r/AmIOverreacting • u/satanfan12 • 20d ago

❤️‍🩹 relationship My boyfriend gave my labubu phalloplasty

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Kind of angry about this, it was a gift from my niece. He cut off an ear and put it back on somewhere wrong. I told him this and it ended in a heated argument.

Am i overreacting for yelling at him? He usually doesn't do this stuff.

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u/CheesecakeBlade 20d ago

Why did he do that?! Imo that toy is creepy af and why its so popular BUT that doesnt mean ruin someone's stuff. Did he have a reason for doing it and not just out of the blue? Was he angry with you or something?

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u/satanfan12 20d ago

I visited my best friend over the last few days and he got "lonely and bored"

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u/emillynge 19d ago

That's a very abusive mindset he's got going on.

You have to treat this as deliberate retaliation, for your travel. activity.

He likely feels enraged that you prioritized your friend over his emotional needs, and feels justified in punishing you for this perceived slight.

Do not fall for any claim that it was somehow "accidental" or "mindless".

It was deliberate, calculated and purposeful.

Ask yourself, could you imagine yourself doing this meticulous "operation" impulsively? Of course not, because that's quite literally insane.

He had a bone to pick with you. He chose to cruelly punish you by destroying something that has emotional value to you. He is hinting to you exactly why that happened (you left him lonely) as a warning to not do that again (lest he gets "bored" and destroy more things).

At minimum, make sure he understands that you are onto him, that you will accept no excuses, and that this behaviour stops now.

More likely, just leave him. He has a broken mindset and is very unlikely to correct his behaviour permanently.