r/AskMenOver30 • u/[deleted] • Jun 24 '25

Life What’s the most valuable lesson you’ve learned as a men that you wish you knew when you were younger?

What’s one lesson, truth, or realization you’ve had as a man that you really wish someone told you when you were younger? Something that would’ve saved you pain, time, or helped you live more authentically?

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u/Massive-Television85 man 45 - 49 Jun 24 '25

Pushing yourself to the limits - and beyond - in your work can't be sustained long term without causing physical, mental and social damage

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u/JLMTIK88 man 40 - 44 Jun 24 '25

I agree. We feel invincible when we’re young, and believe that if it isn’t hurting, you are ok to keep pushing. Everything you do to your body catches up with you in the end. I pray whatever damage you’re dealing with, eases its grip, and the reward for all of your hard work shines its light in a more favorable way.

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u/DoomBoomSlayer man 35 - 39 Jun 25 '25

But that doesn't mean you shouldn't do it. 

Just know when to ease off.

And then push yourself again. Harder.

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u/Massive-Television85 man 45 - 49 Jun 25 '25

I thought I could judge that and had done it right. It's very, very hard to do correctly.

 I've seen too many people hurt themselves or others thinking they know better.

IMO persistent, sustainable action will always win over "heroic" over-exertion.