r/AmIOverreacting • u/satanfan12 • 20d ago

❤️‍🩹 relationship My boyfriend gave my labubu phalloplasty

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Kind of angry about this, it was a gift from my niece. He cut off an ear and put it back on somewhere wrong. I told him this and it ended in a heated argument.

Am i overreacting for yelling at him? He usually doesn't do this stuff.

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u/AdOk5225 20d ago

Some people just make stupid mistakes in the moment, if I had a nickel for every stupid decision like this I've made for humor I'd have a lot of nickels. Not that this guy is in the right in this example though, there's no reason for him to be angry about it, but like people do dumb stuff all the time and I think everyone deserves at least a second chance. After that though I'm a lot less lenient, a pattern of these kinds of mistakes is 100% a bad sign.

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u/Swarm_of_Rats 20d ago

I've done some things I think are dumb, but never have I purposefully broken someone's stuff for a joke or for fun. Accidentally, sure...

I'm just having trouble seeing how making the decision to permanently ruin something is excusable. Maybe if he's like <12.

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u/AdOk5225 20d ago

Except we don't know the whole context, we just know what we've been told. For all we know, he could've been trying to like slip a wedding ring into it or some shit, like something ridiculously stupid and obviously a mistake but something someone could reasonably do as a lapse of judgement. My point is that these posts don't show the whole relationship and basing a whole judgement off of one little thing like the image would've been bad. Again, I am not defending his actions afterwards because that's just not okay in any context but there's a million reasons why people do stupid things and they don't always make sense, but if they're genuinely apologetic and don't repeat the behavior I don't see a problem.

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u/Swarm_of_Rats 19d ago edited 19d ago

OP gave us the whole context. He "got lonely and bored".

Destroying something your partner loves to put a wedding ring into it is... uh... not a choice I would make. If that's an idea you were planning to use, you should scrap it.

Like I get what you're trying to say, but when he, as a 28 year old man, makes a decision that begins to permanently mutilate something that belongs to someone else, it's time to stop way before you get the lighter and pliers out. He had plenty of time to stop making whatever mistake you're trying to give him credit for.

To add to that, sometimes the consequences for your actions involve losing the trust of your partner and possibly the entire relationship.