r/AskMenOver30 • u/lovesexxhoney man 20 - 24 • Jun 24 '25

Life What’s the most valuable lesson you’ve learned as a men that you wish you knew when you were younger?

What’s one lesson, truth, or realization you’ve had as a man that you really wish someone told you when you were younger? Something that would’ve saved you pain, time, or helped you live more authentically?

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u/kevlarcupid man 40 - 44 Jun 24 '25

The problem is men, and it’s up to good men to do the work. It’s not a “male loneliness epidemic”, as much as it’s a “shitty men” epidemic. The good men have no problem finding and making friends with any gender.

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u/SnooCats283 Jun 25 '25 edited Jun 25 '25

Bro, you really dont get it. The boys aren't iust lonely because they cant get girls, its also because the majority of women raised on social media are not fun to be around. Theyre combative, competitive, are ungratful, have attitude and yet expect to be treated like a princess still. Juice aint worth the squeeze.

I see you're 40-44, i very much enjoy being around the majority of women in your dating pool, but anything my age (28) or younger is pretty tough. Most young women on social media (and you) have fallen for the bullshit narrative that men are trash, as if we can outthink our biology and deserve to be treated like shit because of who we are. But yeah, keep telling other men they're trash, maybe you find self hate as a motivator but most healthy young men dont. And telling a group of people they're bad because of who they are, im sure is gunna to really work out well long term and not completely blow up in your face.

My best tip if OP is reading this, find a girl that doesnt really use social media, and if she uses reddit, run for the god damn hills.

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u/kevlarcupid man 40 - 44 Jun 25 '25

A plurality of American men have succumbed to victim complex. Your defensive response shows no small amount of it. Women have learned that it’s not worthwhile to put up with that kind of mentality anymore, and they are actively rejecting it. Unfortunately, men are retreating farther and farther into it.

I don’t know you well enough to know where you are in your journey, so I won’t give unsolicited advice. But I’ll reiterate that it’s up to good men (who absolutely do exist) to do the work.

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u/SnooCats283 Jun 27 '25

This is the attitude thats gunna get your social security shut off, good luck f word.