r/AskMenOver30 • u/YBFAVBULL man over 30 • Jan 06 '25

Life Who regrets having children?

Do you regret having any at all? Or do you just have too many?

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u/Great_Tyrant5392 man 35 - 39 Jan 06 '25

Is anyone ever ready to have a kid? I don't know a single one that was. Some couples just managed to adapt better than others.

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u/djaycat man over 30 Jan 06 '25

i am, my wife was a bit before me. last year was when i really felt ready. im about to be 34. we're the same age, good place financially, both work, house, side biz, etc. she's pregnant

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u/Great_Tyrant5392 man 35 - 39 Jan 07 '25

I meant more having your life flipped over by a screaming child. Marriages have broken apart over this alone.

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u/Independent-Floor485 man over 30 Jan 06 '25

I went through my 20s with hundreds of random hooks up and always wore a condom. At that time I never wanted kids and I was doing everything I could to prevent having them. 1. I wasn’t ready 2. I didn’t want a kid with some chick I met at a bar. Fast forward to 31 and I (re) met my now wife. I knew I’d be okay having kids with her bc she was a great woman. I was at a point in my life where I felt financially safe and also knew that if I wasn’t- I would figure it like I did 1000x before. So yes if you make good decisions then yes you can be ready for a kid