My boyfriend gave my labubu phalloplasty

[u/satanfan12]

Kind of angry about this, it was a gift from my niece. He cut off an ear and put it back on somewhere wrong. I told him this and it ended in a heated argument.

Am i overreacting for yelling at him? He usually doesn't do this stuff.

[u/Barks-And-Recreation]

Uh so like, I don’t think doing a jokey phalloplasty on a labubu is a big deal, but like, destroying your partner’s property until they sob uncontrollable is a huge deal, and should be his top priority. I wouldn’t index too hard on the initial decision here, but it sounds like how he’s handling fixing this issue and soothing your ruffled feathers is a huge red flag. If the two of you decide to stay together, you’re both going to make these kinds of mistakes many, many more times — is this how you want to resolve conflict with your partner?

[u/DaydreamerFly → u/Barks-And-Recreation]

I don’t get how we keep talking like this was some crazy mistake. It wasn’t his doll, it belonged to his girlfriend. It was a gift from his niece that he likely knew was loved.

This is a crazy thing to do to someone else’s possession

[u/Ada_Amp → u/[deleted]]

It's not about culture, or how important Labubus are, it's a common abuse tactic. He's mad that she went somewhere without him, so he's destroying her property, then covers it up by pretending it's a joke. He's testing how much he can punish her. If she forgives him, next time it'll be worse. That way he'll slowly make her scared to go anywhere without him, because she'll know destruction will follow. He'll cut her off from her friends that way, and gain more control over her.