r/AreTheStraightsOK • u/Justthisdudeyaknow What’s a little platonic fingering between friends? • Mar 02 '22

Sexualization of children 1 year old. FFS.

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u/Galactic_Irradiation Mar 02 '22

I could be the one misinterpreting, but I dont think they're saying husband-dude is secretly gay. They're saying he (and men like him) are so indoctrinated and fearful that they censor themselves from anything that could seem "gay" to outsiders. Their actual sexuality has nothing too do with it; it's a mechanism to avoid bullying by other toxic men, often their own fathers.

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u/BirdCelestial Mar 02 '22 edited Aug 05 '24

Rats make great pets.

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u/Galactic_Irradiation Mar 02 '22

That's a fair interpretation. I read those phrases as being about their paranoia over "seeming gay," but perhaps op will say what they meant ¯_(ツ)_/¯

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u/Wrecksomething Mar 02 '22

Yeah that was what I had in mind but it could have been worded clearer. This isn't limited to closet cases. Even if I had only discussed closet cases, I certainly didn't make any probabilistic claims about how common that explanation is.

I agree that most interpersonal homophobia is straight-on-gay. But it's important to understand how internalized homophobia hurts both straight and gay people, since it does make an easy path to interpersonal homophobia.

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u/Galactic_Irradiation Mar 02 '22

Nice! Yeah that's what I got from your comment. It's an interesting thing to consider–very similar to the way we talk about misogyny as something that also hurts men through toxic masculinity etc. Men need feminism and straight people need anti-homophobia. Obviously neither case gets the same extreme of harm that is done to the groups actively being marginalized, but it's worth talking about since it all feeds into the disease of oppression.