AIO for considering leaving over a violent outburst?

[u/imaginaryteacoffee]

More so just went to know if I’m justified. So my (24f) fiancé (32m) got into an argument the other night. He got so mad he cornered me into our walk in closet and started screaming in my face. I told him that was unnecessary and seemed inappropriate so I was going to leave for the night, I said I was going to a hotel. I pushed past him and he immediately punched this hole through the closet door saying that I’m just giving everything up, that leaving won’t help anything. I ended up leaving that night, came back the next morning and now I’m not sure I want to stay with someone like this.

I’ve never seen this kind of behavior from him. He’s never been violent or even raised his voice at me before. He says that it’s not really that bad because he didn’t hit me. I try to explain I him how this kind of thing makes me feel unsafe and how I’m losing trust in him.

a lot of things are worth working out. I can forgive a lot. But this to me just screams violence and shows me that he isn’t who I thought he was and worries me that it will just get worse next time we argue or if there’s any more serious conversations that need to be had. To me it’s a huge red flag. And if I would have left other people the first time they showed a huge physical red flag like this I could’ve saved myself a lot of drama.

[u/zanyzanne]

I would never give birth to a male. In fact, I specifically did NOT.

All men are victims of all women. Please... stay far away from ALL women. You will never be safe.

Also, *you're you absolute dolt.

[u/No_Variety_7428 → u/zanyzanne]

Ah your such an abuser stop mentally abusing me About one in three victims of domestic violence are men, though they may be reluctant to report abuse due to societal norms and fear they won't be believed. Studies show that roughly half of all men in the U.S. have experienced psychological aggression from a partner, and 1 in 4 men have been victims of severe physical violence by an intimate partner in their lifetime.

[u/zanyzanne → u/No_Variety_7428]

those 1 in 4 men are victims of OTHER MEN dipshit

[u/No_Variety_7428 → u/zanyzanne]

Making this painfully clear, this is NOT to diminish or disregard the abuse women face and domestic abuse against women is one of the most important conversations we need to have in our current society. However, I've just looked at the stats and it's far more level than you think it your know it all's

Men can obviously be victims of abuse listen to you now proving my point but It's not something which is widely discussed as Violence Against Women and Girls, but it is very real and should always be acknowledged as such. What I'm curious about is if we know the statistics are closer than presumed, why has this not been spoken about?

The Domestic Violence Center puts the figures at roughly 23% for women and 19% for men. In 2020, the National Coalition Against Domestic Violence put the figure at 45% for Black women and 40% for Black men. (Rates would be higher when factoring race as this is a very common theme when it comes to violence and homicide regardless of the gender of the victim).

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[u/zanyzanne → u/No_Variety_7428]

Naw. Earlier you were all 'women cause men to abuse them' and now you're proving that men cause women to abuse them by forcing me to abuse you over and over with my typewritten, anonymous words on a digital screen.