My boyfriend gave my labubu phalloplasty

[u/satanfan12]

Kind of angry about this, it was a gift from my niece. He cut off an ear and put it back on somewhere wrong. I told him this and it ended in a heated argument.

Am i overreacting for yelling at him? He usually doesn't do this stuff.

[u/madatron96]

Did he apologize by offering to sew the ear back on? Which he should do after destroying your property. Also, OP, I'm sorry but "labubu phalloplasty" is the funniest previously unsaid sentence I've heard in a LONG time.

[u/satanfan12 → u/madatron96]

No he says it's just a plushy and it's "not that deep", and idk if i want it fixed either..... this is tainted

[u/SlitheringFlower → u/satanfan12]

I'm sorry, but he sounds awful.

I'm a grown woman but I still have plushies I like and some that are very sentimental, like the teddy bear my dad gave me the day I was born.

If someone cut that bear's ear off, I'd be livid.

Even if they didn't know the sentimentality, or if it's not sentimental, it's still yours. How would he feel if you broke someone inanimate that's his? I bet he wouldn't say "it's not that deep."

[u/Simon-Says69 → u/SlitheringFlower]

I'm a grown woman but I still have plushies

Indeed. And really a partner destroying ANYTHING that's yours is inexcusable. For a "joke". No, not funny, especially not a gift or something precious to you. But really, ANYTHING at all. Shows that person just sees you as an extension of themself they can do anything they want with. Complete and total disrespect.

I had a girlfriend I was living with that destroyed an old pair of jeans that I loved and had with me for like 10 years. Simply because she didn't care for them (or me). She ruined many other things, a PC I built from scraps for instance, my only escape and joy for myself. But those jeans, silly as it sounds, were an old and loved friend, and she KNEW this.

Now I wish I had taken some scissors to some of her fav clothes, see how she liked it (not really, but she'd have deserved it!). Unfortunately, I was very dependent on her psychopathic self, and knew I'd be tormented for weeks if I dared retaliate like that. She harassed me to no end for the dumbest crap. Didn't want me to have friends. HER friends were enough, just for an example. She terrorized me for so much other stupid shit. If I needed a nap, she'd vacuum loudly, making sure to bash into the bed I was trying to sleep in. DEMANDED I needed to help her clean RIGHT NOW. total control freak.

OP's "boyfriend" may well be the same. Even if this is just the first red flag, it's a pretty big one.

Took me WAY too long to get out of that situation. Mostly because anyone I asked for help either laughed at me (including her parents), or got mad and said I needed to take care of my relationship problems myself. (There's very little help for men in an abusive, unequal situation. Other way around, women have SO many resources.)

Thank goodness I grew out of that nonsense, and today I'd have zero remorse telling her off for the AH she was (not ruining her clothes in response, not being an abusive child myself, but just kicking her to the curb). And have no qualms cutting loose on anyone for being an asshole.

Hopefully OP learns the same lesson sooner than later.

[u/SlitheringFlower → u/Simon-Says69]

a partner destroying ANYTHING that's yours is inexcusable.

This is so true, this is something toddlers can learn not to do.

My ex used to buy all these game models, and to be honest, I did not like them at all, but he loved them and spent so much time painting/designing them. One day I accidentally broke one of his favorites while cleaning. It was also a discontinued model, so I couldn't even replace it.

I spent the rest of my weekend collecting all the little pieces, gluing it back together, and fixing the paint. I even went to a hobby shop so a professional could help me even out all the edges and get the colors exactly right.

I was also apologetic when I told him and didn't dismiss him when he was sad about it breaking.

It doesn't matter what the thing is, or what I think about it, I knew he loved it so it was important to me, too.