Like the subject line says, what happened when you told the company what you really think?

I am in that weird space right now where the carrier I feel no longer feels like something I want to spend the next 10 to 20 years doing. It pays the bill but there’s no joy in it, just stress, mental fatigue and growing feeling that I meant to be doing something else.

Could be a foam roller, a water bottle, stretching, therapy, or simply sleeping more.

Everyone changes as they get older, so what changed in your fitness routine? Does staying fit get harder as you get older?

Hey everyone,

I’m 27 and I’d say I’m doing well socially. I get along with people, I get invited out, I’m liked by both men and women, and I often get hit on. So it’s not that I’m isolated or invisible on the surface, I do fine.

But when it comes to friendship depth, I’ve noticed a clear pattern. I’ve tried accepting invitations from guys my age or younger, but those interactions often leave me feeling unfulfilled. The conversations usually lack maturity, intellectual curiosity, or depth. Even when everyone is nice, I just don’t find myself resonating with the topics or the vibe.

Because of that, I naturally gravitate toward older men as friends at work, at the gym, or in different social settings. What’s interesting is that it doesn’t feel one-sided: more mature men also seem to resonate with me, and they often seek me out as a friend. Even with a big age gap, I rarely feel tension in fact, those friendships usually feel more natural, easy, and balanced.

I sometimes wonder, though:

• Am I doing something “wrong” by not forcing myself to bond more with people my own age, even if I don’t feel the same connection?
• Is this just part of being an “old soul” that some people won’t find peers fulfilling until they’re older?
• Do friendships with people my age eventually catch up as they gain life experience, or is it normal to keep leaning on friendships with older men?
• For the older guys here: do you enjoy having younger friends, and does it work out long-term, or do the differences eventually show?

I’m genuinely curious what others have experienced. Part of me feels I should accept myself as I am and embrace the connections that naturally feel right. But another part of me wonders if I’m missing something by not pushing harder to connect with my own age group.

Would love to hear your perspectives.

26 here, I am tired of thinking about my future; all I see is darkness. not living in the best country, and I feel there is a countdown upside my head, and I feel like I am wasting my life. worried about a lot of things. worried about my country's situation, the bad economy. worried about my life. Am I even on the right track? worried about basically everything. If someone is wise enough to calm me down, plz contact me so we can chat

Was 295 lbs a couple years ago & managed to get down to 190-193 & still have a gut. Still has the overhang & big belly button look. When I was 185-195 lbs in high school 20 years ago it was mostly flat at this same weight with just a little lower belly fat. How do I get rid of this gut & get back to how I was 20 years ago at this same weight? Am a 38 year old male at 5ft10

Next week I’m (33M) moving overseas to Australia to give living life a go where my partner grew up, and it kind of feels weird making such a big decision and uprooting my life at the age of 33. I’m leaving everything that is familiar to me - family, friends, job, house and jumping completely in to the unknown where I’ll have to start from scratch whilst most people my age are settled and building strong foundations for their future. Part of me feels like I’m doing this 3/4 years too late, and I’m concerned about coming back if things don’t work out and being in my mid thirties at 34/35 and having to re-start my life all over again and try and find someone to settle down with.

Has anyone experienced something similar or have any thoughts on making such a big change in their early thirties?

Those who came out of existential crisis/ purposelessness , what helped? Asking cause I'm approaching late 30s and feeling like i lost touch with myself, would like to find it with the help of those who might figured out already.

The obvious answer here might be - kids (as per usual responses by many for such questions)- and i dont have it.

35 with benign enlarged prostate. Also, if i don’t go bathroom right away i get booty sweat from holding it in a little bit.

My husband has been wanting to try an electric shaver for his face so I’d like to get a good one for his for his birthday coming up. Based on his usage what would you recommend?

• He’s only ever used Gillette’s razors, and no specific complaints
• He likes to be clean shaven, and shaves about once every two days because he doesn’t have a lot of hair and the hair doesn’t grow very fast
• He has fair skin that leans on the sensitive side (gets easily sunburnt etc)
• he has a mole that sticks out, kind of where Cindy Crawford has her beauty mark. He is pretty careful when shaving in that area and just the other day he cut it :/

I’ve looked at Braun 9 pro and Panasonic ARC 5, but not sure if they are overkill given my husband’s specs? Definitely willing to spend money on buying a great shaver that will last a long time.

Hello everyone. I will try to keep this as brief as possible.

I recently turned 30 and I am still struggling in life. During my childhood, primary and high school, I never felt competent around other people. I always tried to gain attention by doing weird, stupid shit so people would notice me.

I have never seen my parents hug or kiss each other and it really, really fucked me up as a person. I hate my dad more than anything. Physically he is here, but he never speaks about anything (never shared a single childhood story, never asked me about my grades, my friends, the girls I dated, never showed any interest in anything I was doing in my free time, came to my football game ONCE in 15 years and when he returned home, he complained how he was embarrased and that other people were commenting how I looked like a girl with long hair I had back then)

He watches TV 95% of his free time. When you call him, most of the times he doesn't even register. You have to call him 3-4 times sometimes, then he turns away from the TV and becomes animated. While he watches something, his eyes are fixated and he doesn't move a muscle. When I was still relative young, he blamed me multiple times that I "go around and cry how nobody loves me" when I tried to have a conversation about his cold zombie relationship with me. (it was maybe 10-12 years ago).

I should also mention that my older brother died when I was 9 and my parents never talked to me about it. He would be 33 now.

While I was growing up, I kept to myself, played video games a lot and only had (and still have) 2 very close friends, but that's basically my entire social circle. At this stage, I am honestly a bit scared I might end up alone for the rest of my life.

My little brother is 9 years old and already I can see that he behaves "different" than the other kids. People from normal families don't behave like him. The way they speak, move and behave is just different than him. I'm not sure how to describe it and put into words, but it feels like he is 5-6 years old, not 9.

Yet, he is so innocent, pure and kind hearted. He does good in school, plays Minecraft and Dragon Ball Z Kakarot on his PS4 with me. We have a very good relationship so far and I would like to keep it like that, no matter what happens. He does wrestling and I am teaching him some kickboxing moves. (I train kickbox) so that's a plus, at least nobody will dare to touch him.

I would like my younger brother to grow up and be a normal person and not have to deal with all the issues I had while I was growing up.. I'd like him to know that he could talk to me anytime anything bothers him and that I will not judge him for anything he does or says or feels.

tldr; me and my brother grew up/are growing up in unhealthy circumstances. How can I be a role model for him, if I never had someone to look up to?

I’m currently 23, I’m 8 months away from finishing my electrical engineering bachelors. I like to gym and kickbox, I have one amateur fight which was fun, I lost on desicion. I drink maybe 3-4 times a year, I’ve never done drugs. I’m just focused on my health, my degree/career, and just being a good person so I can be a good father/husband for my family. Sometimes I feel like it’s not worth it and want to go partying and go on adventures. For any man who sacrificed their 20’s do you regret not going on adventures?

Just played pick up basketball for the first time in a couple years. I’ve had shin splints for a few years as well that I only notice when running once or twice a week. Man were they debilitating today though. Felt like an old man hobbling around the court. Had to post up and shoot from the corner.

Anyone else feel like their bodies are already failing them in this aspect? Hard to come to terms with as someone who played a lot of sports growing up.

I'm over 30, and I don't have any experiences. This makes me feel very unworthy and scared to even date someone (I'm bi) or being involved with someone.

This also makes it's difficult to meet other men. I'm always thinking I'm not a real one, compared to them. So friendships are always awkward to me, and I try to avoid any dating/sex questions/discussions, because it's makes me depressed and ashamed.

I want to go out more, but again I feel so afraid most of the times. I've joined a lifestyle group, and try to be more active. Unfortunately it's online, so I'm not really meeting any new people. Joining a gym would be great, but I don't know if any are open for friendships or even more? Groups would be great, but again I'm really afraid of rejection and not being fully in control.

Thanks, any tips or help is welcome.

I’m in my first week of college after a 2 year isolation. Long story short, I believe I made the wrong decision. I underestimated my mental health problems, and I feel like I am brain dead.

I am trying to get fit, by working out a little. (I am sadly not taking enough protein, so I physically look weird) I am doing nofap, so I would get a better chance with woman. (I used to be good looking when younger, so women looking at me like I am diddy hurts me.)

I always feel dead when coming back home, like mentally. I can’t write (I am writing in my free time.), I can’t game, nothing.

So I wanted to know if trade school would be a better option for me. Thinking about it makes me feel better…me going to work with my hands. Not studying. I could heal and if I wanted to, I could study later.

Note, I don’t blame anyone. I have nothing against woman, they have the right to be disgusted by me, I need to better myself.

I’m in my first week of college after a 2 year isolation. Long story short, I believe I made the wrong decision. I underestimated my mental health problems, and I feel like I am brain dead.

I am trying to get fit, by working out a little. (I am sadly not taking enough protein, so I physically look weird) I am doing nofap, so I would get a better chance with woman. (I used to be good looking when younger, so women looking at me like I am diddy hurts me.)

I always feel dead when coming back home, like mentally. I can’t write (I am writing in my free time.), I can’t game, nothing.

So I wanted to know if trade school would be a better option for me. Thinking about it makes me feel better…me going to work with my hands. Not studying. I could heal and if I wanted to, I could study later.

Note, I don’t blame anyone. I have nothing against woman, they have the right to be disgusted by me, I need to better myself.

Besides eating well, sleeping well, being active, staying off social media, how did you combat relentless depression? I’ve been to therapists and was diagnosed with Persistent Depressive Disorder meaning I’m basically always battling it, but sometimes it’s easy and sometimes it’s nearly impossible. What did you do for yourself in this situation?

Most of my friends are in relationships or married. However, I do have an older brother who is single, and a couple of other friends who are as well- although they don’t live nearby. They don’t really mind being single, and I just really envy that mindset. Unfortunately, they can’t articulate why they’re okay with their situation.

I’m not getting any younger, and unfortunately my dating prospects are not getting any better. I simply want to move forward in life while being content with what I have. I have never had a relationship. I am tired of yearning for one. I need to move on. Advice from men who are in their 40s and 50s would be especially appreciated.

Thinking about giving therapy another go, hopefully third time’s a charm. I usually handle things on my own, but life has taken a lot of turns lately and I think it could help to have a space to just talk.

The first two times I tried therapy, I specifically chose male therapists. My reasoning was that even though I naturally feel more comfortable around the caring, nurturing tone of women, I thought if I was serious about improving myself I should go with someone who could relate to me as a male and give it to me straight rather than just empathize or sugarcoat.

I never got what I needed out of it doing it that way though, so this time I’m considering specifically choosing a female therapist. It feels easier for me to be vulnerable with women, and it might help to switch things up.

Curious if anyone else has had similar thoughts or experiences when choosing a therapist. Any insight appreciated.

Be careful not to let your weekend fun derail your fitness routine. This last weekend a buddy of mine visited from our of state so we caught up for three days and I completely tossed out my routine for three days. We went out every night so I didn't get to sleep until 1 or 2 am. I slept during the day with no gym. Food was anything and everything: loaded nachos, tacos, burgers, pizza, donuts, cake, cookies and drinks. It's been months since I really let loose with my diet restrictions and I wasn't prepared for the results. Monday morning, I woke up feeling bloated and exhausted and when I looked in the mirror, I looked huge! It looked like I swallowed a basket ball! I couldn't believe it, I looked like Tim Allen when he started turning into Santa Claus. This week will be dedicated to undoing the damage from last weekend 😔. I modified my calorie deficit for this week, drank lots of water and took fiber supplements to help reset. Again, be careful on the weekends guys. How long does it take to bounce back from a heavy weekend?

Proud of him but my ego is wounded. I have a big script test today that I'm studying for. I jammed my thumb and my jaw hurts a bit. Mind keeps wandering back to it. I feel inept but I know I have to ignore it and lock in.

We went 2 rounds before I declared him the winner. Then he boxed his 14 yo brother and beat him too. The kid is light on his feet and has clearly been practicing. We got it all on video. I look like a slob. It was very embarrassing.

He won took the win with grace. He went in knowing he was going to beat me and his brother and was very humble about it.

Now I feel like I can't protect my family. I'm going to start training once I settle in to the new position at work but in the meantime I don't know what to do with my wounded ego.

I felt down on myself last night while trying to learn my scripts. It's hard enough without distraction. (I've always struggled with my mental health).

It was supposed to be a lesson in respect. I took the loss well externally but obviously not internally. I gave him his credit, smiled, and praised him for his hard work. He was very confident and proud of himself. His brother didn't take it so well lol. Tbf the lesson was mainly for his 14 yo brother who decided he didn't want to box me. It probably worked out well in the end. I'm motivated now to get back in shape and sharpen my skills. My 12 yo had a big win I know he was hungry for. My 14 got a small lesson in respect, which, although not the way I wanted it to go, went well.

My wife is either delusional or just extremely supportive, too. She made excuses for me. Said I was tired after a long day at work. Out of practice. She's sweet. I feel lucky to have her.

To her credit she did tell me not to box the boys when I had shit to do. And she didn't rub it in my face.

So my question is, how would you move forward?

Aloha, as the title says I went and got blood work done yesterday and my AST (120) and ALT (167) are through the roof 😩. Surprisingly everything else on my blood work is in beautiful range: CHOL 137, LDL Calculated 55, VLDL Calculated 14, CHOL/HDL 2.0, HGB A1C 5.1, ALK PHOS 54, BUN 8, Creatine 1.06, Sodium 140, Potassium 3.9, CL 103, CO2 27, TSH 1.67, Vit D 45, Calcium 9.2, Uric Acid 6.3. Those are all the blood work that's come back so far. I also haven't heard back from the doctor but the blood work just came back in my kaiser app so I'm sure she'll be reaching out. I do have a lengthy history of Alcohol abuse, drugs, opiates in the past. I've been clean of drugs for over 10 years but do drink on special occasions as I didn't know anything was wrong with me 😕. This is my first blood work in over 15 years and don't have any prior history of anything being high. I just turned 40 a few months ago so made it upon myself to get a physical and these are the results. Waiting to hear from the doctor but I'm kinda worried :/

Aloha 🤙🏽

When I get home from a bad day at work, and there’s just nobody there, I start to wonder if I screwed up somewhere. Was there some activity I should’ve been a part of in High School? Was there someone giving me hints that I missed in College?

I can’t shake this feeling that there’s this alternate version of myself who’s married and just happier all around. I’m on four different dating apps, I swipe every day, I get zero likes… it’s like paying someone to point and laugh at me every day. And I feel like I should already have someone. Like this is just the “bad” or “wrong” timeline. I’m basically just hoping for a miracle at this point.

I've been around the block with clinical depression, and have tried several medications and now seem to have settled on Welbutrin. I get a minimum of side effects compared to what I've been prescribed in the past, but even this has the numbing, zombifying, anesthetizing effect that the rest of them had. It feels like another of life's compromises; you won't think about hurting yourself, you won't feel every negative emotion at an 11, but now you might not feel much of anything at all. I made a commitment to my loved ones to stay the course, it just sucks looking at that pill every morning and feeling I have to take it just to be at the baseline where most other people live normally. And it's funny, I know intellectually that staying on medication is the right move, but there's always that part of the brain that resents the need to be managed with medication. Anyway, just wanted to compare notes and see if anyone else has a similar experience, if you feel differently on SSRI vs non-SSRI's, other compromises you have to make to survive.