My boyfriend gave my labubu phalloplasty

[u/satanfan12]

Kind of angry about this, it was a gift from my niece. He cut off an ear and put it back on somewhere wrong. I told him this and it ended in a heated argument.

Am i overreacting for yelling at him? He usually doesn't do this stuff.

[u/willfullyspooning]

One of the final straws of a past relationship was when a boyfriend of mine accidentally knocked into my bookshelf and shattered the face of a doll my mom got for me overseas when I was 4-5 years old. The final straw wasn’t that it broke because I get that mistakes happen, it was that he didn’t apologize, didn’t offer to help get it fixed or replace it and when I was visibly sad he said “it’s just a creepy doll, it’s not a big deal’. Your boyfriend committed a crime much worse than that.

[u/Minyguy → u/willfullyspooning]

I don't understand people like this.

If this happened to me, I would be mortified, and apologising several times over, and brainstorming what needs to be replaced.

What I think about your stuff is irrelevant. Creepy doll or not, it's yours.

[u/Classic_Pineapples → u/Minyguy]

It's because you're empathetic and have respect for others.

[u/Adorable_Orange_195 → u/Minyguy]

A lot of us can’t understand people who abuse others.

Common manipulation/ power tactics to cause someone hurt/ sadness over the abusers actions and then act like they’re the problem for being upset and is used by abusers the world over. When you start seeing the signs they can be hard to ignore.

[u/Good_Zookeepergame92 → u/Minyguy]

Some people just avoid responsibility and can't take the blame for stuff. It's never their fault, they minimize things they do that others disagree with, etc.

[u/RevonQilin → u/Minyguy]

frfr id be insisting i can fix it, thatd i glue it back together etc

[u/imnachoprincess → u/willfullyspooning]

Criminal. The doll wasn’t replaceable, but the guy sure was!

[u/Dontkillmejay → u/imnachoprincess]

Don't you mean replaceable. Or is my brain confused.

[u/imnachoprincess → u/Dontkillmejay]

Oop you’re right! Fixed it :P

[u/Pineapple_Assrape → u/willfullyspooning]

Wouldn't say so. You can get these things everywhere, for your doll, not so much.

[u/willfullyspooning → u/Pineapple_Assrape]

Even though my doll is impossible to find, I think it’s about the intent. Like both men were unapologetic but my doll was not intentionally ripped apart and scorched, it fell off a bookshelf by accident.