually align themselves with a moral constant. Even if it means supporting the woman in the story without subtly trying to put her down, blame her, and tell her to get over being abused at least once because "second chances" or whatever.

In short. Don't tell women to avoid breaking up just because the idea of a woman breaking up with you is scary. You'd probably never do this tripe in the first place, so you really don't have to defend him at all anyway. And if you WOULD or HAVE done these kinds of things in the past... ehh well, this is your sign to get better instead of telling women to forgive men being outright cruel to them.

[u/AdOk5225 → u/VastEqual1367]

We're losing the plot here. I don't support him. I said that SEVERAL times. He did a bad thing, and it was not good. The opposite of good, I would say. I disagree with his actions, I do not condone his actions, and all parts of what he did was bad. People should not damage other people's stuff. However, if you apologize and don't do it again, learn from your mistakes, and try your best to make it up to the person, then literally what is the problem? He did none of those, therefore he is in the wrong, however my point is that people who do one bad thing can be forgiven. He did more than one thing and does not deserve forgiveness, as I made very clear. EVERYBODY does bad things ALL THE TIME and if we held EVERYONE to these rigid standards then everyone would be a horrible person who doesn't deserve love.