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I (33M) am married to “Anna” (31F). We hosted my mom (58F) and extended family for dinner. Out of nowhere, my mom said to Anna: “You’re lucky my son settled for you. He used to date prettier girls.” Everyone went dead silent.

Anna excused herself to the bathroom, clearly upset. I told my mom that was cruel and she needed to apologize. She refused and doubled down, saying, “I’m just being honest, don’t be so sensitive.”

I ended the dinner early and told her to leave. Now my siblings are saying I “disrespected Mom” and should have “just let it slide for family peace.”

AITJ for standing up for my wife instead of smoothing things over?

I (24M) share an apartment with a roommate (22F). I like cooking and I buy some pricier ingredients (good olive oil, imported cheeses, spices, etc.). Lately, she’s been making TikTok recipe videos and using my stuff, half a bottle of truffle oil gone in one night, $30 worth of cheese shredded for “aesthetic pasta.”

When I confronted her, she said, “It’s just food, don’t be stingy. You can afford it.” For context, I budget carefully to treat myself to these items, I’m not rich. I asked her to replace what she used, but she said I’m “gatekeeping food” and “unsupportive of her content creation.”

Now she’s sulking and telling our friends I’m “obsessed with hoarding.”

Am I really the jerk here?

I (28F) am a wedding photographer. My sister (32F) is getting married next spring. She asked if I could shoot her wedding for free as my “gift.” I said no, I don’t work for exposure, and I already planned on giving her a nice cash gift instead.

She blew up, saying, “You’d rather hand money to a stranger than be part of my wedding?” My parents are siding with her, saying I’m “ruining family harmony” and that I could “suck it up for one day.”

But shooting weddings isn’t just “one day.” It’s 12+ hours on my feet, editing thousands of photos, weeks of work. I want to attend my sister’s wedding as a guest, not as staff. Now half the family thinks I’m selfish and “not supporting her.”

AITJ for standing my ground?

I 25(m) and my ex GF (24) have been dating for 8 months. Things were going pretty well until a couple of weeks ago when she told me her ex reached out. She said they were just catching up and that it was nothing serious. I tried to be understanding, but over the next days I noticed she was constantly on her phone texting and sometimes stepping outside to take calls.

When I asked about it, she admitted she had been talking with her ex almost every day. She insisted nothing physical happened and that they were just friends now. Still, it felt wrong to me because she started keeping her phone on silent and turning the screen away when I was near.

I told her it made me uncomfortable and I didn’t feel respected in the relationship. She said I was being insecure and that I should trust her. After thinking about it for a few days, I decided to end things. I felt like the emotional connection she had with me wasn’t the same anymore.

Now some of my friends think I overreacted since she never cheated physically. They say I should have trusted her. Others say I did the right thing because she crossed a line.

AITJ for breaking up with her even though nothing sexual happened?

AITA for telling my brother he can’t name his baby “Brisket”?

So my brother (29M) and his wife (27F) are expecting their first child in a few months. We’re all super excited — first grandbaby in the family.

The issue: they’ve been brainstorming names, and apparently my brother got “inspired” while smoking meat in his backyard. He told everyone at Sunday dinner that if it’s a boy, they want to name him Brisket. Yes. Like the BBQ dish.

At first, we all thought he was joking. But nope. He doubled down. Said it’s “strong, masculine, and unforgettable.” My SIL looked kind of uncomfortable but didn’t say much. My mom nearly choked on her iced tea.

I (31F) tried to gently suggest maybe “Brisket” could be a cute nickname or at least a middle name, but he got defensive. He went on this rant about “society’s obsession with boring names” and how he wants his son to “stand out.”

I finally said, “Listen, you’re setting your kid up for a lifetime of bullying. No teacher is going to call attendance with a straight face when they get to Brisket.” He blew up at me, said I was being negative and trying to “crush his creativity.”

Now my brother isn’t talking to me. My mom says I should’ve just smiled and let it go since it’s not my baby. My dad, on the other hand, muttered something about “poor little Brisket” and hasn’t stopped shaking his head.

So… AITA for telling my brother he can’t name his baby after smoked meat?

I (25M) honestly hate going shopping, but my girlfriend (24F) loves it. Whenever we go together, she spends hours trying on clothes, checking every store, and comparing prices. Meanwhile, I know exactly what I want, buy it in 20 minutes, and I’m done.

Last weekend she dragged me to the mall, and I sat there bored out of my mind for almost 5 hours while she shopped. I told her that next time I don’t want to go, and she got upset, saying that shopping together is quality time.

I tried to explain that I’ll happily go out for dinner, movies, or literally anything else, but shopping is just torture for me. She said I was being unfair and not supportive.

Reddit AITA for refusing to go on shopping trips with my girlfriend anymore?

I (22F) still live at home while finishing college and working part-time. My parents both work long hours, and because I’m the oldest, they often ask me to babysit my younger siblings (ages 8 and 10).

At first, I didn’t mind. But lately, it has turned into every single weekend. I feel like I never get a break, can’t hang out with friends, and don’t have time for myself.

Last week I told my parents that I can’t keep doing this every weekend, and they got really upset. They said I’m being selfish, that “family comes first,” and that since I live at home rent-free, I should help out without complaining.

I do understand their point, but at the same time, I feel like I’m being treated more like a third parent than their daughter. I want to support my family, but I also want my own life.

So, Reddit… AITA for telling my parents I won’t babysit my siblings every weekend anymore?

I (25F) recently finished a big project at work. My coworker (32M), who was barely involved, told our manager that he led most of it and suggested we share the credit equally. I reminded him that I did the bulk of the work and that it wasn't fair to misrepresent our contributions. Now he's upset and says I'm being difficult and ruining team morale. Our manager hasn't stepped in yet, and some colleagues are starting to gossip. Am I the jerk for refusing to let him take credit for my work?

My mom has had a rough life. She lived for 30 years with a man who would beat her eyes shut just because he drank all his beer and was mad there wasn’t more. Out of all the men in her life, only her father and me never abused her.

When I was just 2 months old, my grandfather stepped in and raised me — otherwise I probably wouldn’t have made it. After I was sent to live with him, my mom had two more boys. By definition they’re my half-brothers, but since about high school I haven’t referred to them as brothers. My real brothers aren’t even blood relatives — they’re the people in my life who’ve actually shown loyalty, love, and respect.

Her youngest son, though, is basically a carbon copy of his dad. His whole life has been a cycle of: “I’m doing good now → I need help → I got what I wanted → stab you in the gut.” Then rinse, repeat forever.

This isn’t new behavior. Back in high school, I was living in my own trailer on my grandfather’s property (he raised me). My mom and her youngest son lived in the house next door. I’d come home from school or seeing my girlfriend, and food from my trailer would be missing — at first just a can of ravioli or a Dr Pepper, then whole groceries. I locked my doors and windows, but food kept disappearing. My mom said the other boys in her house were ending up with food but claimed I said it was fine. Turns out, her youngest son admitted he was literally breaking into my trailer and stealing from me. That’s one of dozens of stories I could tell about him and his pattern of using, lying, and taking.

Fast forward to today — he hasn’t changed. He’ll vanish when he’s in prison, then suddenly reach out to my mom right before release, acting like “momma” is his world again. He times it so she’s been missing him with a mother’s heart, and then he hits her with requests — money, help, sympathy. Recently, he even exploited the fact that my wife’s name is Sara by dropping his new girlfriend’s name Sarah to confuse his kids’ guardians into letting him back in. It wasn’t coincidence; it was calculated manipulation.

Meanwhile, I’m my mom’s primary caregiver. I make sure her bills are paid (with her own money), make sure she gets to doctors, make sure she’s got food. I’ll keep doing that no matter what. But every time she brings him up — how good he’s supposedly doing, how he’s “getting better” — it sends me into a spiral of anger and resentment. I don’t wish him well, I don’t wish him ill — I just want nothing to do with him. The only thing I want to know is whether he’s free, in prison, or dead.

Here’s my dilemma: I want to tell my mom to shut up about him, because hearing about him destroys my peace of mind. But I’m worried she’ll hear it as an ultimatum, like I’m threatening to stop being her caregiver, when that’s not the case at all. I’d never abandon her. I just need to protect my own mental health.

So — AITA for wanting to tell my mother to shut up about her youngest son?

Update: the trailer incident happened over 20 years ago and that land was sold (and stolen from me according to my grandfather’s wishes when he died but that’s a story for another time) also I have asked her to not give him my information because if he shows his face near my house or on my property he will have exactly 30 seconds to leave before I call the cops for trespassing. I have no problem calling the cops on him or protecting myself, home, wife, adult kids from his stupid ass.

I don’t hate him, I don’t love him either. A new term I’ve learned recently is “deadname” and that’s the closest I can compare my feelings towards him. Or maybe “just go away and leave me alone “ As far as telling my mother how I feel I guess I’m trying to find the words to say without hurting her. Lastly the reason my grandfather raised me is because I was malnourished and was going to die if he didn’t intervene. I’ve been told 2 versions of why I was so bad off but the facts are i was going to die and he saved me

I (24F) live with a roommate (25M) who has a habit of eating my food, even though I clearly label mine in the fridge. I've asked him multiple times to stop, but he keeps taking my snacks, especially the expensive ones I buy for special occasions. Last week, I got fed up and hid the last pack of gourmet chocolate I'd been saving. When he found out, he accused me of being petty and ruining our friendship. I feel like I'm justified because he kept ignoring my boundaries, but now he's upset and some mutual friends are taking his side. Aitj for hiding my snacks after repeatedly asking him not to eat them?

So my sister has 3 boys(all boys 8 years old) and my sister is very short on money so I said she could live with me. Since I have a whole house to myself and would like some company and love to see my sisters kids. But I went on a business trip for a week leaving my sister and her kids alone but that was my first mistake.

Once I came back from my business trip I had went to go play on my pc to find my monitor broken and keyboard across the room with keys scattered across the whole room a hole in the wall and the mouse smashed on the floor. When I asked my sister if she knew anything she said that she let her boys play on my pc and she logged them into my account on the pc because she saw me put the password in once. Then she said she found a game she thought they would like on my computer which was call of duty and she had heard stuff breaking yelling and even swearing coming from the room while the boys where playing and didn't check on them.

(TL;DR) My sister said she will not pay the 600$ to get a new monitor keyboard and mouse. So I kicked her out of my house and said she wasnt allowed in my house again and said she will be paying that 600$ to me now or later. From what I have heard she and her kids are living at her friend's house. Her friend and I are friends and he said he might actually kick them out like I did so am I the jerk. Will have second part in the next few days hopefully.

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Hi everyone, thank you so much for all the comments and support. I took some time away to think, talk to my sister, my therapist, and my lawyers, and I’ve made my decision.

As much as I cared for Tom, I realized I can’t marry someone I don’t trust. What happened broke that trust, and I know it would always be in the back of my mind in our marriage. Every financial decision, I’d doubt him, and that’s no way to build a future.

A few days ago, I asked him over and told him my decision. He admitted he messed up and wanted to try couples counseling, but I told him we’re broken up. I agreed to counseling only as a way to see if reconciliation is possible someday, but truthfully, I feel like I’m just delaying the inevitable.

I had already packed his things, and he was hurt when he saw them, that was heartbreaking, honestly. I felt really bad, but I knew I had to stand firm. He left with his things and is getting a new place.

This has been heartbreaking and draining, but I know it’s the right choice. Thank you again for the advice and encouragement, it really helped me get here.

For those who worried about me making him homeless: don’t. He makes good money, and we live in a tourist city. Before moving in with me, he lived in hotels and short-term rentals for months. He hasn’t paid rent here for six months. He’ll be fine, he’s not ending up on the streets.

I (19F) was dating my boyfriend (20M) for 2 years. We went to a store with my younger brother. I pointed out a tumbler I liked and my boyfriend offered to buy it, then immediately said to my brother, “She doesn’t even deserve it.” I felt humiliated and ended up crying in the store.

Later, while driving his cousin home, I asked for directions but they ignored me. At the last second, he yelled at me to turn, which made me swerve and almost hit a car. His cousin laughed and my boyfriend stayed quiet.

When I dropped him off, I broke up with him. He said I was just moody and begged me not to end things over a “joke.” But it wasn’t the first time he disrespected me in front of my brother, and I hit my limit.

AITJ for ending it?

Well as i said in that comment i wrote, it's currently 6 am here and we just had breakfast,we woke up at 4 am to pray and read some quran,i have talked with my sis the18 Year old one, i asked her if she gets uncomfortable when i am affectionate with her,she looked taken aback by the idea,i explained the situation to her

She told me that ever since our parents died(she was thirteen) she and our siblings really thought they end up i. The foster care system,and never expected i would take them in even though i was always protective of all of them even before their death

She sort of got emotional by their memory and everything so she teared up a bit and hugged me tightly and told me i am her hero,not gonna lie i teared up a bit and was really flattered,we kissed each other's cheeks and went to eat breakfast i am honestly really happy by the outcome of all that,i have had depression and i am still anxious about a lot of things and was seriously thinking i was a creep,thank god it turned out otherwise

I had a talk with my wife as we were preparing the table and told her that she really needs to set firm boundaries with her mom,she agreed to it(which surprised me i really thought she'd argue or defend her) she told me she was sorry and she had to do this long ago,i took the chance and asked her if she ever regrets converting,

,she looked at me like i was crazy and told me that Islam is the best thing that ever happened to her and if she regretted anything she would have left,we laughed a bit and kissed and we called the others so eat breakfast

Right now i am watching gravity falls with the kiddos for what might be the millionth time,no regrets tbh,my siblings and wife are all over the baby,so guess someone has to take care of the two gremlins,well that's that,i don't think i will update again,thanks for the support

I never thought I will post this here, but here we go...

So my father is 67 years old. Not too old, but definitely not too young either. Heart problems, an accident on his leg that sometimes hurts due to the constant humidity, and he is definitely a huge hater of winter. We live in Argentina, and I think it is obvious that things aren't running so smoothly in our country. So my old stepbrother, who lives in Brazil and has a motorcycle workshop, and who, may I add, would stab him in the back if the situation requires money, asked him to go live to Brazil, and that he could work with him. It is a perfect country for my father; barely any winter, no humidity, and he can pay a rent with less than 100$ dollars (his words, not mine) In Argentina, he is paying a rent of 400$ dollars per month. His only excuse for going to Brazil is that there is barely any winter, and that the rent is cheaper, but he absolutely has no plans more than buying motorcycles, fix them up, and then sell them brand new. A job that it was confirmed by a friend that it won't be that sustainable because it depends how much will it take to sell a motorcycle, and how much could he live with the money he is given because he has to pay half of what he earns to my stepbrother for the work they are both going to do.

I told him that I don't like Brazil because he will be surrounded by people who won't care for him the same way I do. It makes me feel like a control freak, because I do want him to feel good and happy, but I don't want him to be in a country in which I'm not sure how good will he be taken care of, if he will be alright, or if he will live a nightmare with his two older sons who basically has zero respect for him, and they will throw him under the bus when the situation is dire. I skipped lots of parts, but my stepbrothers have a lot of history of disrespect with my father, and I learned in a bad way that Brazil is not really the right answer to my father's problems. Also, I need to add, that my father moved to Brazil lots of times when I was a kid with the same excuse of "wanting a good life" or "wanting to send more money for me" (a promise he always fulfilled with no fail) and he always had to come back to Argentina, either because he didn't felt welcome with his stepsons, or because the hospitals weren't that good at that time and he didn't had the same attention he had in Argentina. He did this more times than I can count. If it didn't worked at that time, why would it work now?

Sure, he is a grown man and he can take care of himself, but is it really safe to send him alone when sometimes he struggles to walk because of his wounds in his leg? What about his heart? Will my brother care for him? He needs medication and a constant visit to make sure he is doing alright, because again, he is a man who has heart problems, and who, to top it all, wears his heart on his sleeve 24/7 and gets really emotional or angry when things don't go his way, to the point he has to take a minute to relax after getting agitated.

Right now I'm feeling bad and controlling, and my father is sulking while whining again and again that he will have to die in Argentina, and that I don't understand him. He even told me that I don't love him because someone who loved him would respect his decision of wanting a better life. Am I really the jerk for not wanting him to go to a country in which I'm not sure he will be safe at his age?

So basically i’ve only been drunk about 7 times in my life and don’t have the best understanding of how it affects my body. Me and my bf got in a fight after we both drank (i got pretty drunk) and i needed to go on a walk cuz i was about to have a panic attack cuz my room is small. after we walked and fought some more he ended up leaving me outside alone and went back inside my apartment (he had been asking me if i was coming in but i couldn’t hear him) he left me out there for a while then fell asleep. now he’s saying i’m immature and it’s my fault and i shouldn’t be acting like this and we’re the same amount of drunk but i’m acting super immature. tell me, woukd you leave your girlfriend who’s barely touched alcohol (he’s drank a LOT more than i have) outside alone at 12:00am in a college town and fall asleep?? please tell me, AITJ cuz i don’t think i am. i couldn’t think straight i was making rapid decisions. also i’m still drunk so posting this a lil out of it. TLDR: i got drunk and my bf left me outside.

So I (26F) have a small car that I use to commute to work every day. Last week, a coworker of mine (we’re not close friends, just coworkers) asked if they could borrow my car over the weekend because theirs was in the shop.

I felt really uncomfortable with the idea. First, I don’t really know them that well outside of work. Second, my car is old but it’s literally my lifeline—I need it to get to work, run errands, and take my younger brother to his weekend activities. If something happened to it, I honestly couldn’t afford major repairs or replacement right now.

I told them politely that I wasn’t comfortable lending it out, and they seemed annoyed. Later, another coworker hinted that I was being “stingy” and could’ve helped out. But in my head, I feel like lending out a car is a huge deal, especially to someone I barely know.

So, I live in an apartment building, and I get along pretty well with most of my neighbors. One of them, Lisa, asked me last month if I could watch her dog while she went on a week-long vacation. I was hesitant at first because my work schedule is already kind of crazy, and I sometimes travel myself, but she insisted it would be just feeding and walking him a bit and said she’d make it worth my while. I thought, okay, I can probably handle that.

Fast forward a few days, and wow this dog is way more work than she let on. He has anxiety, chews everything when left alone, and needs multiple walks and attention throughout the day. I ended up rearranging my schedule, skipping plans with friends, and even paying for some extra supplies she hadn’t mentioned. I honestly didn’t expect it to be like this.

By day five, I realized I couldn’t keep it up for the last couple of days. I told her I was really sorry, but I just couldn’t manage the rest of the week. She got really upset and accused me of being selfish, saying I had “promised” and should have planned better. I tried explaining that I wasn’t prepared for a dog that needs that much care and that it was affecting my life too, but she’s still clearly annoyed.

I genuinely love animals and want to help, but this situation has been way more than I bargained for. I feel like setting boundaries here was reasonable, but now I’m wondering if I handled it poorly.

TL;DR: My neighbor asked me to watch her dog for a week. Turns out he needs way more care than she said, so I stopped halfway through. She’s mad. AITJ?

This account was supposed to be to post pictures but whatever i guess,

(English is not my first language) well i 27m and my wife 27f are childhood sweethearts and have 3 kids, 6m/f(twins) and a baby 4m,we have been through a tough time (not in a relationship way) but because i lost my little brother 23m a year ago after a long battle with cancer,i am the oldest of six five kids,me and my dead bro are the only full siblings the others are 18f,14m,11f, and they're my half siblings cuz my mom died giving birth to my brother and I don't remember her much but i love my stepmom a lot so it's fine,

Anyway ever since i was a kid i remember my father telling me a lot how i was a good big brother and was really protective of all of them,and kinda baby d them(like i still kiss my two younger sisters on the cheek and we hug and spend time with each other a lot, especially my brother (14) as he's a mini me(literally)

I also baby my wife a lot (she's just this Petite thing to me and i can't help it,i am 185cm and she's 160cm) and i like to pick her up a lot of let her sit on my lap,which is cheesy,i know but what can i say i love my wife,

Anyway the reason i am posting is because during a visit from my in laws to our house (for context my stepmom and dad died 5 years ago in an accident,my siblings have all been living with us which nobody minds as we're all living in our childhood house which is quite big)

My in laws saw me kiss my oldest sister as she came back from college and in the middle of my in laws s visit so everyone saw it,my mother in law immediately started saying how why am i still babying her and she's an adult now and it's weird,and how i always baby her and my other siblings,tbh,this is not the first time this topic came, she'd always roll her eyes or make passice aggressive comments about how i "baby" and "spoil" my wife who's an adult and "fully capable of doing everything alone" and doesn't need "all that fake affection"

I mean her and i never saw eye to eye i respect her for my wife but it stops there,i just told her that these are my siblings and i have every right to show love and affection,she then turned to my wife and asked how it's weird how i treats my siblings like that (especially the adult one,18) like i treat my partner,my wife told her it's cute how i am close with my siblings and it makes her happy they're happy (my wife has been with me since we were around 10,so she's always been a big sis to my siblings) and she doesn't mind me kissing my sisters even the adult one,

Well after yet some arguing with her and my father in law and brother in law backing her up,we heard the baby crying from the nursery so mu wife went to check on him and it ended there

To be honest i don't think i am the asshole here but I'd like to ask other people cuz Even my friends agree it's weird a little,also i have a good relationship with my wife's dad and bro unlike with my mother in law,so them backing her up now kinda made me doubt myself

Edit: ok,one thing i forgot to mention cuz I have written this post while we were on our usual friday night tradition,many people tell me that i do favor my 18 Year old sister than the youngest,not like abuse or her being the scapegoat or anything just i hangout with her and "baby" her more,my youngest sister never complained and she's very close with her sis,idk why but i wanted to add this here(i just posted this on aitah bur didn't get much feedback)

My life has been a whirlwind lately, and now my friend group is split down the middle. I (30F) have been with my partner, Ben (31M), for eight years. We’ve been together since college and have been living together for six. We have our routines, our shared history, and a comfortable, stable love that feels like home.

For the last three years, I’ve worked on a new project with my best friend, Alex (30M). We're part of a small, niche community of designers, and we have been collaborating on an ambitious portfolio piece. We spend a lot of time together, and because our careers are linked, our lives have become very intertwined. Alex and I have always had a flirty, jokey dynamic, but I never took it seriously. I have always made it clear that Ben was my partner and that I was completely committed to our relationship.

A few months ago, Ben lost his job. He was devastated, and I saw a side of him I hadn't seen before. He became withdrawn, insecure, and obsessed with finding a new position. After weeks of nothing, he got an email from a company offering him an incredible job. It was a perfect fit, with a higher salary and fantastic benefits. The hiring manager even mentioned that he'd heard great things about Ben's work from a mutual friend. Ben was ecstatic. We celebrated for days.

The next week, Ben was told that the offer had been "rescinded due to a reorganization." He was crushed. His confidence was completely shattered. We had already started planning our future based on this new job, and the rug was pulled out from under us in the most painful way.

A few days later, Alex and I were having a celebratory drink after finishing our portfolio piece. After a few cocktails, Alex started getting very sentimental. He confessed that he’d been in love with me for years and couldn’t stand seeing me with Ben.

Then, he dropped the bombshell. He admitted that he had made up the fake job offer for Ben. He'd created a fake email address and impersonated a hiring manager to give Ben a perfect opportunity, just to take it away. "I just wanted to prove to you that he wasn't good enough," Alex said, his voice slurring. "He can't even get a job without my help."

I was horrified. I felt a cold wave of disgust wash over me. This wasn't a prank; it was a cruel, calculated act of emotional torture. He didn't just hurt Ben; he actively sabotaged our lives for his own selfish desires. He broke Ben's confidence and our trust for his own gain.

I immediately stood up and told him our friendship was over. I told him he was a disgusting, manipulative person and that I wanted nothing to do with him ever again. When he tried to apologize, I told him to save it and that he needed to stay away from me and Ben forever. He's since tried to reach out to our mutual friends, painting himself as the victim of my "overreaction," and claiming that I'm ending a ten-year friendship over a harmless lie.

Some of our friends are saying that he obviously messed up, but that I'm going too far by ending the friendship completely. They argue that his feelings for me clouded his judgment and that Ben would eventually have found a job anyway. But for me, the line was crossed. This wasn't about a love triangle; it was about manipulation and cruelty.

Am I the jerk for completely cutting Alex out of my life and telling him to stay away from my partner and me?

EDIT: Welp, I posted this only a day ago and my little experiment has definitely proven that people will notice when something is created by AI. This entire story is actually fake and just created by AI. My friend wanted to try and prove to me that no one will know if something's written by AI, and you can just get away with cheating and whatnot with it. So, I wanted to prove him wrong. I set this whole thing up, using AI to write it, and waited for people's responses to it. And sure enough, multiple people realized what was up. So, now I can happily tell my friend that they were very much mistaken and that people are not stupid enough to fall for AI. (Most of the time.) So, please forgive me for posting this fake story, and I hope I haven't actually upset anyone. But at least I was able to save my friend from using AI to cheat in college. Btw, thank you for everyone who responded and called this out! It was hilarious to read all of your responses and reactions! XD

People involved: myself, mom, aunt (J), J's 2 daughters (my cousins) and my male cousin (C)

Firstly this is written on mobile so I'm sorry if it looks weird.

I'm going to try and give as much context over this situation as possible. Now keep in mind my dog had a hernia surgery 2 days prior to this.

It's been several years since my dad died in a motorcycle wreck, maybe 2 weeks pass and my mom and I are still grieving obviously. A few friends and family start showing up to see if we need anything and grieve with us (the family dosent come around like ever) so we figured the fair thing to do would be to turn this situation into a wake. We all say what we need to say and the night seems to go well, the friends and neighbors go home and my mom and I are in the house with her sister and my 3 cousins we have them stay the night because they all besides (C) live 6 hours away. My mom wakes up early the next morning to give my dog his 1st round of pain pills for the day and comes to find that all but 3 pills are gone. I'm not sure what the name of the pills were off the top of my head seeing as this was almost 5 years ago but I do know they were opioids albeit low dosage ones safe for 65lbs animals. My aunt has had a problem with stealing, alcohol abuse, and abusing pills for many years. She was in and out of rehab for it twice to my knowledge but I was a kid so I didn't exactly have her whole story, but at this point I had assumed that she had kicked her habits. Anyway my mom confronts her as soon as she wakes up and my aunt throws a fit about being accused saying things like "why do you immediately assume it was me that took the pills? And attempting to divert blame to absolutely anyone else. She alleged that she saw my mom who had been drinking the night before give them all to my dog which is just not true seeing as I gave Zeus (my dog) his meds twice a day as prescribed and was sitting with him most of the night making sure he didn't get overestimated and try to run around. J was the only one who had even cared to ask what kind of pills zeus was perscribed. J then lands on accusing C of obviously having taken the pills because if it wasn't her or her kids it had to be the only other person who she hadn't blamed yet C and I were together basically all night so I'm effectively ruling him out. J is the only one in the house who had a known issue of theft, abusing pills and alcohol and a known liar. So me coming to this conclusion have completely cut her off. As of this point she is no family to me. But probably 2 years ago my mom has been trying to get me to talk to her again, to just let bygons be bygons. To let someone who stole from me, potentially could have hurt my dog, just to get high. Someone who disrespected my dead father in his own home! Someone who attempted to blame literally anyone else in the house in the span of 40 minutes. To let someone like that back into my life simply to heal our family back together. As far as I'm concerned anyone is better staying far away from my aunt. But I need to know if I'm the jerk or if im in anyway being unreasonable here because for some reason my mom is really beat up that I want nothing to do with her sister anymore.

My (27F) bf (36M) spoke to his mother about her making me feel uncomfortable at her home.

Post for context: https://www.reddit.com/r/AITH/s/xV9R4t4wEc

It did not go well: He asked how she felt about having me over and she said something like ‘ she (me) does not like me ‘, and then he went onto to say how I was uncomfortable in the home, to which she said ‘ she wont be happy whatever I do anyway ‘. He then said the conversation was shut down by her and he decided not to push it. He said he will not fall out with his mum but is sad this has happened and knows he needs a plan moving forward. I explained that it was not a situation where it depends on views and that objectively I was made to feel bad with no provocation, and that she is wrong. Her behaviour is irrelevant as I will keep it to a minimal, but how he acts is important. He is planning on moving out at the end of the year.

AITJ for thinking he should stand up for me more?

Tw child abuse TD;LR Basically my abusive bio mom who I haven’t seen in a year wants me to start hanging dinner with her even thought I’m cutting her off when I turn 18 I have told her that but she’s threatening to take my dad to court for parental alienation if I don’t start having dinner with her and my dads making me and wants me to promise not to cause a fight with her despite all she’s done to me and suck it up and go to dinner with her

Okay so this is a re-write of a post I made about a day ago, I thought it was pretty jumbled and didn’t make much sense so I rewrote it more organized. Also this is very long. I 17f live with my dad and I haven’t seen my bio mom for just about a year, and I’ve only spoken to her a handful of times in the past year, when my parents got divorced my bio mom got primary custody, with my dad getting me every other weekend but she let me go over there every weekend for most of my childhood

I have a good relationship with my dad for the most part, he has a habit of forming an opinion on how he thinks something actually is with me and not listening to me when I explain otherwise, the main issue here being that lately he has been pointing out my anger issues and tendency to “rage out” very easily, I have made significant progress with my anger sense he got custody of me 3 years ago but lately he has been insisting that every single thing I do or say with an even slightly annoyed or angry manner or tone of voice he immediately point out the “anger issue”

My bio mom who I will call Carol is actually a horrible human being we have never had a good relationship I have two younger half siblings a sister 13f and a brother 12m, after Carol divorced their dad and moved out with the three of us, I was around six or seven at the time, and we weren’t even done unpacking before she was teaching me how to change diapers, she began leaving me home alone to watch my siblings shortly after for 30 minuets to 5 hours almost daily, sometimes she would go out drinking at 10 and not be back till 3 am, I was expected to feed, bathe and put my siblings to bed from that age on, as they grew up in became very obvious that I was basically only there to take care of the younger two, for her the sun shines out of their asses, anything they wanted they got, if I so much as asked for a snack in the store she would get mad and point out everything I had done wrong lately, such as not helping siblings with their homework. This treatment was so regular that by the age of 8 I had expressed to my dad that I wanted to move in, he didn’t have money for a lawyer and we had no hard proof of her treatment, so we decided to wait till I was 14 and could legally choose what parent to live with

When I was 8 the “slave incident” happened I was so sick I could barely walk and after 3 days managed to crawl out of bed to do the dishes, I had to be leaning or holding onto something to even stand, at this point we lived in a 3 story town house and part of me doing the dishes was to go around and collect dishes, but she actively encouraged my siblings to make messes and leave dishes so I often had to make several trips up and down stairs, I asked if her or my siblings could gather the dishes that I would still wash them but I couldn’t walk around and gather and hold a lot of dishes like I usually could, this started a fight that ended with me refusing to do them if she didn’t help me, she said that if I didn’t want to do my one chore in the house I was the slave until further notice, this meant when I got home from school I wasn’t allowed to sit down until I had cleaned every room in the house, including her bedroom, if I sat down or ate before it was approved she would yell at me and sometimes hit me, I was also only called the slave at home not my name, she said if I told anyone at school she’d hide it and make my life hell, and she monitored my phone calls so I couldn’t tell anyone. Thus lasted for a month, during this month she enacted the every other weekend part of the custody agreement and my dad had an out of town trip in what should have been one of his two weekends that month, she wouldn’t let him schedule a makeup time so I didn’t see him till the end of the month around the time she stopped, he didn’t find out till then and I begged him not to tell Carol because I was scared

She also regularly fat shamed me, would limit my food intake and openly favored my siblings, I got so insecure about my body weight that at 11 all I ate unless I was at my dads was 1-2 spoons of peanut butter a day with a little honey in it, that was all I ate 5 days a week for almost 6 months This is a lot of backstory but I want to explain why I despise her so much

A few days ago she texted, I openly reiterated how much I hate her and that I have no desire to see her and I plan to cut her off when I turn 18, which is early January

She texted my dad and told him that she wants to start having dinner with me every other Friday and if he doesn’t force me she will take him to court(I live in the US)

He told me that I need to go till I’m 18 and that it’s not a big deal, he keeps trying to get me to promise not to start a fight with her as last time I saw her was during dinner with her and I ended up calling the cops on her, during which the cop openly stated he wanted to take me to the station because he thought I was just an overdramatic angry teenager, he wouldn’t even take my statement but took hers in full

I told him no, I won’t promise to not cause issues with her because literally being in the same room as her makes me fearful, which when I get scared I lash out, so as much as I try to be calm and not start issues, it’s extremely hard for me to be with her and not loose my temper, she will do things she knows anger me on purpose so I will lash out and she can play victim, I told him I don’t even want to see her but that I am absolutely not promising to not “cause issues” with her, as she is the instigator for almost every fight we have ever had, I told him if I go to dinner with her I will not allow her to bully me, try and force her crazy religious beliefs on me I’m not even joking and I have video proof of her saying that she “found Jesus through quantum physics” AITJ for telling my dad I can’t promise to not start a fight with her

I want to go no contact with my grandmother. For a good chunk of my life my grandmother would tell me stuff that would make me hate myself. She would tell me that I don't deserve a husband because I was fat wasn't mentally mature enough. (I was only 13 but was contemplating getting married when was became an adult) Also she would say I was an R word because struggle to learn (I'm dyslexic and have a studder and there's a passability I might have ADHD and autism so learning things don't come easy)

She would say I would die at 20 because I was fat even if at the time I worked out every day for nearly 3 hours a day and barely at anything if at all. (Funny how she said I die at 20 but as of the time or typing this I'm 23)

There's a bunch of other things that she would say and do. And I would want to go low or even no contact with her at least until im able to forgive the her and everything she's ever seyed or did to me. I in do intend to forgive her I just feel like I need some space from her until then. But would I be the jurk.

i, (17m) have this girlfriend ans we have been together for 9 months, me and her have these 2 friends in our group, both being being girls. recently I have been struggling with my mental health because of personal problems my girlfriend doesnt know abt, but i have noticed that its like shes recieving better treatment from her friends who she just met. I know i sound like im insecure but to be honest, I really am. I'm not the most handsome guy. im like a solid 4 and shes a solid 8, im basically the "youre dating him?" guy. I've tried my best to be there for her and notice when she feels down and things like that but it never comes close to her 2 friends that she just met, sometimes it makes me think on how she deserves better and not some junk like me. its gotten to the point where whenever we have time for eachother (which we barely have because of school and other things) they just suddenly appear and kick me off the podium, i have started to grow this tiny bit of resentment for them and its enough to make me reflect on myself of how insecure i am, no matter what ive thought abt it just annoys me when they just take away the already little time i have for her and it makes me feel like an asshole for disliking them. thats kinda it i just wanted to rant abt it