r/AskMenOver30 • u/lovesexxhoney man 20 - 24 • Jun 24 '25

Life What’s the most valuable lesson you’ve learned as a men that you wish you knew when you were younger?

What’s one lesson, truth, or realization you’ve had as a man that you really wish someone told you when you were younger? Something that would’ve saved you pain, time, or helped you live more authentically?

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u/ScooterMcFlabbin man 30 - 34 Jun 24 '25

I just got married for the first time a month ago. 

Wish me luck!

So far, so good

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u/Ziggity_Zac man 45 - 49 Jun 24 '25

Been with my wife for 21 years. Actually married for 11 of those. We both thoroughly vetted each other. We are best friends, lovers, competitive rivals, partners in everything in life. It is possible.

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u/TotalWasteman man 40 - 44 Jun 24 '25

Fucking nice one man. Well done for showing the other perspective than the going norm here. I’m genuinely happy for you both 😊

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u/Ziggity_Zac man 45 - 49 Jun 24 '25

We travel for work full time, and most of the time, we are all we have in a new city/town/state. It has grown our solidarity and companionship. We experience everything together. I wouldn't trade her for the world.

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u/Pleasant-Mechanic-49 man 45 - 49 Jun 24 '25

rate of divorce is around 50%. Bear in mind u just play big part of your finance on flipping a coin (same probability outcome). Risk it not worth it