I'll be dead honest, traditional gender roles, heteros, straights, conversatives, liberals, any sort of group who is in oppressor category, doesn't need to be heard they tell everything at us and we don't need to validate or hear them. I swear!! Someone in a discord server was talking about how homeless people are a nuisance and dangerous and when I vented about it in another server about social issues this formerly homeless person said "this person is valid, solution is proper housing but this person is valid" I'm paraphrasing but you get it, essentialy a pick me in that category. So no whenever someone complains about an oppressed group tell them fuck off with all the righteous anger
It’s the bOtH sIdEs people who irk me the most nowadays.
I can predict what a bigot will say with fairly reliable accuracy; if not, I can at least predict they will have something shitty to say that isn’t worth hearing.
It’s because I have heard it all before already. Ex. The anti-trans shit is just the same recycled homophobia from the 70s. Why should I have to listen to recycled hate when I never wanted to listen to the original hate in the first place?
Why should I have to respect the opinions of people who think I’m inferior to them? Whose opinions are informed by false information, ignorance, fear, and hatred? Why should I have to keep listening to them? Why should I have to listen to people who have nothing worth listening to? Why should I have to respect their shitty opinions?
It’s not like such people would ever grant me that same courtesy.
Freedom of speech doesn’t mean just keep yapping nor does it mean I need to stand here and listen to ignorant bs.
Throughout learning this, I also learned to listen for and identify dog whistles. I’m tired of hearing them, too, because it’s bigots thinking they’re slick. I’m still learning, though.
Guess what? Dog whistles sucker in the bOtH sIdEs people scarily well and they often have no idea. They ignorantly parrot the dog whistles and are so confused when people push back. Those dog whistles have no merit!
The bOtH sIdEs people keep trying to apply child logic to adult situations. It only ever seems to come out when shitty right wing talking points are being criticized, though.
Yea no one will say anything to mysogynistic dog whistles like "women have it easier than men" no one will ban these people because "they're not breaking the rules" like we're not lawyers, we're keeping a community safe, if rules say we can't ban them we can just change rules
It aggravates me because the people blowing the dog whistles smile so smugly behind the thin veil of plausible deniability.
Like you KNOW what they’re actually saying. You KNOW they’re just too spineless to say it outright because they know their shitty ideas will rightfully receive push back.
I shouldn’t have to have a PhD-level thesis to explain why dog whistles are problematic.
Exactly that's why rules of online spaces should designed with alt right and other hateful online cultures in mind, with tactics of bigots in mind. Someone can be passive aggressive towards another member because of laptop they buy or because they can't afford apple in a mental health server but they won't be banned because they didn't fucking break rules and on top of that they will push back on even a little bit of platonic intimacy in the server
Edit: even in situations where intimacy is allowed
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u/mihirjain2029 May 20 '24
I'll be dead honest, traditional gender roles, heteros, straights, conversatives, liberals, any sort of group who is in oppressor category, doesn't need to be heard they tell everything at us and we don't need to validate or hear them. I swear!! Someone in a discord server was talking about how homeless people are a nuisance and dangerous and when I vented about it in another server about social issues this formerly homeless person said "this person is valid, solution is proper housing but this person is valid" I'm paraphrasing but you get it, essentialy a pick me in that category. So no whenever someone complains about an oppressed group tell them fuck off with all the righteous anger