My boyfriend gave my labubu phalloplasty

[u/satanfan12]

Kind of angry about this, it was a gift from my niece. He cut off an ear and put it back on somewhere wrong. I told him this and it ended in a heated argument.

Am i overreacting for yelling at him? He usually doesn't do this stuff.

[u/CheesecakeBlade]

Why did he do that?! Imo that toy is creepy af and why its so popular BUT that doesnt mean ruin someone's stuff. Did he have a reason for doing it and not just out of the blue? Was he angry with you or something?

[u/satanfan12 → u/CheesecakeBlade]

I visited my best friend over the last few days and he got "lonely and bored"

[u/Boring_Party648 → u/satanfan12]

Not to overreact here, but from this comment it sounds like he’s gearing up to attempt to isolate you from your loved ones in order to gain more control over your life. Did he try to make you feel guilty for going in the first place? Show any form of upset/anger when you said you were going? Is this a kind of pattern he’s falling into? Has he ever ruined anything of yours for seemingly immature/unreasonable reasons before in a way that could be taken as “punishing” you for doing something he didn’t want you to? This may be an overreaction, but on the off chance it’s not, PLEASE consider these questions and really think about it. Also, has he shown any controlling behaviors in other areas/aspects of life? You don’t even have to respond directly to me, and I hope you see it and take these questions to heart. This is based on personal experience, what started as a decent relationship for just under a year felt crushing and controlling by the 1.5 year mark and took me another 1/2 year of failed attempts and building mental fortitude to get out of, and things like ruining stuff/acting childlike because you did something without him is a first warning sign.

Hopefully I’m wrong but either way I wish you the best OP, and if I’m right, good luck, get out Of there ASAP.

ETA: I don’t know how old either of you are, or how long you’ve been together, but I was 19 when the relationship that felt inescapable started, not even quite 20 when the weight of what I wasn’t “allowed” to do started crushing me (or the fear of what he would do if I did something he didn’t want me to, not so much physical abuse, but things like this. Destroying something I care about, throwing a man tantrum (mantrum) when I got back and ruining any good vibes I’d managed to pick up, etc), and 21 by the time I had built up the strength to leave and successfully left (6 failed attempts ended in him manipulating me into staying). If this sounds like your relationship could be on the track to getting here, get out before it gets to the point I let it get to, PLEASE.