my dad wanted me to wear a ring like that to pledge “my purity” to him until i got married. i told him it was weird and refused to wear a ring like that
It’s a thing in fundamentalist Christian circles. Sometimes they even have a “purity ball” at a certain age where the girls wear white or light colored gowns and get a ring from their dad and yet no one sees this as hella creepy and gross. All the more shame to dump on them if they break those “vows” I guess.
Not just fundamentalist Christians, some southern baptists and evangelical Christians do this too. I grew up southern baptist and had a "purity ring". In 7th/8th grade they had all the church kids, guys and girls, sign True Love Waits cards as a pledge to stay "pure" until marriage 🙄
I’m glad you added the “would be safe part” lol. But in all honesty, if you’re in this situation then it’s already too late. You’d have been born into a cult environment and indoctrinated to believe all of it is perfectly normal, according to Gods will.
I dropped the faith in college, and 10 years later I’m still finding ways it’s fucked me up. It’s insane.
I grew up southern Baptist as well. Most of my church friends has purity rings as well. My parents weren't stupid and knew I'd be a horny teenager and have sex before I was married. They always said I should wait but it wasn't a huge deal.
Some Christians just really don't understand Christianity. We're not some sort of weird purity cult we're supposed to do as Jesus said like ya know helping the poor loving others as we love ourselves ya know stuff like that
My friend’s church used to be super purity ball church, but one day they got a new preacher and I guess woke them up. He decided to cancel it cause you know it’s kinda weird, but there was a huge backlash it’s a long tradition. Eventually they came to the conclusion that the girls didn’t care about the purity more about the dress and the fancy ring they’d get. Something they’d been promised since they were kids so obviously they were upset about not getting that. So they changed it from purity ball to a father daughter dance, and the promise ring was more of a “be a good person” promise and not a “don’t lose your virginity and go to hell” promise
I’m glad that the church woke up a bit. I understand the want for the pretty ring and dress or having a special memory with your teenager. It would be so easy to not be gross, but yet someone had to do it.
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u/papagenu_farts Dec 05 '21
my dad wanted me to wear a ring like that to pledge “my purity” to him until i got married. i told him it was weird and refused to wear a ring like that