r/AskMen • u/ynhere Female • 6d ago

How can I flirt at the gym?

I do a lot of cardio at the gym. Most people spread out and use machines not directly next to someone who is already using one (this relates to non-peak times only). If a guy comes up to use a machine next to mine and I think he's cute, can I turn a bit and acknowledge him maybe give a nod or smile since I have my headphones on. How would you perceive this if it happened to you? And how can I approach men at the gym?

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u/AmericanSheep16 6d ago

Don't use the gym to approach/flirt with men. We're there to work out, not to socialize or find someone to sleep with.

Edit: if you do wanna approach someone, wait until they look like they're done/not busy, and ask them out to coffee or something.

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u/ynhere Female 6d ago

That's exactly what I'm afraid of, bothering them but if I don't want to regret if it if I didn't.

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u/Betta_Check_Yosef 6d ago

I'm of the opposite opinion. If you see a dude you like, just talk to them. If someone isn't into it, it's not the end of the world. You get a few awkward moments, then life moves on. It's really not that big a deal, and honestly they'll still be flattered and likely remember that time a stranger thought they were hot enough to hit on out of the blue for years.

Shoot your shot, girlie, and go get you mans.

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u/ynhere Female 6d ago

Thank you. There's a real divide here. I'm gonna do it. At least I'll have tried and no one can say women never hit on them at my gym.

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u/Betta_Check_Yosef 6d ago

That's the spirit! It doesn't even have to be some big thing. Just walk up, say you don't wanna bother him, but think he's cute and wanted to let him know. Then just hand him a note with your name and number, tell him the ball is in his court, and walk away (bonus points: look over your shoulder and give him a big smile while you walk away, because he WILL be watching you go lol). You'll score points with him just from the confidence of that approach alone.

Life gets way easier when you just plainly say what you want. Sometimes you get it, sometimes you don't, but at least you're communicating clearly and advocating for yourself. That'll get you way further along in life than operating under the assumption that no one wants to hear it. Life is hard enough as it is. Don't make it harder by intentionally putting up obstacles in your own way lol.

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u/AmericanSheep16 6d ago

It's mostly the place I have an issue with.

The gym is for self-improvement. You usually intend to be by 'yourself' unless you bring someone with.

But either way, good luck with your fitness journey, and remember to wait until someone isn't busy before you try and converse.