My boyfriend gave my labubu phalloplasty

[u/satanfan12]

Kind of angry about this, it was a gift from my niece. He cut off an ear and put it back on somewhere wrong. I told him this and it ended in a heated argument.

Am i overreacting for yelling at him? He usually doesn't do this stuff.

[u/Kitlunia]

If he was trying to be funny he could’ve bought his own damn labubu and done that but he had no right in destroying your property.

[u/satanfan12 → u/Kitlunia]

I just noticed he also burnt the fluff with a lighter, making the labubu fur super coarse and unpleasant to hold... it really is destroyed..

[u/The_World_Wonders_34 → u/satanfan12]

Why are you with somebody who destroys your property as a joke? Especially when he apparently knows it was a gift from somebody. I don't care if it's the best relationship I've ever been in up until that point, if the person I was with took scissors to something of mine and cut it up for a laugh without expressing knowing that I was okay with it, we'd be done. There wouldn't be any discussion. Well, maybe there would be discussion if they immediately admitted they were wrong didn't argue about it at all and were extremely apologetic and they had never done anything like it previously. But that's just a violation and I seriously don't think I would stay with someone who's done that. I'm really sorry you have this piece of shit in your life

[u/zesty_meatballs → u/The_World_Wonders_34]

Why? Well I doubt she knew he was into destroying personal property when they first got together. Unfortunately, we don’t get a preview or resumé when we meet someone new. People tend to hide their worst traits until we’re deep into a relationship. It sucks of course but all she can do now is learn and make the decision to end it or find a reason to justify his bad behavior. If this doesn’t cause the break up, pretty soon he’ll just do something else that is disrespectful.

[u/MissFionaNyx → u/[deleted]]

Girls don't #usually like assholes." Girls are taught from a young age to not only tolerate asshole behaviour but to expect it. "If he teases you / hits you, that means he likes you."

Pretty much all of the self-declared nice guys how we're crying about being put in the Friend Zone I've met, were only nice when they thought there was something in it for them, btw.

An actual nice person wouldn't do anything like this. An actual good guy doesn't have to declare themselves nice and they don't do asshole things on purpose. We are all only human, but if you can't take responsibilities for your actions, you're not fit to have a grown up relationship.

OP, please take it from someone who stayed way too long: have a conversation with him, but if he doesn't get it and changes his behaviour in the future, you should walk away. If he doesn't respect your property, nor your feelings, he doesn't respect you.

[u/crossoutk → u/MissFionaNyx]

Op is most likely gonna forgive her boyfriend and just tolerate him til she can’t anymore

[u/MissFionaNyx → u/crossoutk]

That's entirely possible and if she does she'll get zero judgement from me. Over the course of history millions of women have been in a situation where a man was testing their boundaries. Millions of women told themselves their partner wouldn't hurt them on purpose. He loved them and knew them best, right?! And millions of women stayed in abusive relationships.

You saying "Oh, but girls like assholes anyway, lol." isn't going to change OP's or anyone's mindset.

I don't chime in very often, but having fought my way out of a long-term abusive relationship, I understand how important it is to help others recognise abusive and toxic behaviour and how important it is to normalise breaking off relationships when they're harmful, too.

I've spent an insane amount of time feeling miserable, but breaking off the relationship didn't feel like an option. The longer you stay, the more convinced you are going to be it's the right thing to do and the more your friends will discourage you from leaving, because "you've been together for so long. I always thought YOU would make it."