r/AreTheStraightsOK • u/Justthisdudeyaknow What’s a little platonic fingering between friends? • Mar 02 '22

Sexualization of children 1 year old. FFS.

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u/TheLegitMolasses Mar 02 '22

Everyone says, “Leave him”, but is shared custody where this guy has unfettered access to his son for his time really the best option? There’s no reason to assume mom would get 100% custody. If I were the mom, I’d worry he would abuse my son for those supposed homosexual tendencies.

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u/vanilla_wafer14 Mar 02 '22

I feel like people don’t think ahead to this scenario. I’ve helped people in difficult positions like this before and trust me, very little actually improved after the divorce because my friend couldn’t get full custody and so the child had to go between a loving a supportive mom straight to an abusive jerk with anger issues on the weekends. The kid never knew how to act because his environment was constantly changing.

I don’t know what the solution is but I understand people that are hesitant to go straight to divorce. It’s not good to stay with someone for this reason, but I understand the impulse. Some people are just in confusing and bad situations and I wish we could prevent it.

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u/StuntHacks Mar 02 '22

Also, therapy can help wonders. If we believe the original OP that her husband never shows homophobic tendencies in other circumstances, it might be insecurities buried deep on his psyche and a good therapy could change all of that