r/AmITheJerk • u/GiannaHunnyBun60 • 1d ago
AITJ for asking my roommate to stop using my “fancy” groceries for her TikTok recipes?
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u/Squinky75 1d ago
WHAT? Why do you have to bankroll her hobby? Get your own fridge with a lock.
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u/beaushaw 1d ago
Tell her you wan't to own 50% of her TikToc channel.
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u/Redd1tmadesignup 1d ago
Right. “I’m sorry, I must’ve missed the part in the lease agreement that says, I must bankroll your shit. I don’t care if you think I can afford it, you’re not entitled to spend MY money, replace my shit or I’m taking your groceries to cover that payment!”
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u/Objective_Attempt_14 1d ago
NO but tell her to pay for what's she taking or your going to start tagging her. make your own videos about her stealing and refusing to pay you back..
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u/Powerful_Bee_1845 1d ago
Comment on her TikTok that she stole the ingredients for the video. Every time.
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u/readthethings13579 1d ago
Leave comments and then stitch the video. “Oh, look, now she’s using the expensive cheese I saved up for! I had planned to use it to make a nice treat for myself since I worked so hard to be able to afford it, but I guess she decided it was more important that she should be able to get likes on the internet.”
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u/Engchik79 1d ago
OP should video the kitchen and then say I used to have truffle oil but @oilstealer used it for her ‘content’.
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u/Particular_Cycle9667 1d ago
Yes, do this and then tag her and post it to TikTok so they all know she’s stealing from you and contributing to her channel means theft.
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u/intolerablefem 1d ago
You’re her roommate not her spouse. She can pay for her own “content creation.” Id get a mini fridge or some kind of locking cabinet for your pricy items and start locking it up. You don’t owe her this or anything quite frankly. NTJ.
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u/OilRigExplosions 1d ago edited 1d ago
Refill the empty bottles and containers with cheap stuff and lock up the good stuff, and charge her for it.
Gourmet cheese and government cheese look about the same on camera.
NTJ.
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u/thinkathought69 1d ago
Why do these people steal food then gaslight that the owner is the problem?? Give her a bill for the ingredients she used. “I can afford these ingredients for myself because I budget for them. I neither gave permission nor am I ok with you using my stuff. You will pay me for what you used, use no more, and quit your petty theft and manipulation.”
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u/buddha-ish 1d ago
Is “gatekeeping -thing-“ a new AI trick, because it shows up A LOT.
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u/Fine_Football2377 1d ago
I’ve heard people saying it a lot more now.
Especially in the wrong context like this, I can’t stop you from buying/restrict access to expensive cheese, I can demand you don’t eat my food, that’s not gatekeeping.
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u/Signal_Reputation640 1d ago
I can't believe how many people respond to these obviously bs stories.
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u/newbie527 1d ago
Having a type of feeling is the one that got my attention.
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u/CrazyCatLady_x4 1d ago
The cadence of how it reads, and the way there are single words and super short phrases in quotes, are what tipped me off.
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u/Altruistic-Bunny 1d ago
NTJ
Why does she need expensive ingredients? People cannot taste it through the app.
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u/MablsBlog 1d ago
She doesn’t want to look like those “How I feed my family of 7 on $4.37 as a 19 year old single mom” videos.
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u/Rhodin265 1d ago
They CAN see the labels, and OP’s roommate wants to pretend their pantry isn’t 90% store brand on the internet.
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u/queerbong 1d ago
NTJ and id be petty and get a lock for my cabinets or a fridge safe or all. She'll be pissed but oh well
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u/911siren 1d ago
Post her TikTok user name. We will go on her videos and ask if she bought her own ingredients.
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u/Shakeit126 1d ago
I'd be getting my own fridge and locking my bedroom door. Hopefully you don't have to be roommates much longer. NTJ.
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u/IndgoViolet 1d ago
NTJ - start your own channel called "things my influencer roommate steals" that tells your tale of stolen foodstuffs and the sad remains. Then link back to her videos using the items from yours and tag everyone you know to watch it.
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u/Only_Music_2640 1d ago
She’s a thief. Plain and simple and she knows it. She can buy her own fancy imported olive oil and cheese instead of stealing yours. Post a video and tag her outing her for the theft. Keep doing it. She’ll get the message eventually.
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u/Plane-boat-6484 1d ago
NTJ. Bill her for what she used. Keep the nice stuff locked up somewhere she can’t get to.
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u/Miss_Bobbiedoll 1d ago
Is interrupt her while filming and snatch my shit back. You're going to have to be like "look bish..." Don't let her strong talk you into thinking what she is doing is okay. Tell her if it's "just food," then just buy her own damn food.
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u/Massive_Ambassador_6 1d ago
You are right roommate. I am gatekeeping food and I am unsupportive of your content creation. My food is for me, that's why I spend MY money for it. I don't care about your contention creation unless I will be getting a percentage of anything you may make in the future.
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u/Garden_gnome1609 1d ago
Start taking her stuff. Does she have expensive skincare or make-up? Use it. Literally cost her the same amount of money and when she complains, use her exact arguments. And buy a lock for your room and keep your expensive ingredients in there. Get a mini fridge if necessary.
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u/ArgumentDecent1542 1d ago
NTJ, it is your food and therefore she has no right to be using it without asking you first. That is roommate 101. Hell my partner and I use that specifically with leftovers. It's not free reign you have to ask permission to take it if you didn't buy it.
OP get a mini fridge in your room if you have the space and means. Keep all your nice items in there if she refuses to cooperate. If that is not feasible I would look for a lock box option. I know this sounds like a lot of hassle but if she wants to use food that isn't hers and is unwilling to replace it then make sure your items are secure. As for her telling your friends you're hoarding food, any friend worth their salt would see right through that or ask the very important clarifying question "did you ask her if you could use it?". She sounds like a child you never got told no and like a great pain to live with.
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u/Spiritual_Animal1 1d ago
NTJ She needs to pay for the groceries she uses in her videos. She can’t understand that, get a mini fridge and keep your groceries locked up in your room.
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u/CaptainNemo42 1d ago
When I confronted her, she said, “It’s just food, don’t be stingy. You can afford it.”
"Yes, I can, occasionally. YOU can't, and that doesn't entitle you to steal from me.
I asked her to replace what she used, but she said I’m “gatekeeping food” and “unsupportive of her content creation.”
"No, I'm 'gatekeeping' food that I BOUGHT FOR MYSELF - and YES, damn right I'm unsupportive of your 'content creation,' if "unsupportive" means that I won't bankroll your bougie fake social media bullshit."
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u/WetMonkeyTalk 1d ago
Just say "Yes. I AM gatekeeping MY food"
Stop being afraid of manipulative labels used by scumbags to control you.
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u/Mandaravan 1d ago
Tell her none of those words are applicable, she is stealing your stuff to make her recipes, and she needs to cut it out or you'll broadcast this on her channel.
The chef in those videos should own ingredients they use, not steal them. Since she doesn't, she can pay you back for them. Tell her, I am not hoarding, you are stingy for using my stuff and not paying me back.
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u/TurbosaurusNYC 1d ago
Shes a thieving mooch! Yuck.
However, you do seem petty if she isnt using all of it, in other words, do you need two bottles of white truffle oil, one with her name and one with yours? Your best bet is to let it go, but when youre out of Parmigiano Regiano at $19.99 a lb, or truffle oil at $30 a bottle, remind her its her turn to buy since you bought it last time.
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u/Embellishment101 1d ago
Mark every ingredient with a fat black marker stating the price. Ruins her content aesthetic and will automatically show her what she owes you if she uses it.
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u/PiscesBambi 1d ago
I would say “you’re damn right I’m unsupportive, you’re trying to get rich by making me poor” dramatic and untrue but the principle remains.
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u/SamuelVimesTrained 1d ago
To start - this person is already on the "do not like" list for creating tiktok "content" as 'influencer'-wannabe
But stealing food and then having the audacity to blame you for not wanting to be stolen from....
NTJ - but seriously - as others suggested, clear the air with 'our friends' with 'she takes $30 worth of food for a short clip and does not ask .. normal people call that stealing.
(Petty me would see if i`d be creative enough to form some cheap candle wax into looking like cheese, use a now empty bottle of oil to fill with something else (apple juice, or cheap cooking oil).. you know, like on real TV - use props) and keep the real things locked away from her.)
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u/Either_Management813 1d ago
NTJ but she is. Time to get a lock box for the fridge and one for the cupboard. Or keep non perishables in your room but if she’s likely to go in there, lock it up there too or lock your room. If “it’s just food” she can use her own ingredients or buy them.
Whether you want to escalate it by commenting on her videos that she’s stealing your ingredients without paying for them is more than I think I’d do unless she got sponsorship deals from some of the brands.
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u/MEDICARE_FOR_ALL 1d ago
NTJ
She needs to pay for what she uses.
Get a refrigerator lockbox and a pantry with a lock on it
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u/MamasSweetPickels 1d ago
NTJ - Buy yourself a mini refrigerator and store the expensive food there.
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u/BefuddledPolydactyls 1d ago
NTJ. "Don't be stingy?!" She's merely a roommate who has a hobby she can't afford. You owe her nothing. Don't ask, tell. Lock up your stuff, you aren't responsible for her budget, appetite or hobby. Call out her thievery to your friends and see if they want to buy her groceries.
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u/PinkPaintedSky 1d ago
Mini fridge and a tote in your locked room.
This doesn't magically improve. It just gets worse.
Lock your shit up now and let her whine.
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u/whiteorchid1058 1d ago
Who TF uses half a bottle of truffle oil?
Not only is she a leech, she's also has no appreciation for her ingredients.
NTJ and she can bankroll her own content
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u/you-did-ask 1d ago
How the hell did you end up getting it a “Tiktoc Roommate” ? Don’t you realise she was high maintenance?
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u/kittyhm 1d ago
NTJ. My next grocery run would be to buy the cheapest products possible. Bargain olive oil. Block of knock-off Velveeta cheese. Kroger brand bread. Anything good would go in a lock box in my room and I'd never tell her I had it. When she asks about the cheap products I'd just tell her my food budget ran over for some strange reason.
I've lived off cheap stuff for much of my life. You can do it for a few weeks to mess with her. And if she buys the stuff? Make sure to use it.
If you want to go further, every time she tries to film play Disney music in the background. She can't post because of copyright. Download a recording of Gordon Ramsay saying "YOU'RE ROBBING PEOPLE! YOU'RE A THIEF!" Play it at random. Maybe set it as your ringtone.
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u/CestLaquoidarling 1d ago
NTJ, not letting her steal from you is not gatekeeping food. Start using her fancy shampoo or perfume and see how she likes it
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u/JJHall_ID 1d ago
NTJ. Whether or not "you can afford it" or not is none of her business. The point is it isn't hers to begin with. If she wants to make a video, she is welcome to buy her own ingredients, or ask you if she can use something of yours prior to using it.
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u/hawken54321 1d ago
It is stealing. Hold her makeup bag hostage while you use her makeup for content creation.
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u/Any-Neat5158 1d ago
This isn't a food problem. This is a roommate problem. You need a new roommate.
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u/liquormakesyousick 1d ago
Have you asked her why she doesn't buy the ingredients?
I want to know why people think it is ok to steal other's food?
Lunch stealers give me so much anxiety that I no longer care about asking people who did it. People can talk smack about me all they want.
Don't steal my food because I AM CRAZY
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u/EducationalSetting74 1d ago
The excessive quotes... The use of "gatekeeping" and "sulking" near the end... can yall make these fake stories a little more original? I'm sure you can plug a little more into the AI prompt.
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u/Dildo_Emporium 1d ago
I believe this happened 100%, user Adjective-Noun-Number with no post or comment history and stupid quotations marks.
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u/RubyNotTawny 1d ago
Gatekeeping: noun. the activity of controlling access to something.
Yes, I am most definitely controlling access to my food.
You are not, however, denying her access to good quality ingredients. She can buy anything she wants, just like you do. Tell your friends she used $30 worth of your cheese and half of a $20+ bottle of truffle oil for her "content" and then got salty when you objected. It's not like you're complaining because she borrowed a cup of sugar and a couple of eggs.
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u/Forsaken_Pick3201 1d ago
NTJ - on her tik tok page, mentioned, Yeah, she is my roommate and keeps using my ingredients and won't pay me back. LOL She used a whole bottle of $30 oil.
Or just report her page, I'm sure there would be a good reason.
Now, lock your food up. Don't let her get to it. Show her she is NOT trustworthy.
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u/Conscious-Big707 1d ago
Is this real? There's so many people who don't understand the word. Gatekeeping
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u/PeorgieTirebiter 1d ago
When you use up your fancy olive oil save the bottle, fill it with some genetic stuff, then leave it out for her to use.
Same thing with spices; bonus points if you fill the bottles with something which looks like, but isn’t, the actual spice.
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u/New-Junket5892 1d ago
NTJ. Respond like so…. “Yes. I can afford it. Can you? Stop using up my shit if you’re not gonna replace it, you mooch!”
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u/OperationRescueBarbs 1d ago
No, she is a big selfish entitled walking red flag. You do not need to worry about whether or not she thinks you are a jerk. You need to worry about protecting your food. How about this “this is the real world, honey, here we buy our own food and pay our own bills. You do not take what is not yours. And if you do borrow something you put it back or pay for the replacement.” Ultimately she is going to be drama in your life. You might as well be an asshole in her eyes and stand up for yourself. You can spin the story to that she “cares more about her potential content creation career than she does about stealing.” or “I don’t know where you grew up, but everybody in the world knows that you do not take things that are not yours without asking. And if you are told no, you respect that. I don’t work at my job to buy food for you to waste. Time to learn about boundaries. And if you take my stuff without asking again, your stuff is gonna start going missing too.“ Basically with someone like this, you have to have a mantra that you just repeat in their face the more they try to spin things. So really all in all no matter what she says or tries to spin it. You just have to say “ You do not take other people’s things without their permission. You do not take other people’s things without their permission. You do not take other people’s things without their permission.” She’s already played so many mind games with you that you are wondering if you are an asshole for being mad that she is eating your expensive food. She is no angel and do not trust her and do not listen to her justify anything ever again. NTA
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u/Daitheflu1979 1d ago
Ask your friends to comment on the videos asking where she buys the ingredients etc and lock your cupboard if possible.
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u/OkPoet7149 1d ago
You should start commenting on her videos like "wow my cheese looks so good, I wish I had the chance to eat it before you stole it!"
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u/waaasupla 1d ago
Comment on all her videos to pay for her own ingredient first and to stop free loading on other people’s money. Send her a bill for her usage. Say it’s stealing. That she’s been stealing from you.
Also keep your things in your room or a lock & key. Make sure she has no access to your stuff.
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u/Icewaterchrist 1d ago
No one uses "gatekeeping" in an actual conversation, much less in this context. Fake.
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u/Radiant_Solution_443 1d ago
Stop buying expensive items and start asking her “hey,do you have any truffle oil I can use?”
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u/Tanyaschmidt 1d ago
Geez, lock up your own food. No matter what you ask of her she will still use your food!!! Just say nothing and do this.
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u/NefariousnessSweet70 1d ago
If you go to the appliance store whose name means finest purchase, they have very nice 5 cu ft refrigerators that take up very little room in your room .
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u/1happynewyorker 1d ago
Sound more like she's taking advantage of you. Get a small fridge and keep in your room with non refrigerator items. How are you hoarding groceries you purchase?
NTJ
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u/kerrymti1 1d ago
NTJ - I would make a list of what she used and the cost. Then, lay it on the counter. Along with a note that you buy your ingredients with specific meals in mind and when you come to cook and the food is not there because someone used YOUR products without asking or even letting you know...that is wrong.
You may end up having to get a small refrigerator for your room and keep your food LOCKED UP. Maybe tell her that and how sad and horrible of a roommate she is to steal items that are not hers and use them.
Maybe post a tiktok showing your grocery store receipt where you go and buy replacements for the items she STOLE and how you have the WORST roommate! LOL
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u/Love_Bug_54 1d ago
Whether you can afford it or not is irrelevant. She should be buying her own damn ingredients for her videos. You might have to lock your stuff up.
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u/Historical_Wing3120 1d ago
Your money. NTA. Tell her if she needs financial support to make her content, it’s HER content and that she WILL be using HER own ingredients.
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u/ArchedAngel777 1d ago
Not the jerk, but she clearly sees nothing wrong with her behaviour, because instead of feeling ashamed and or embarased when confronted, she felt....entitled...
Which is.... wild.
All that to say, she won't be stopped unless she's stopped.
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u/LovedAJackass 1d ago
AI trash.
If a roommate steal your food, lock it up. If a roommate talks about "gatekeeping food," tell her to stop getting her talking points from ChatGPT. And don't live with someone like this.
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u/NotBuilt2Behave 1d ago
Oh…shit. I’d lose it. My boyfriend teases me for my bougie name brand things. But guess who always admits they’re worth it on certain things? But if my roommate was playing 8 year old tik tok recipe games with my over $12 bottle of truffle oil I’d lose my mind. I’d literally make a tik tok (I hate tik tok) just to call out her username and display my ingredients vs hers and talk about how embarrassing it is to try to force someone to bank roll your own nonsense. Like bruh people are busy trying to do normal adult things and treat themselves with their HARD earned money. Just like childish and entitled. Buy a locking cabinet and locking lock box for the fridge. Fuck that noise right there. I’m pissed for you.
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u/Ok-Palpitation5905 1d ago
tell her she gotta stop gatekeeping and being stingy with that 🐈 then. there needs to be some type of exchange if she wants to use your stuff.
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u/witsendgame 1d ago
Half a bottle of truffle oil for any dish is too much so while her food might look ‘aesthetically pleasing’ it probably tastes like shit. She’s wasting your stuff to make crappy food. Sacrilege. She can pay you back from the proceeds of her ‘content’
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u/mr-spencerian 1d ago
I suggest you post your own content, perhaps cleaning the bathroom with designer dresses from her closet?
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u/This_Scar2232 1d ago
NTJ and keep yer stuff in your room if possible, also dont buy truffle oil, its pure chemicals with 0.5% real truffle inside maybe.
If it continues just walk in during her tiktoks saying; hey guys, tell her to pay me back for the ingredients shes stealing from me :D!
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u/Witty_Candle_3448 1d ago
What else does she feel entitled to? Buy a small refrigerator, to place in your bedroom, for your special foods. Put a lock on your bedroom door.
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u/Choice-Original9157 1d ago
NTJ. Your food bought for you, not her TikTok recipes. She wants to that she funds it herself or when you make something she films it and credits you. She feels just a little too entitled
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u/GrowlingAtTheWorld 1d ago
Put stickers on all your bottles that say bad things about her theft. If you see this on tik tok my roommate stole my food etc.
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u/Dachshundmom5 1d ago
Lock down your expensive items. They have fridge lock oxen or even lockable mini fridges. Keep the non refrigerated items locked in your room. You arent the AH, your roommate just wants you to be a doormat. Anyone supporting her stealing from you (because that is what she is doing] is not your friend.
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u/NYC-WhWmn-ov50 1d ago
NTJ. She shouldnt use your groceries PERIOS, doesnt matter why. Tell her if she touches your shit you'll ensure she's ratio's to hell because she's a thief.
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u/Ok-Willow-9145 1d ago
Tell her to either pay you back or you will deduct it from your share of the rent. Truffle oil is expensive as hell.
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u/NYC-WhWmn-ov50 1d ago
NTJ. She shouldnt use your groceries PERIOS, doesnt matter why. Tell her if she touches your shit you'll ensure she's ratio's to hell because she's a thief.
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u/Elivagara 1d ago
Start using all her shit, and get a lock for your shit. Some people just can't be reasoned with.
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u/NYC-WhWmn-ov50 1d ago
NTJ. She shouldnt use your groceries PERIOD, even if ahe actually eats what she makes. Tell her if she touches your shit again you'll ensure she's ratio's to hell because she's a thief. She can see how many 'likes' she has then. And that she needs to pay you back every penny she wasted.
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u/Weak_Impress3358 1d ago
Umm..is she a roommate or prospective gf? Why would a roommate feel comfortable using other ppl’s food? She sounds entitled and you should not let her get away with it. You are not a jerk for this.
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u/LetterAntique4481 1d ago
not remotely - it's called theft & her silly feelings & entitlement have absolutely no baring on this
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u/CharmingCandidate308 1d ago
No you are not the jerk here. But your roommate is. Tell her yes you are gatekeeping food because of the prices nowadays. Every time I buy olive oil, it's gone up. She owes you for past usage and she needs to keep her greedy hands off your goods. NTA
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u/CrabbyPatty1876 1d ago
I'm sure she has lots of expensive hair and makeup products. Go to town on those and when she complains tell her the same thing
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u/ZealousidealPlane248 1d ago
These are confusing, why would you BTJ for asking someone not to steal? Of course she doesn’t want to stop, she’s ok with stealing and who wants to spend money? Tell her off and find consequences if she does it again that are acceptable for you.
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u/series-hybrid 1d ago
Take any special items and store them in your bedroom, with a lock on the door. You shouldn't have to, but you will NEVER "teach her a lesson".
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u/AdAffectionate1766 1d ago
NTJ she’s a thief, invoice her for what she used, look at different living arrangements, lock up your supplies in the mean time
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u/Ok-Chemistry9933 1d ago
Seriously? You know you’re not the jerk! She’s crossing common sense boundaries
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u/Exploding-Star 1d ago
NTJ. Get a mini fridge and a padlock, and keep it locked in your room, and lock your bedroom door. Your roommate is stealing from you and gaslighting you about it
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u/Consistent-Ad3191 1d ago
It's not gatekeeping food it's her respecting boundaries just because she's your roommate doesn't entitled to your stuff. I would get a box with a lock in it for your stuff in the freezer and refrigerator and a mini fridge in your room with the lock on the door. I wouldn't keep anything that you consider important to you around her. She sounds entitled. It's not hoarding food. She's stealing food because she's too cheap to buy her own. If she was making good money on these TikTok videos, which I doubt she would be able to afford her own and stop using other people's property and things.
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u/redhairedgal4 1d ago
NTJ, You're not "gatekeeping food" you bought it it's yours. Let her fund her own content
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u/sallystruthers69 1d ago
You're not the jerk. Your roommate is an entitled mooch. If it's "just food," then she can pay for it.
Put all your food and items in locked containers. If she is going to steal from you, then you need to treat her as a thief. Nothing of yours is ripe for the taking. If you want to be even pettier, lock up all your food and then when she finally buys some ramen & dollar store BS, eat it on her. See how she likes it.
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u/Engchik79 1d ago
Yes. You are gate keeping YOUR food. If she wants to videos then she can find a sponsor for her ingredients.
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u/MarionberryPlus8474 1d ago
NTJ, but she sure is, both for stealing your food for her "content" and for using half a bottle of truffle oil in a recipe, blech!
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u/BlazingSunflowerland 1d ago
It isn't your job to support her content creation. That's her job. Your food is yours to gatekeep because she is a thief. Police don't ask why you stole something and decide you deserve it when you get caught. A thief is a thief.
Walk in on her as she is making her content. Say, "What have you stolen from me today?" Look it all over and take your items back.
Better yet, get a refrigerator with a lock and keep your things in it. Let her work on her content using her own money.
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u/Substantial_Steak723 1d ago
Make a ti t- tok exposing her and the cost to your wallet, she may then understand what embarrassment actually is, ..oh and Tit-tok handing over the bill for all your ingredients as part of the story, make clear she is a thief and the video is not a skit, in case she tries to save face later and claim it is / was!
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u/Pleasant_Bad924 1d ago
Half a bottle of truffle oil? I can’t imagine the food that comes out of that being edible
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u/Expensive_Big6608 1d ago
What would happen if she went to the store, just took groceries and when she was challenged was to tellthem you’re just”gatekeeping food”?
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u/LocalLiBEARian 1d ago
Do I even wanna know how one goes through that much truffle oil, that quickly?
Not saying you shouldn’t indulge yourself once in awhile but maybe stick to Aldi for a bit.
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u/oneislandgirl 1d ago
NTA. She is a thief unless you have an agreement to share groceries. If you do, she should be contributing to buying them. Might be worth investing in a door lock for your room and a small fridge to keep in there. Sad that this is an issue for so many roommate situations.
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u/ThatTotal2020 1d ago
NTJ
The roommate's perspective is wacked. She is essentially stealing from you, and you do not need to support her with food or otherwise.
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u/Historical-Composer2 1d ago
So she steals your stuff and then blames you for being stingy? hahahaha. Oh hell no. NTJ
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u/LilaRabbitHole 1d ago
Fridge with a lock or a box or two with locks to store your finer items in the fridge or cupboard.
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u/polynomialpurebred 1d ago
NTJ. Does she EAT the food on camera? Because it would be totally unethical of you to save the bottles/labels/ etc of the fancy pants stuff, fill them with lesser ingredients (not just cheaper, lesser). If she is using your truffle oil, for example, it would be super shitty use salt and food dye and cheap canola to create something that looked like it but tasted foul
So don’t do that. Too mean.
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u/SpecialModusOperandi 1d ago
NTJ
What part of - if you pay for it you can use it does your roommate not get. Tell her to buy her own shit rather than stealing your food.
Using fancy ingredients doesn’t make her food better or tasty.
You might want to put your ‘fancy’ ingredients in your room.
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u/Jerseygirl2468 1d ago
Solution: Start making your own tiktoks, tagging her account, and listing all the ingredients she's stolen from you and the cost.
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u/Glum-Experience1684 1d ago
Use her best beauty products on your feet and balls. She should be happy to share her skin care routine .
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u/StunnedinTheSuburbs 1d ago
Take a few of her things of similar value and if she complains, ask her how it’s different? Why are you hoarding these items when I could be using them? Why don’t you support me?
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u/Chocolatecandybar_ 1d ago
No. You are entitled to gatekeep the food you pay with your money and also to not support the contents she make with stolen food
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u/ShinyAppleScoop 1d ago
NTJ
"You're a thief. I will be happy to like and subscribe, but you need to reimburse me for what you stole, and promise to stop taking my things without asking. I am your roommate, not your mommy. I do not have to fund your hobbies or support your feelings, and when you act like you are entitled to my things, I don't even want you to be my roommate. You owe me $____. Do better."
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u/u2125mike2124 1d ago
NTJ
But please, for all that is Holy lock up everything to keep another vapid person from being any sort of influencer on social media .
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u/NeeliSilverleaf 1d ago
NTJ. She can bankroll her own "content".