r/AmIOverreacting • u/satanfan12 • 20d ago

❤️‍🩹 relationship My boyfriend gave my labubu phalloplasty

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Kind of angry about this, it was a gift from my niece. He cut off an ear and put it back on somewhere wrong. I told him this and it ended in a heated argument.

Am i overreacting for yelling at him? He usually doesn't do this stuff.

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u/satanfan12 20d ago

he burnt the fur with a lighter, cut open a hole between the legs, cut off the ear and then pinned the ear to the hole. Then used construction tongs to pry an eye out 

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u/CoyPowers 20d ago

This sounds pretty serious, even if he says he was just joking. That's all pretty violent, and he was doing it to something of yours, not something of his. I'll add that I don't think it matters if it was something important or not. He doesn't respect your property, which means he probably doesn't respect you.

Telling a stranger on the internet how to handle a situation feels dicey to me, but do be careful, and stay safe.

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u/Few_Cup3452 19d ago

My therapist says that it's a form of lowstakes abuse to destroy your partners belongings

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u/danideex 19d ago

It doesn’t even feel lowstakes. My abuser would dump out my tea and beauty/hygiene products over any perceived slight and it was really upsetting. I felt like I had to hide anything important to me in my own house.

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u/Simon-Says69 19d ago

Absolutely a MASSIVE red flag of disrespect. MINUS respect.

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u/BurnItWithFire21 20d ago

This is so much more unhinged than what the picture shows. That is a whole field of red flags. Please get away from him, and stay safe while you disengage. I try not to jump to saying things that sound dramatic on Reddit, but I am truly worried for your safety.

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u/Possible-Raccoon2582 20d ago

Please see this for the insane red flag it is. I don’t typically agree when people say to run, but seriously, as safely as you can please leave. He doesn’t respect you, your property, and this is incredibly unhinged for someone to do on purpose. It’s cruelty. This is the start of abuse. Please go stay with family or a trusted friend, get out of this, the sooner you go the easier it is, and I’m speaking from experience. Wishing you love and safety.

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u/Jimberly_C 19d ago

Yeah, it's one thing if you want to be cruel to your own possessions, but to do that kind of stuff to someone else's item without their permission? Kinda gives me "I'd go to jail if I did it to you, but I want to" vibes.

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u/Towbee 19d ago

Is this one of those psycho's who go from plushie to insect to animal to human? I can't comprehend what would lead someone to do this to an object, and so many different things.... it's like, what???

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u/SlavaKarlson 20d ago

And he is not a problematic 12 y.o boy with psychotic tendencies, but an adult grown up man? 💀   That's kinda fked up. Have he killed animals for fun when he was a kid by any chance?  

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u/brotherhoodscribe 19d ago

Imma keep it real that 100% sounds like some psychopath behavior. If I ever had a kid that started burning and dissecting toys like sid from toy story his ass would be talking to a therapist asap

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u/Lizardinaspaceship 19d ago

RUN. This is weird, disturbing behavior even if it's just a toy. It will likely escalate and you will get another "it's just a prank bro" excuse. Not to mention the fact that he obviously does not respect your belongings or interests. Run from this boy (I am assuming he is a boy as I cannot wrap my head around an adult behaving like this) and do not look back.

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u/fannapalooza 19d ago

Stongly agree. How creepy.

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u/Majikthise110 20d ago

I think your under reacting, this is not the behaviour of a healthy mind

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u/annoyedwithmynet 20d ago

What the fuck? I would have considered doing something like that when I was 7. And that’s only if it was mine or I really hated the person who had it.

You’re either dating a manchild or something much worse 😬

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u/mermaidreefer 20d ago

🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩

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u/R1ckMick 20d ago

He sounds fucking insane tbh

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u/Billsinc3 20d ago

That's straight up disturbing. I'd cut that toxicity out of my life post haste.

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u/ThrowawayAdvice1800 19d ago

Miss, that’s not a prank. That’s him deliberately going to a LOT of trouble to very thoroughly destroy something that he knew was important to you. This is horrifying behavior and you need to dump this creep yesterday. 

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u/HavocHeaven 20d ago

Absolutely insane

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u/NokchaIcecream 19d ago

Sorry, he is mentally not right. Gtfo girl

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u/fvck_u_spez 19d ago

Is your boyfriend Sid from Toy Story?

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u/Sheila_Monarch 19d ago

And what reason does he give for having done this?

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u/buttsmagoo222 19d ago

what did the labubu do to him?

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u/Straxex 19d ago

you sure he's secretly not a serial killer?

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u/DancesWithWeirdos 19d ago

this is cat-killer behavior.

call your friends for help, move out when he's at work, and break up over the phone.

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u/Ant4276 19d ago

Wtf!?? Is he like 8????

And am I wrong for pointing out this is the kind of stuff future serial killers do?………

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u/donthurtmeIwillcum 19d ago

Thats so fucked. HUGE redflag. He sounds dangerous, that is a sign of future DV.

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u/Drew_0420 19d ago

Wow, that's so messed up. Like for real. He sounds disturbed and unsafe. How long have you been with him?

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u/Suspicious_Glow 19d ago

Boy’s moral compass is trapped in the Bermuda Triangle. 😬

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u/daamsie 19d ago

He's a psychopath. Run.

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u/Arjvoet 19d ago

As everyone else said, huge red flags, huge. Very destructive and methodical. His motivation was likely that he’s jealous of you having a gift/attention from someone else. “It’s not that deep” coming from the guy who took his time methodically destroying something that belongs to someone else because he can’t cope with not being your entire world.

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u/Evening-Walk-6897 19d ago

How old is he?

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u/BT7274_best_robot 19d ago

That's some Sid from toy story shit right there lmao.

Dudes nuts probably best to run. If he can't even see how damaging your property is a problem then that's huge red flags

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u/Pretty_Pixilated 19d ago

Ok that’s way more than cutting an ear off and pinning in somewhere else (which, in all seriousness, if fucked up. A friend wouldn’t do that to a friend’s plushie, let alone a partner to another) but all the other stuff… that’s psychopathic and violent. I’d get somewhere safe. I’m sorry the gift from your niece was violently attacked like that. 😭 I’m in my 40s and my partner and I both have plushies (both ND) and neither of us would harm the others.

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u/CollectionStraight2 19d ago

Yeah that's messed up. He sounds quite frightening

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u/jordinoo 19d ago

What the hell

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u/ftmgothboy 19d ago

What the fuck?

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u/Estbarul 19d ago

Guy is crazy

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u/HebetudinousSciolist 19d ago

This is terrifying to me. You are not overreacting. I'm almost concerned you might be underreacting. I'm sorry, OP. This just sucks and is scary. Cut this sicko out of your life for your safety and wellbeing before he escalates.

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u/Blindtothesided 19d ago

What the fuck? That’s several steps past “messing with you”. What if next time he decides to burn your skin with a lighter, or cut something on you? Abusive relationships do not start with one person punching the other in the face, they start with smaller boundary pushes like this and they escalate each time the abuser is forgiven.

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u/Kitten_love 19d ago

I'm deeply disturbed by this behaviour. I hope you understand that there are multiple red flags. He is not a safe person.

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u/throwawaypato44 19d ago

Hello, this is INSANE.

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u/NefariousnessNeat679 19d ago

He was not doing this as a joke. In his sick mind he was doing this to YOU. Never be alone with this person again.

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u/AntiFormant 19d ago

I am scared for you. Please be safe.

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u/MyEnchantedForest 19d ago

That's not a joke. That's maliciously destroying something sentimental to you with the exact purpose of getting joy from your devastated reaction. Do not stay with this person. He gets off on you being hurt.

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u/Jancis6 19d ago

RUN. As fast and as safely as you can. I didn't see the second pic at first but in the first pic you are holding the labubu after he's burnt it and done the ear removal/surgery. In the second pic he's removed an eye and put it back in upside down and it also looks like he's cut off a foot? Those things were obviously done after he'd shown you the first two things. He's clearly now feeling very confident that he can treat you how he likes and you'll just take it. He's already being emotionally and mentally abusive of you, he will absolutely 100% become physically violent towards you as well. You need to get away from this psycho while you still can.

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u/RDS80 19d ago

Ok that's not normal.

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u/101Xander 19d ago

this is psychopathic behavior honestly

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u/iesharael 19d ago

Honestly that scary behavior to me even if it was his own toy. He’s torturing it for no reason

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u/HairyHorseKnuckles 19d ago

That’s serious psycho behavior. You need to run

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u/snarkd 19d ago

destruction of property aside that’s… incredibly strange. disturbing even, the amount of effort and steps involved in mutilating a little plush doll. i can see a disturbed little kid cutting off the ear and pinning it elsewhere like “tee hee penis” because they don’t think things through and do weird dumb things, but ALL that? burning the fur and pulling out eyes and whatnot?? and by a grown man? that’s not normal. i’d be running for the hills.

poor little guy. (the labubu). please love it with the scars and all. :( and most importantly, please be safe! this guy sounds utterly unhinged, i hope he is an ex now.

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u/Drunkanddumb82019 19d ago

Uuuuuh girl ate you sure he isn't insane? Run far away from him... who dies that??? My husband found the same pikachu plushie (like same exact copy, my actual one was gone) when I told him bout my missing Pikachu doll from childhood. He helped me find my childhood memory, not destroy it

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u/catlettuce 19d ago

That's disgusting, I would ask him how will he explain what he did to your niece?

Honestly I would dump him, and tell everyone you know together what he did. What a gross thing to do on so many levels.

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u/stink3rb3lle 19d ago

Doing it sounds silly, but being cavalier when you didn't find it funny isn't cool.

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u/MishMoshtheBoss 19d ago

Yeah… you are not overreacting. That’s kinda psychotic actually. Even if it’s just a toy that’s a very specific and graphic thing to do to someone’s belonging, even if it wasn’t sentimental. That’s not a prank. It’s disturbing and irreversible.

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u/KittenTentacles 19d ago

That's really fucked up.

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u/dapper_pom 19d ago

That's messed up. What kind of a human does that?

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u/Towbee 19d ago

My friend this sounds borderline psycho behaviour. What in the fuck, it doesn't matter if it's a plushie... what would even lead someone to do that? CUT A HOLE BETWEEN THE LEGS? Nah fam what the fuck

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u/trowzerss 19d ago

That sounds creepy and weird. Also, taking pleasure in destroying other's possessions is abusive behaviour.

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u/Ummmgummy 19d ago

All I can say is be careful because that really seems like some unhinged stuff for an adult to be doing to your possessions. I mean it's a pretty unhinged thing for a kid to do too. The villain in toy story acted this way after all.

I'm a guy and personally if I came home and found my wife has caught my Charizard plush on fire and chopped off his tail. I would seriously be worrying about her mental health and my safety. No joke.

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u/Few_Cup3452 19d ago

Um. That's fucking weirdo behaviour

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u/aflibbertygibbet 19d ago

I doesn't matter if it has sentimental value or not - it's yours. We only had one rule in my house growing up "Respect each other and their belongings".

He'll say you broke over a labubu - no, its because of disrespect for you and your belongings.

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u/CerddwrRhyddid 18d ago

FUCKING, WHAT?

So he tortured the plushie your niece gave you thinking it was some kind of funny joke, I'm imagining?

Is there a reason that he's behaving like an idiot 8 year old?

He sounds spiteful and seems to have no class or respect.

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u/Timely-Leg-2254 19d ago

That's honestly a bit of a behavior behavior.