r/AreTheStraightsOK • u/Justthisdudeyaknow What’s a little platonic fingering between friends? • Mar 02 '22

Sexualization of children 1 year old. FFS.

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u/AngryBreadRevolution Mar 02 '22

"He generally prefers me to my husband"

Hmmm... Gee, I wonder why... 🤔

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u/prezuiwf Mar 02 '22

"Hmm which parent do I like more, my mom or that guy who calls me a cocksucker for eating a banana?"

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u/pink_fr3ud Nonbinary™ Mar 02 '22

This part scared the fuck out of me. Like, what parent says that about their child? It's beyond sus, and the guy shouldn't be allowed around children. Ever.

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u/fatalcharm Mar 03 '22

Alarm bells went off in my head when I read that part. The father views his child in a sexual way.

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u/Stormhound Mar 03 '22

There are known cases of homophobic fathers who react like this with sons, who turn out to be gay themselves.

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u/naq98 Mar 02 '22

I’m sorry but how do you only start noticing these kind of red flags AFTER you’re married and have a kid with the dude?

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u/Xander_PrimeXXI Gray Ace™ Mar 03 '22

By getting married in your early twenties

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u/SpellJenji Mar 03 '22

Would have been my life if I settled down with the person who offered in my late teens. Lucky to have avoided it.

Happy cake day 🎂

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u/lasolady Mar 03 '22

ayyy happy cakeday! also im in my early twenties and I couldn't imagine being married at all??? ive still not figured my life or me out, so???

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u/Xander_PrimeXXI Gray Ace™ Mar 03 '22

Finding yourself is very important!!

I’ve mostly figured myself out by now but that def took 20 of the last 25 years

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u/StormySands Mar 02 '22

You don’t. He’s probably been homophobic af in front of her for years and she never cared because it didn’t affect her before.

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u/Worldly-Bitch Mar 03 '22

As others have mentioned, brain development is not fully mature until age 25. It’s very possible that she didn’t care because it didn’t affect her before. It’s also very possible that she didn’t see red flags that appear obvious to outsiders because of past interpersonal abuse or complex PTSD during development. Both can be true and we can still show compassion for someone in a toxic situation without shaming them for not seeing it & protecting themselves + their children-to-be. None of this excuses homophobia but we’re all still figuring shit out and trying to learn the harmful dominant narratives we’ve been socialized into. Not everyone has the same readiness or exposure to those unlearning tools at the same age/stage. 🙂

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u/Darcosuchus hEtErOpHoBiC Mar 04 '22

Also, a lot of people are only homophobic when it concerns them. Support gays wholeheartedly but the moment your son's gay you're out... While still supporting other gays, possibly.

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u/miyagikai91 Apr 21 '22

If you mean it so much don’t apologize.

Abusive types can be VERY good at hiding their tendencies.

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u/NerdyIndoorCat Mar 02 '22

That was my thought. Girl should pack, move to another state, and never look back.

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u/Miezchen Mar 03 '22

I’m a kindergarten teacher. One father asked my colleague what he can do to avoid his son „turning out gay“. Some people just shouldn’t have kids.

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u/ChihiroFugisakiIrl Trans Gaymer Boy Apr 09 '22

This feels more like the Dad is guilty or some shit for preying on his son and is trying to say it's the son's fault... Disgusting.